Seeing Lucky Bastar*s around me...Envy, Jelousy and Sadness

[vipergts]

Hey Fellow male pattern baldness Victims,

So this morning after shedding 100s of hair after my morning shower and minoxidil application I left for work with a very depressed frame of mind. I work on a relatively small consulting team comprising of about around 20 guys (ages 24-45). Call it coincedence but EVERY single guy on my team has Brad Pitt like hair density and thickness. I am pretty much the only diffuser out here. Even my boss who is in his 40's has perfect hair, albeit grey (but who cares about that!)

I love all the guys - they are good, hardworking people. But I can't help but feel envious of how lucky they are. I know I have most of them beat in other departments such as physique, education and salary but I can't help but feel jealous. It doesn't help that some of these guys are dating smokin hot women.

Each time I witness someone casually running their fingers through their perfectly dense NW0 locks, I feel so let down by my genetics! Forget pulling, I can't even touch my Dry, minoxidil and nizoral Damaged, lifeless hair. It's like spending 9 hours daily in a shampoo commercial...my worst nightmare.

My confidence is at an all time low. I never thought I would be this weak. After all it's hairloss. But reality seems to be so much different. I keep on asking myself how I will face the REAL big battles in my life if I can let something as trivial as hair loss bother me. I have tried reaching out for the blade a few times so I could just shave it off and set myself free, but I am afraid I will be laughing stock of the whole team the very next week.

Do you guys feel this kind of pressure, especially at work?

Viper

 

[Itsonlyinmyhead]

Dont worry, this is perfectly normal, just dont let yourself become depressed and angry at the world.
Just buzz your hair is all I can say

 

[s.a.f]

Its only natural to feel this way. its frustrating that something is happening to you that is beyond your control and it seems unfair that the majority of guys dont have to deal with this. Of course as a young man your appearance is important to you and there's not many worse conditions than m.p.b for you to inherit.
Just keep up the treatments and try not to obbsess on it.

 

[Guest]

My feelings exactly. Well put, vipergts. I gotta buzz it soon, the hair is just too damn lifeless and thin but I'm scared... most of my friends have already seen me buzzed but not all, and I'm sh*t scared since I know I'll face those friends very soon (playing soccer in the summer). I f*****g hate my life atm, and I hate my parents for giving me this sh*t to deal with and not offering me any kind of support. I know I'm weak and out of line when I say that, but it's how I feel. It also feels that my crown is getting worse with the minoxidil. f*****g great... hopefully it will come back thicker but I have my doubts.

 

[blondeguy]

Re: Seeing Lucky Bastar*s around me...Envy, Jelousy and Sadn

I love all the guys - they are good, hardworking people. But I can't help but feel envious of how lucky they are. I know I have most of them beat in other departments such as physique, education and salary but I can't help but feel jealous. It doesn't help that some of these guys are dating smokin hot women.

Not only do you have them beat in the areas you mentioned, but you have the opportunity to stand out from the group and their monotonous haircuts if you buzz or shave your head. I'm not trying to advocate here; just offering friendly advice to ease your mind and build your confidence so that you're not worrying what your hair looks like. Trust me that your hair or lack of it shouldn't be holding you down, because that's not what makes you attractive as a person. Just roll with it and be the best person you can be.

 

[Guest]

Re: Seeing Lucky Bastar*s around me...Envy, Jelousy and Sadn

I love all the guys - they are good, hardworking people. But I can't help but feel envious of how lucky they are. I know I have most of them beat in other departments such as physique, education and salary but I can't help but feel jealous. It doesn't help that some of these guys are dating smokin hot women.

Not only do you have them beat in the areas you mentioned, but you have the opportunity to stand out from the group and their monotonous haircuts if you buzz or shave your head. I'm not trying to advocate here; just offering friendly advice to ease your mind and build your confidence so that you're not worrying what your hair looks like. Trust me that your hair or lack of it shouldn't be holding you down, because that's not what makes you attractive as a person. Just roll with it and be the best person you can be.

That's a good and easy solution, I admit it. If you got the head and the face for buzz cut/shave! I personally hate my long, narrow, pointy head so it's a lose-lose situation with the thinning hair. The thinning looks awful but it still hides my horrible head shape a bit. I've tried buzzing and it only got me from being obsessed about my hair to being obsessed about my horrible head shape. That wasn't much better a situation.

 

[mikemass]

Hey viper and GrowhairGrow,

I totally understand the feelings you've expressed. I often feel envious of guys with much better hair, or who are better looking in general. Some people on these boards will advise you to just suck it up and not cave in to those feelings. That stoic approach works for some, but I personally think it just adds another layer of pressure (i.e. "I'm losing my hair and I can't even get over such a little thing, I must be shallow, weak-willed, etc.") There's no magic wand for self-confidence. But just realize that all those other guys with perfect hair have insecurities of their own, whether it's around money, women, physique, job performance or whatever.

And for the record, if those are actual pictures of you in your avatars, I don't think either of you have much to worry about in the attractiveness department. You might be tempted to dismiss that observation since it comes from a gay guy (and I don't mean to creep you out either). But just remember that gay guys can be just as, if not more, picky than women about how other guys look.

Hang in there and try not to let the hair stuff get you too down.

Mike

 

[spinner2]

Re: Seeing Lucky Bastar*s around me...Envy, Jelousy and Sadn

That's a good and easy solution, I admit it. If you got the head and the face for buzz cut/shave! I personally hate my long, narrow, pointy head so it's a lose-lose situation with the thinning hair. The thinning looks awful but it still hides my horrible head shape a bit. I've tried buzzing and it only got me from being obsessed about my hair to being obsessed about my horrible head shape. That wasn't much better a situation.

You have pretty much the best head shape for a buzz that you could possibly have, based on your picture. You just need to relax.

 

[Guest]

viper, exactly my feelings.......

when I am at Uni and see all this perfect heads of hair I feel like sh*t as well. I am feeling so inferior to these guys, it is insane.

At least you can compensate your loss by being good at other departmens. I can´t do this since I have no friends, no girlfriend (virgin ), bad physique,.........

My hair used to be my pride a few years ago. Hair dressers were always telling me that it was so thick and such. I thought that my hair was finally something I could be proud of and wtere I was better off than others. I was wrong......

 

[Guest]

My hair used to be my pride a few years ago. Hair dressers were always telling me that it was so thick and such. I thought that my hair was finally something I could be proud of and wtere I was better off than others. I was wrong......

this is not healthy. worrying about being better off than others. life is not a pure competition. you're not beter than other guysn if you have a thick head of hair and they're not better than you.

 

[Guest]

My hair used to be my pride a few years ago. Hair dressers were always telling me that it was so thick and such. I thought that my hair was finally something I could be proud of and wtere I was better off than others. I was wrong......

this is not healthy. worrying about being better off than others. life is not a pure competition. you're not beter than other guysn if you have a thick head of hair and they're not better than you.

Yeah, it's no competition for me. My hair has always been thin but I don't need "insanely thick" hair, I just need about 70% of my original hairs back and I'm happy. Come on, that's not too much to ask is it?

 

[lock]

tauge, how do you calculate the 2.3 and 2.8 norwod? you made the in betweens based on the shitty graphics, or some other nutjob did? in any case, do you have graphics for the 0.something steps?

 

[WorldofWarcraft]

Re: Seeing Lucky Bastar*s around me...Envy, Jelousy and Sadn

After all it's hairloss. But reality seems to be so much different. I keep on asking myself how I will face the REAL big battles in my life if I can let something as trivial as hair loss bother me.

Viper

hair loss isn't a REAL big battle? Are you kidding me? Is lossing an arm no big deal?

 

[roki]

viper, exactly my feelings.......

when I am at Uni and see all this perfect heads of hair I feel like $#iT as well. I am feeling so inferior to these guys, it is insane.

At least you can compensate your loss by being good at other departmens. I can´t do this since I have no friends, no girlfriend (virgin ), bad physique,.........

My hair used to be my pride a few years ago. Hair dressers were always telling me that it was so thick and such. I thought that my hair was finally something I could be proud of and wtere I was better off than others. I was wrong......

how bout you start walking around with tight pants to show off your dong?

 

[RaginDemon]

viper, exactly my feelings.......

when I am at Uni and see all this perfect heads of hair I feel like $#iT as well. I am feeling so inferior to these guys, it is insane.

At least you can compensate your loss by being good at other departmens. I can´t do this since I have no friends, no girlfriend (virgin ), bad physique,.........

My hair used to be my pride a few years ago. Hair dressers were always telling me that it was so thick and such. I thought that my hair was finally something I could be proud of and wtere I was better off than others. I was wrong......

how bout you start walking around with tight pants to show off your dong?

good suggestion indeed. :lol:

 

[vipergts]

Thanks for all the responses guys, I appreciate it. I am really glad that there is an actual forum where guys like us can discuss our male pattern baldness related problems. I honestly don't feel comfortable discussing all of this hairloss related nonsense with my family and friends, for one, most of them have really thick manes.

Later..

Viper

 

[HairRebirth]

viper, exactly my feelings.......

when I am at Uni and see all this perfect heads of hair I feel like $#iT as well. I am feeling so inferior to these guys, it is insane.

At least you can compensate your loss by being good at other departmens. I can´t do this since I have no friends, no girlfriend (virgin ), bad physique,.........

My hair used to be my pride a few years ago. Hair dressers were always telling me that it was so thick and such. I thought that my hair was finally something I could be proud of and wtere I was better off than others. I was wrong......

how bout you start walking around with tight pants to show off your dong?

good suggestion indeed. :lol:

I would suggest to build a musculine tanned body...everybody can do it..its just a matter of discipline in the gym and special diet..

 

[s.a.f]

Does'nt it suck that bald guys feel that they need to go to the effort of building a great body just to compete on an even feild with the hairy guys? :roll:

 

[Guest]

Does'nt it suck that bald guys feel that they need to go to the effort of building a great body just to compete on an even feild with the hairy guys? :roll:

and women can totally tell that thats why the bald guys are doing it. i happen to believe , from the women i've talked to, that women prefer a guy with a cut body, btw. it doesn't have to be super ripped, and it definitely should not be like a bodybuilder physique. most women are grossed out by that. sure there are some that like it, but they are the distinct minority. as long as you aren't overweight, and have some definition, i don't think any sane woman would say that your body isn't good enough

 

[phish]

its better to be bald and jacked then bald and skiny or fat just a thought.