throwaway592845
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Hello,
just to make things clear, being norwood 2ish with a good initial response to finasteride I am fully aware that I am probably not suffering nearly as hard those are are at further stages of hair loss at younger ages. It doesn't look bad yet, but I am certainly at a point where I need some regrowth to look "good". Anyhow, this does not take anything away from the anger about the way the people around me deal with me and the fact that I suffer because of my changing appearance.
First, my dermatologist. Now don't get me wrong, I cannot stress enough how much I love this guy, easily the best specialist I ever dealt with. He "cured" me from acne (although curable, I feel that acne is an even worse disease - maybe I am just not bald enough yet) with isotretinoine (accutane, by the way anyone who thinks that finasteride side effects are bad should take a good load of that stuff to get to know "serious" side effects) 2 years ago and I've been having no trouble with it whatsoever ever since. What does my head in though is that he knew from the first appointment that I was balding. Yes, I probably should have noticed this on my own, but I feel that he as a specialist who sees this since the dawn of time (young men ignoring the early stages of balding and then going crazy when it finally becomes obvious) he could have just dropped a small hint. And to make things worse he is really easy about prescribing finasteride. Back in the 90's he informed patients who stated that they were unhappy about their hair loss that an effective treatment is about to arrive soon and on the day proscar was launched in Germany he lined up patients in his office and wrote nearly 100 off-label prescriptions for anyone who had expressed interest. And that is how he does it to this day, nearly anyone who asks gets a prescription. Because as a good doctor he knows that there is nothing else that actually works.
Looking at the way finasteride works for me it is obvious that I could have saved so much more hair with ease. But even a (good) dermatologist ignores balding at first.
Same goes for my family (or my hair stylist, or my friends, or whoever I actually talk about it). I got a lot of flack for being very skinny when I was younger from my mother and my sister, now, after a couple of years of lifting I get **** on for carrying a little more fat on my body sometimes, but yet no-one never actually mentioned my hair loss. And now that it is late I get mocked for that as well. What the actual ****? Do they really believe that the truth (which comes out anyway when hair loss becomes obvious) is less bearable than the constant, more or less obvious mockery? And unlike myself, my sister said that she actually did notice my hair loss, she just "felt unable to communicate it properly".
What is it that makes this society so incredible dishonest about hair loss? I acknowledge that this is my life and my responsibility, but somehow any other physical "deviation" from the attractive norm (such as height, weight/stature or even other skin-related diseases such as acne) is communicated in an open and honest way. Yes, that will sometimes be hard to swallow for an individual, but it is miles better than this combination of ignorance/denial in the first place followed by the general aversion that every baldie experiences in the following stages of hair loss.
/end of rant.
just to make things clear, being norwood 2ish with a good initial response to finasteride I am fully aware that I am probably not suffering nearly as hard those are are at further stages of hair loss at younger ages. It doesn't look bad yet, but I am certainly at a point where I need some regrowth to look "good". Anyhow, this does not take anything away from the anger about the way the people around me deal with me and the fact that I suffer because of my changing appearance.
First, my dermatologist. Now don't get me wrong, I cannot stress enough how much I love this guy, easily the best specialist I ever dealt with. He "cured" me from acne (although curable, I feel that acne is an even worse disease - maybe I am just not bald enough yet) with isotretinoine (accutane, by the way anyone who thinks that finasteride side effects are bad should take a good load of that stuff to get to know "serious" side effects) 2 years ago and I've been having no trouble with it whatsoever ever since. What does my head in though is that he knew from the first appointment that I was balding. Yes, I probably should have noticed this on my own, but I feel that he as a specialist who sees this since the dawn of time (young men ignoring the early stages of balding and then going crazy when it finally becomes obvious) he could have just dropped a small hint. And to make things worse he is really easy about prescribing finasteride. Back in the 90's he informed patients who stated that they were unhappy about their hair loss that an effective treatment is about to arrive soon and on the day proscar was launched in Germany he lined up patients in his office and wrote nearly 100 off-label prescriptions for anyone who had expressed interest. And that is how he does it to this day, nearly anyone who asks gets a prescription. Because as a good doctor he knows that there is nothing else that actually works.
Looking at the way finasteride works for me it is obvious that I could have saved so much more hair with ease. But even a (good) dermatologist ignores balding at first.
Same goes for my family (or my hair stylist, or my friends, or whoever I actually talk about it). I got a lot of flack for being very skinny when I was younger from my mother and my sister, now, after a couple of years of lifting I get **** on for carrying a little more fat on my body sometimes, but yet no-one never actually mentioned my hair loss. And now that it is late I get mocked for that as well. What the actual ****? Do they really believe that the truth (which comes out anyway when hair loss becomes obvious) is less bearable than the constant, more or less obvious mockery? And unlike myself, my sister said that she actually did notice my hair loss, she just "felt unable to communicate it properly".
What is it that makes this society so incredible dishonest about hair loss? I acknowledge that this is my life and my responsibility, but somehow any other physical "deviation" from the attractive norm (such as height, weight/stature or even other skin-related diseases such as acne) is communicated in an open and honest way. Yes, that will sometimes be hard to swallow for an individual, but it is miles better than this combination of ignorance/denial in the first place followed by the general aversion that every baldie experiences in the following stages of hair loss.
/end of rant.