Question from the girlfriend

[Ellermarie]

Hello,

I am new to this site but so glad I found it!

I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years now and we are even moving in together in a couple weeks. I love him more than anything in this world and know he is the man I will spend the rest of my life with.
So my question is....How do I tell him that his hairstyle is not flattering him without hurting his feelings? He is almost entirely bald on top & crown of his head (except a little peach fuzz) He still has a significant amount of hair around the sides and the back. He has a small amount of very thin hair up front but grows it out long and pushes it back and secures it with hair gel. I think if he was to pull the hair forward it would reach his nose but the rest of his hair is buzzed to less than half an inch! He is only 32 years old and he is starting to go the route of a comb over (guess i should say comb back) and it is aging him terribley!

Like I said; I love this man more than anything. When we first met he was balding and I had absolutely no problem with it. I have told him in a very nice and lovingly way that I think he would look very handsome if he buzzed the whole thing. I love his adorable face and beautiful eyes so I KNOW he would look amazing but after his most recent trip to the barber, it just looked worse! The sides were buzzed but again, the hair upfront could practically be put in a ponytail.

I am not perfect by any means so I its hard for me to comment on this. I know he is SOOO sensitive about it. Any suggestions on how to bring this is up would be appreciated.

Thank you

 

[Guest]

So you just want him to buzzit??
Or was there something more?

 

[Ellermarie]

I think he should just buzz it. I know he would look great.

 

[Deaner]

Just tell him flat out. Sometimes the truth hurts, but somtimes you just need to hear it.

 

[Thinning]

Yes, it will hurt his feelings but you should tell him the truth. Then give him a blowjob so he feels better

 

[jeffsss]

Yes, it will hurt his feelings but you should tell him the truth. Then give him a blowjob so he feels better

lol

 

[hairwegoagain]

You'd probably let him know if he had toilet paper hanging out of his pants 24/7. This has the same degrading potential. Definitely tell him. It's likely that others are mocking him behind his back because of it...as is usually the case with all "coverup" attempts. It's only a matter of time before someone busts out and his ego takes a huge hit. I'm not sure what happens to some guys when they lose hair - they honestly believe they can hide it with a combover, powder, paint, or other crap...all they're generally doing is fooling themselves (unnecessarily) and setting up for eventual humiliation. He's a lucky guy to have a girlfriend who cares enough to let him know.

Hello,

I am new to this site but so glad I found it!

I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years now and we are even moving in together in a couple weeks. I love him more than anything in this world and know he is the man I will spend the rest of my life with.
So my question is....How do I tell him that his hairstyle is not flattering him without hurting his feelings? He is almost entirely bald on top & crown of his head (except a little peach fuzz) He still has a significant amount of hair around the sides and the back. He has a small amount of very thin hair up front but grows it out long and pushes it back and secures it with hair gel. I think if he was to pull the hair forward it would reach his nose but the rest of his hair is buzzed to less than half an inch! He is only 32 years old and he is starting to go the route of a comb over (guess i should say comb back) and it is aging him terribley!

Like I said; I love this man more than anything. When we first met he was balding and I had absolutely no problem with it. I have told him in a very nice and lovingly way that I think he would look very handsome if he buzzed the whole thing. I love his adorable face and beautiful eyes so I KNOW he would look amazing but after his most recent trip to the barber, it just looked worse! The sides were buzzed but again, the hair upfront could practically be put in a ponytail.

I am not perfect by any means so I its hard for me to comment on this. I know he is SOOO sensitive about it. Any suggestions on how to bring this is up would be appreciated.

Thank you

 

[Britannia]

Tell him exactly what you have told us. Im sure he will understand.

 

[theendoftheend]

Yes, print out your post and slip the sheet of paper in the sandwich you give to him for his lunch break at work. Should make good reading material.

 

[everysixseconds]

hey, has anyone ever considered that the person isnt intentionally doing a comb-over, he's just styling his hair as he's been doing for all his life, its just that he has less now.

HOWEVER, in this instance, by growing the lil bit of the front out sooo long, i assume he is trying to maximise coverage and that can be termed a combover!

anyway, so my suggestion wud be to say to him next time he goes for a haircut, "hey baby, i bet youd look gorgeous with a grade 1 buzz, it wud really bring out your beeeeutiful eyes!"

and after he comes home, that night show him some good lovin!

soon he'll realise it suits him. and defend him if like his friends take the piss. cos wat u think matters more to him than what they think.

hope it works out for you.

all the best

 

[techprof]

As some one who was using a combover, I can safely say that I look better without combover and a short buzz. I will repeat this and swear, people who don't know about hairloss, don't know nothing about combover. They can't spot it unless it is very bad.

There are two advantages of using combover
1. Pictures taken from the front for family photos (long shots) look better if you are smart in doing the combover

2. For using toppik/concealers having longhairs help. I can swear that if I use toppik with long hairs, I can look really good using the combover. I used to do this for parties and get-togethers.

In this world, short women can wear 6 inch heels, women can pad their bras.
That is normal and acceptable. Unfortunately men using combovers are treated as retards.

The sad part is that even people who are bald or balding don't accept combovers.

I am pretty sure your boyfriend knows that he is balding. Perhaps physcologically he thinks to himself that using the longerhairs he looks better himself. Or perhaps he wants those long hairs for using toppik or concealers.


Just my cents. I know people are going to hate me for this. I personally don't view someone using combover as a retard or a cheat. If high heels, padded bras are normal why not combover or people with longer hairs.

 

[socks]

How do you politely break the news to your bf about his comb-over? Well, how do you break it to your girl that her butt looks way too big in her favorite jeans? "Hey baby, you know what would make you look even more really sexy?! If you just lost a few sizes off your *** measurement!"


My point isnt to be sarcastic but rather to illustrate how there is never a painless way to break "the news" to someone about something they are insecure about.

My advice is to just be upfront and blunt. Men and women communicate differently and you cant "communicate" to your man like you would to one of your girl friends... With girls you can play that whole "indirect" game but with men it is usually better to just communicate on our level which is open and direct. Yeah he will probably be hurt in the short run but in the long-run he will probably thank you.


Good Luck The Girlfriend!