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    https://www.vox.com/conversations/2017/6/27/15873072/google-p*rn-addiction-america-everybody-lies

    Proof that Americans are lying about their sexual desires

    What Google searches for p*rn tell us about ourselves.
    Sean IllingJan 2, 2018, 9:37am EST
    672960106.0.jpg Photo by Sean Gallup/Getty Images
    Last year, I interviewed Seth Stephens-Davidowitz, author of Everybody Lies, a new book that uses data on America’s Google habits as an insight into our national consciousness.

    Two findings from the book dominated the conversation: America is riddled with racist and selfish people, and there may be a self-induced abortion crisis in this country.

    But there was plenty more revelatory data in the book that we didn’t cover. So I wanted to follow up with Stephens-Davidowitz to talk about some of the other provocative claims he is making.

    I was particularly interested in sexuality and online p*rn. If, as Stephens-Davidowitz puts it, “Google is a digital truth serum,” then what else does it tell us about our private thoughts and desires? What else are we hiding from our friends, neighbors, and colleagues?

    A lot, apparently.

    Among other things, Stephens-Davidowitz’s data suggests that there are more gay men in the closet than we think; that many men prefer overweight women to skinny women but are afraid to act on it; that married women are disproportionately worried their husband is gay; that a lot of straight women watch lesbian p*rn; and that p*rn featuring violence against women is more popular among women than men.

    I asked Stephens-Davidowitz to explain the data behind all of this. Here’s what he told me.

    Sean Illing
    Last time we spoke, I asked you about the most surprising or shocking finding in your research. We talked about racism and the possibility of a self-induced abortion crisis in America. Here I want to dive into something a little lighter: sexuality and online p*rn.

    What did you learn about this?

    Seth Stephens-Davidowitz
    p*rn is the biggest development in sexuality research ever. I don't understand how social scientists weren't begging Pornhub for their data. I was one of the only ones. I sent some of my results to some of the most famous sociologists and sex researchers in the world. Many of them had no interest.

    Sean Illing
    Why does p*rn data offer such unique insight?

    Seth Stephens-Davidowitz
    Well, to learn about sex, the main approach was to ask people. But people lie on sensitive topics such as sex.

    Sean Illing
    You combed through the data — what did it say about us?

    Seth Stephens-Davidowitz
    There’s a lot of variation in what people like. Probably 30 percent of people exclusively watch stuff that you would find disgusting.

    Sean Illing
    Why focus on sex? Were you initially interested in this, or did the data lead you to it?

    Seth Stephens-Davidowitz
    It’s a book about human nature. Sex is a big part of human nature. Some reviews of Everybody Lies have criticized me for being obsessed with sex. Everybody is obsessed with sex. If they say they're not, they're lying.

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    Sean Illing
    You point to some interesting data in the book about sexual orientation.

    Seth Stephens-Davidowitz
    It’s clear that a lot of gay men remain in the closet. In places where it's hard to be gay, such as Mississippi, far fewer men say that they are gay than in places where it's easy to be gay, such as New York. But gay p*rn searches are about the same everywhere.

    Sean Illing
    This doesn’t necessarily tell us how many people are gay in these areas, but it’s a revealing data point.

    Seth Stephens-Davidowitz
    I look at the data a whole bunch of ways and conclude about 5 percent of men are predominantly attracted to men.

    Sean Illing
    Can you really draw concrete conclusions from this sort of data? People search for things for all kinds of reasons, right?

    Seth Stephens-Davidowitz
    I think p*rn is a pretty good measure of people’s sexual fantasies, even if they never act on them.

    Sean Illing
    What’s your response to people who are skeptical of inferring anything from this stuff?

    Seth Stephens-Davidowitz
    I think watching a p*rn video is a lot more telling than answering a survey question. I agree you should be cautious in how you interpret it, though.

    Sean Illing
    Let’s talk about what married people are up to online.

    Seth Stephens-Davidowitz
    The number one question that women have about their husbands is whether he is gay. And these questions are much higher in the Deep South, where my research suggests there are indeed more gay men married to women.

    Sean Illing
    Do you think women are justified in their curiosity here? Is this a question they should be asking more often?

    Seth Stephens-Davidowitz
    I think women are too obsessed with their husbands' sexuality. Women are eight times more likely to ask Google if their husband is gay than if he is an alcoholic and 10 times more likely to ask Google if their husband is gay than if he is depressed. It is far more likely that a woman is married to a man who is secretly an alcoholic or secretly depressed than secretly gay. About 98 percent of women’s husbands are really straight. Trust me.

    Sean Illing
    What are husbands secretly worrying about?

    Seth Stephens-Davidowitz
    Whether their wives are crazy.

    Sean Illing
    What should husbands be asking Google? What would they ask if they knew what their wives were Googling?

    Seth Stephens-Davidowitz
    Whether their wives are more physically attracted to women than men.

    Sean Illing
    Tell me about America’s suppressed sexual desires.

    Seth Stephens-Davidowitz
    There are still sexual preferences that people hide today, even in socially liberal places. About one in 100 p*rn searches are for the elderly. Hundreds of thousands of young men are predominantly attracted to elderly women. But very few young men are in relationships with elderly women.

    Sean Illing
    I’m not sure what I think about that. Any theories?

    Seth Stephens-Davidowitz
    It’s interesting. Some sexual preferences I first learned about on The Jerry Springer Show, which featured really poor, uneducated people. People attracted to animals or family members or the elderly. But, now from seeing p*rn data, I realize those preferences also exist among wealthy, educated people. Wealthy, educated people are more cognizant of contemporary social norms, which means if you have such an attraction, you hide it.

    Sean Illing
    I recall something in the book about the sexual preferences we hide largely for cultural reasons or for fear of being judged. Can you talk about that?

    Seth Stephens-Davidowitz
    If you define being in the closet as picking partners based on what society wants rather than what you want, many people are in the closet. For example, I am certain a large number of men are more attracted to overweight women than skinny women but try to date skinny women to impress their friends and family members.

    p*rn featuring overweight women is surprisingly common among men. But the data from dating sites tells us that just about all men try to date skinny women. Many people don’t try to date the people they’re most attracted to. They try to date the people they think would impress their friends.

    Sean Illing
    That says something truly awful about our cultural pathologies. People should be free to like whatever they want, but the pressures to conform are overwhelming — and ultimately unhealthy.

    Seth Stephens-Davidowitz
    It’s also inefficient. There are a lot of single men and single overweight women who would be sexually compatible. But they don’t date, while the man tries and fails to date a skinny woman even though he’s less attracted to her. And then there are women who practically starve themselves to remain skinny so their husbands won’t leave, even though their husbands would be more attracted to them if they weighed more. The desire to impress people causes all kinds of inefficiency.

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    Author Seth Stephens-Davidowitz.
    Sean Illing
    All right, give me a couple of unusual desires you noticed — one from men and one from women.

    Seth Stephens-Davidowitz
    It is really amazing how much tastes can vary. There are women who just watch p*rn featuring short, fat men with small penises. There are men who just watch p*rn featuring women with enormous nipples.

    Sean Illing
    How about other countries?

    Seth Stephens-Davidowitz
    The number one Google search in India that starts "my husband wants ..." is "my husband wants me to breastfeed him." p*rn featuring adult breastfeeding is higher in India than anywhere else. In just about every country, just about every Google search looking for advice on breastfeeding is looking how to breastfeed a baby. In India, Google searches looking for breastfeeding advice are about equally split between how to breastfeed a baby and how to breastfeed a husband.

    After I published this finding, some journalists interviewed people in India. Everyone denied this. But I am sure, based on the data, that there are a reasonable number of adult Indian men desiring to be breastfed. It is really amazing that this desire can develop in one country without ever being openly talked about.

    Sean Illing
    Any other findings from countries not named America?

    Seth Stephens-Davidowitz
    Japanese men have recently become obsessed with tickling p*rn. More than 10 percent of Pornhub searches by young Japanese men are for “tickling.”

    Sean Illing
    So basically all of humanity is united in its weirdness?

    Seth Stephens-Davidowitz
    Yeah, basically. Some people respond to Indian men wanting to be breastfed and are like, “Indian men are so weird." That's not the right response. The data from p*rn tells us that everybody is weird. Thus, nobody is weird.

    Sean Illing
    And yet we all feel weird because we assume (wrongly) that no one else is as weird as we are.

    Seth Stephens-Davidowitz
    Sometimes I think it would be a good thing if everyone’s p*rn habits were released at once. It would be embarrassing for 30 seconds. And then we’d all get over it and be more open about sex.

    Sean Illing
    Any other surprising findings about women in America?

    Seth Stephens-Davidowitz
    About 20 percent of the p*rn women watch is lesbian p*rn. A lot of straight women watch lesbian p*rn.

    Sean Illing
    That’s not very surprising.

    Seth Stephens-Davidowitz
    p*rn featuring violence against women is also extremely popular among women. It is far more popular among women than men. I hate saying that because misogynists seem to love this fact. Fantasy life isn't always politically correct.

    The rate at which women watch violent p*rn is roughly the same in every part of the world. It isn’t correlated with how women are treated.

    Sean Illing
    Let me ask you this: Has all of this research changed how you think about sexuality in general?

    Seth Stephens-Davidowitz
    I have always wondered how homosexuality made it through evolution. Like, isn't evolution supposed to make people desire heterosexual sex with fertile people? But after studying p*rn, I realized homosexuality is hardly the only desire that doesn't make sense from an evolutionary perspective.

    Less than 20 percent of p*rn watched these days features vaginal sex to completion among two people who can conceivably have a healthy baby. Cartoons, anal sex to completion, oral sex to completion, foot sex to completion, incest, elderly p*rn, tickling, animal p*rn, sex with objects, etc.

    Sean Illing
    Sex is clearly about a lot more than procreation, and I’d say a lot of needless suffering has resulted from our confusion about this.

    Seth Stephens-Davidowitz
    I think the reason is we are growing up under very different conditions than we evolved under. Hunter-gatherer kids didn't watch The Simpsons. And hunter-gatherer adults didn't watch Simpsons p*rn. I think we are evolved so that if we grew up in hunter-gatherer conditions, just about all people would have an overwhelming desire for vaginal sex. But modern conditions take sexuality in all kinds of directions. I'm becoming more convinced of that the more data I look at.

    Sean Illing
    So what’s the future of online p*rn? Where is it going?

    Seth Stephens-Davidowitz
    I think anal sex will pass vaginal sex in p*rn within three years. That's what my data models suggest.

    Sean Illing
    Somehow that feels like a perfect point on which to end.

    Seth Stephens-Davidowitz
    People should buy my book. There’s a lot more!
     
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    lol i guess we all have weird tastes, but honestly that breastfeeding bit made me feel pretty ill. honestly who wants to drink milk out a womans tit? that's disgusting

    my personal thing is that i mostly like lesbian p*rn; i only like p*rn with men in it if you can't see his face and he has a good body.
    the girl could be the most beatiful girl in the world but if she is giving a fat ugly man head, that's an instant turn off, can't watch it.

    i also like amateur p*rn versus all of this staged stuff. honestly all this staged p*rn does nothing for me; you can tell there is no passion or pleasure and it is just acted out. i much prefer amateur stuff filmed by girlfriends.

    also I am pretty much straight but i do like the odd video of a t-girl or a pretty boy giving head. guess that makes me bi ?
     
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    "but honestly that breastfeeding bit made me feel pretty ill. honestly who wants to drink milk out a womans tit? that's disgusting"

    Speak for yourself
     
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    "p*rn featuring violence against women is also extremely popular among women. It is far more popular among women than men. I hate saying that because misogynists seem to love this fact. Fantasy life isn't always politically correct. "

    Amusing. Ladies are funni creatures
     
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    I mean obviously I sucked milk out a womans tit when I was a baby, but I also ate bugs and mud.
     
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    As much as I really hate myself for saying this, I want to tie up and torture dwarf women, and
    then, put them in a hamster cages.

    For some reason, I always have that on my mind, but people think it's creepy.

    I was talking about the above during family gatherings, around the holidays. It's really
    a great ice breaker.
     
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    Kind of a Willy Wonka wanker fantasy there, @rclark. Icebreaker indeed, man. Lol!
     
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    I need a milfs milk.
     
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    what about putting a hidden camera in a north korean gulag so you can see the way the guards abused the female prisoners there.
    some of the stories that came out of escapees worse than any bondage fantasy.

    e.g. one guard when he walked by, all the female inmates had to get down on their knees and open their mouths. then he and the other guards would spit in their mouths and they had to swallow it or get beaten / tortured for the day. some of the guards would piss in their mouths and make them swallow that, or just fuck their mouths.
    imagine the money ol Kim could make starting up a fucked up p*rn site.
     
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    Hmm and yet somehow sucking a milfs milk is deemed weird by you?
     
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    There's literally nothing wrong with that.
     
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    i never said i got off on it; i'm not into bondage or pain or anything like that. the topic was about weird fantasies and that is one of the weirder ones i know of.

    i wonder if anyone here is into seeing bald guys getting dominated and called a worthless baldie etc by dominatrixes

    i do like the ol' cartoon babe every now and again. dexters milf; miss incredibles, watched some cave girl CGI movie and the chick in that had booty (she was lusting after a NW1)
     
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    I think there may be a social engineering agenda at play here.
     
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    lol yeah women are notorious for saying the "correct" thing in public then saying how they really feel in private.
    like what has been said before, a lot of them love being dominated and told what to do sexually by a (handsome) man; on mumsnet one woman said she was in an elevator with a handsome man and she would have loved for him to rape her on the spot, calling her a filthy bitch etc.

    ofc all these high up politicians etc getting into trouble now for touching womens behinds have one thing in common - they are all ugly/bald.

    Women would go on about equality of the sexes and women can do anything men can do, but when i worked in a tech support callcentre; an amazing amount of women phoned up; got the girl sat next to me, and would say "can i speak to a man". no man ever said this, it was always women.
     
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    I'm think I'm going to read that book
     

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