Post-hair system psychology - reconciling with your new self

[DenverBoy]

Hello all.

I got a hair system earlier this fall and have been living a happier life. However, even six months after getting my fabulous hair, I feel disconnected from my new self. When I meet friends who know me from before, I feel the interactions is completely different from what I remember - primarily because I feel much more confident. But this puts me in very awkward position because I didn't know how to act around these people anymore.

I am also concerned about how to bring this up in potential future relationship.

Would love to hear how everyone here handled their mental health and platonic/non-platonic relationships after getting the system.

Happy new year!

 

[JohnathonNY]

No idea. I've been in quarantine for so long I don't even remember how to interact with people anymore.

 

[Hair2019]

I never felt 'disconnected from my new self' whatsoever when I started wearing hair systems. Of course it took a little bit of time to get used to them, both physically and mentally, but if anything I feel like I've reconnected with my real self and that wearing a hair system allows me to have the hair/look I want to reflect who I truly am.

 

[Nostab2]

Dude, you will get so used to it you wont even remember it's on your head. The reason you feel this way is because it's so new to you. It will reach a point in the future where it is a non factor in your awareness

 

[JMC]

I told two of my employees and my live in girlfriend and that is all that knows about mine. I’ve said in another thread before that my girlfriend is and should be my biggest proponent. She does all the taping and placing on my head. I do all the clean up. She went with me to my very first appointment to have it installed (no do everything on my own). I only told 2 of my employees because one of them is very keen on changes with anyone and I didn’t want her “calling me out”. They are both about my age (35) so it really wasn’t awkward.

I do agree it will bring back the confidence you once had and when I see people I haven’t seen in a while I do kind of get a tad nervous they will notice but so far no one can put their finger on what’s different. My boss visited me one day a few months after I got my unit and he even said something looks different about me but didn’t know what. I always just say “yea I’m trying a new hairstyle”.

 

[BaldBearded]

It just becomes part of you... I am more aware of when it's off, then when it's on.

 

[Nostab2]

I told two of my employees and my live in girlfriend and that is all that knows about mine. I’ve said in another thread before that my girlfriend is and should be my biggest proponent. She does all the taping and placing on my head. I do all the clean up. She went with me to my very first appointment to have it installed (no do everything on my own). I only told 2 of my employees because one of them is very keen on changes with anyone and I didn’t want her “calling me out”. They are both about my age (35) so it really wasn’t awkward.

I do agree it will bring back the confidence you once had and when I see people I haven’t seen in a while I do kind of get a tad nervous they will notice but so far no one can put their finger on what’s different. My boss visited me one day a few months after I got my unit and he even said something looks different about me but didn’t know what. I always just say “yea I’m trying a new hairstyle”.

Boy, you got it maid with the gf doing your maintenance. Better keep that one.

 

[Fanjeera]

I became connected to myself again.

I have 2 friends that don't want to let their eyes operated. They say it's because their friends are used to seeing them with glasses and that it would be cheating their friends.

 

[jimlad]

Before long you'll realise the truth: there is no new self. You are adjusting to new circumstances, in the same way that people feel different when they start a new job or relationship. But it's important (no, vital) that you remember that it's still you going through this - the same guy from before. He's just significantly sexier now...

I think it's quite dangerous to perceive of a change of self with something like that. A system, when working well, gives you the confidence you need to be yourself, not somebody else.