NICE GUY SYDROME

[ronaldkia]

i came about this website, and it is exactly my problem, even more so then social phobia. http://www.nomoremrniceguy.com

I need to know if a lot of you also suffer from this syndrom. I know that my father had this syndrom, but in real life at home, hes a very not nice person, takes it out on family, watches pornography, screws escorts. But then in outside life he acts all nice to women and is shy, and is too nice to people. I exactly dont get women cause im too nice, a girl told me that once.

the reason that i posted this is also because in the nomoremrniceguy, a lot of the guys there are bald.

* Also would be interested in knowing if any of you are love-shy (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love-shyness).

 

[Aplunk1]

My father, who is bald, plays the nice guy, although in person, he's quite different.

I think that this whole S.A. thing has to do with how comfortable with yourself you are.

You need to immediately turn off the signal in your brain that says, "Baldness is bad."

It's not.

Baldness does NOT affect your personality. You do.

The people who are too weak, like my father, are the people who let their baldness, fears, and social anxiety ruin their inside personality.

Ronald,

here's a perfect idea for you to start getting women, to get over your hairloss, and become a new man, inside and out.

Shave you head. That's right. Shave it to a 0 guard, and, if you feel like it, use a razor.

Shave it all off.

Now, start pumping weights at the gym, running many miles. Start out going 3-4 days a week. Then move up to 5 days a week.

Take lots of supplements.

Listen to classical music when you work out, or something that gives you peace of mind... even if that's Deathmetal.

Get strong.

Destroy the little man that is fearful... You are no longer him.

Lay out in the sun. Get tan.

Life is great, man.

Really, experience some new things in life, man. How are you ever going to know if you'd like the shaved look or not if you never tried it?



Oh yeah, and lastly, you might want to see a doctor, RK. You might have some anxiety issues, that can EASILY be taken care of.

Ronaldkia, if you do this, I promise you that you'll feel brand new.

 

[biglemoncoke]

maybe theres a genetic link between mr. nice guy and male pattern baldness..like redheads and freckles?

 

[Aplunk1]

..like redheads and freckles?

It's called Gingervitus.

 

[silkeysmooth]

My father, who is bald, plays the nice guy, although in person, he's quite different.

I think that this whole S.A. thing has to do with how comfortable with yourself you are.

You need to immediately turn off the signal in your brain that says, "Baldness is bad."

It's not.

Baldness does NOT affect your personality. You do.

The people who are too weak, like my father, are the people who let their baldness, fears, and social anxiety ruin their inside personality.

Ronald,

here's a perfect idea for you to start getting women, to get over your hairloss, and become a new man, inside and out.

Shave you head. That's right. Shave it to a 0 guard, and, if you feel like it, use a razor.

Shave it all off.

Now, start pumping weights at the gym, running many miles. Start out going 3-4 days a week. Then move up to 5 days a week.

Take lots of supplements.

Listen to classical music when you work out, or something that gives you peace of mind... even if that's Deathmetal.

Get strong.

Destroy the little man that is fearful... You are no longer him.

Lay out in the sun. Get tan.

Life is great, man.

Really, experience some new things in life, man. How are you ever going to know if you'd like the shaved look or not if you never tried it?



Oh yeah, and lastly, you might want to see a doctor, RK. You might have some anxiety issues, that can EASILY be taken care of.

Ronaldkia, if you do this, I promise you that you'll feel brand new.

WTF??

Shave your head.

Get a tan.

Hit the gym.

 

[stax]

Best post ive ever heard from you Aplunk1. I totally agree. Youve come a long way since your "my hairloss is ruining my life" post. Good luck.



Oh, and only be a "nice guy" to a girl when she deserve's it. If she steps out of line put her in her place. She will like you more and respect you, depending on how you do it. Dont by her sh*t untill she's earned it. be cool, and be a man. You dont have to be a complete a**h**, just be yourself.

 

[ShedMaster]

WTF??

Shave your head.

Get a tan.

Hit the gym.

WHAT?!

Hit the FRIGGIN Gym Silk!! Ahh!!! Look at these arms!

Get a TAN!!

 

[silkeysmooth]

WTF??

Shave your head.

Get a tan.

Hit the gym.

WHAT?!

Hit the FRIGGIN Gym Silk!! Ahh!!! Look at these arms!

Get a TAN!!

LOL.

I don't know how that started, but it's still pretty damn funny.

 

[Bet24]

My father, who is bald, plays the nice guy, although in person, he's quite different.

I think that this whole S.A. thing has to do with how comfortable with yourself you are.

You need to immediately turn off the signal in your brain that says, "Baldness is bad."

It's not.

Baldness does NOT affect your personality. You do.

The people who are too weak, like my father, are the people who let their baldness, fears, and social anxiety ruin their inside personality.

Ronald,

here's a perfect idea for you to start getting women, to get over your hairloss, and become a new man, inside and out.

Shave you head. That's right. Shave it to a 0 guard, and, if you feel like it, use a razor.

Shave it all off.

Now, start pumping weights at the gym, running many miles. Start out going 3-4 days a week. Then move up to 5 days a week.

Take lots of supplements.

Listen to classical music when you work out, or something that gives you peace of mind... even if that's Deathmetal.

Get strong.

Destroy the little man that is fearful... You are no longer him.

Lay out in the sun. Get tan.

Life is great, man.

Really, experience some new things in life, man. How are you ever going to know if you'd like the shaved look or not if you never tried it?



Oh yeah, and lastly, you might want to see a doctor, RK. You might have some anxiety issues, that can EASILY be taken care of.

Ronaldkia, if you do this, I promise you that you'll feel brand new.

best post ever.....

period.

 

[Wezz]

if you play the too nice guy , in the end you will be the idiot.
experinced it, dont try it

 

[kalbo]

Are we just talking nice guy in terms of being with your partner, or just being a nice guy in general?

Personally, I'm not a real confrontational type. For example, you'll never see me yelling out my car window at someone who just stole my parking spot. So I guess in public, I'm probably way too nice.

But with my relationships, I'm not nice at all. I'm not abusive or anything close to that, I just won't let my gf walk all over me. I used to be that guy who's super nice to girls and did almost anything they asked, but I learned real quick that that doesn't you ANY good. No girl wants a push over. They'd much rather be with an @sshole than someone's who's too nice.

 

[Felk]

Hmm i dunno. My girlfriend tells me she wished i'd get angry with people once in a while. I say I do get angry but I ask her why she'd like to see me angry, and she says "it would be a relief to know you're not completely perfect."

My girlfriend at least doesn't like angry guys

 

[Thinning]

I fall into the nice guy syndrome with women I really like. With men or at work Im a total alpha, I command respect. But girls I really like make me all nervous and I cant act like that. Thats why I always end up with girls Im not particuarly attracted to, or who I dont respect, because I can act normally around them.

Sucks, but thats life. I still get laid a decent amount, just not with anyone who I would want for something serious.

 

[stax]

Ive have good luck with girls, every girl i ever liked and especially in school, ended up liking me too. Im not kidding, it was super weird. I have that tough guy attitude, while being nice at the same time in certain situations, but never a pussy like nice guy. I have a bad mouth,ect, but i dont try and hide it. I wont curse loud in a restaurant infront of people, but you get the idea.


For example, there was this really hot blonde girl that was hanging out with me and my friends, she was a friend of one of my friends. I was going out with another hot blonde that i liked, but i liked this girl too. Anyways, i was my usual self,ect, and girls like a tough guy, a guy who can be a man and be tough when he has too, just not a complete a**h**. If she asked for a lighter, i would light her cigarette for her, on occasion. But maintain that tough guy attitude and vibe. CONFIDENCE is also a big key. I didnt let het know that i liked her at all, didnt give her any compliments on her looks ect. If you give a girl a compliment, compliment her on her shoes or something. Dont buy her anything either at the start. Anyways, she ended up telling my friend that she likes me, and that im hot, nice, and still a tough guy. I was just being myself. Being funny,ect, is good too if you do it right. Dont always hold the door for her,ect, and if you do, make a face or stick your tongue out at her, like your being forced to be a gentlemen,ect. And, it helps if your hot too, or dress really good, atleast if your in your 20's - 30's from my experience, in most cases. You can be nice, but be a man, and dont be a pussy. Dont be whipped, and dont let her know how much you think she's hot,ect, and dont be insecure around her. Dont be boring. If your whipped, and dont show you can be a man, she'l get bored with you.


If the girl doesnt like a tough guy, who has a bad mouth sometimes,ect, and wants a goody goody, (which isnt the case for most hot woman), then she aint my type anyways. Im not trying to say to swear all the time,and put on show trying to be tough, i dont, because it could backfire if she see's you faking. But dont be afraid to be yourself and be natural. There are certain guidelines to follow. There's times and places for everything, as the relationship develops. Im no expert, just saying whats worked for me.

 

[hairhaircomeagain]

Baldness does NOT affect your personality. You do.

Woh...a few words up there...but they never struck me. This is so true. When I am with people with lot of hair and who are better looking and stuff, I start thinking about how this guy has so much hair and he looks so good and I am balding ...and my confidence takes a huge dip. I go from a confident guy to all of a sudden "finish this conversation quickly and walk away from these people" guy. I start trying to finish the conversation quickly and start talking sh*t. I was much different when I had no or did not notice my hairloss.

Nice post, SIR.

 

[hairhaircomeagain]

Continuing....

I need some help here guys...Do any of you suffer from this too ? I just moved here and the few friends I made here have relocated due to jobs. I am trying to make some more friends....So, One of my friends called me to a camping trip. I thought I would go and make friends with his friends and increase my social circle. And his friends were great too.

However after going there, I felt so left out. They were all talking around the campfire, I was just sitting there and listening. Even though I wanted to talk, comment, make some jokes...i did not...i was always thinking...what if they just ignore me, what if they make fun of me. I was so frustrated, I left just after one night....ofcourse no need to say, I made no friends there and I think even the friend who invited me will think how boring I am and will stop inviting me to other events.

I was not like this. I am a very funny guy, who always comments, pulls peoples legs, have gun....or maybe I am not...it was much more easier to make friends in school and stuff, but not in a new city...

woh...sorry about all the whining up there....but do any of you feel the same way....any idea how can i come over this...I really need some help...I have already stopped interacting with the chicks coz I think they are always staring at my hairline when I am talking to them...I need some friends though

 

[Aplunk1]

Mate, the only true answer to being comfortable is BEING YOURSELF.

There are certain situations where this might not apply, but being with some new friends at a campfire is a good place to begin BEING YOURSELF.

Cherish the moments that you have with these people.

People are, for the most part, good at heart.

Experience life, whether it might be good or bad.

Make the best of it.

These are precious years... so I've learned.

 

[Felk]

People are, for the most part, good at heart.

Random fact - It has been pyschologically proven that people who believe this are most honest, generous, considerate and generally "good."

However whether or not "people are generally good" is one of the most hotly debated philosophical questions down through the ages

 

[Axon]

I used to be this way...then I grew a sack.

Seriously, you gotta go for yours. Hair, looks, that sh*t need not stand in your way. Step up, go for what you want, and get ready to fail. Because the real measure of a man and a person is what they do after failure.

 

[Aplunk1]

Thanks, Felk.



When to comes to women, I like to be nice...

but I also like to show them how inferior and stupid they are.

Even with all the habits I have to support, I can still illustrate the inferiority of their race. Word for word, I can read a woman, and let them know how retarded they really are.

A lot of girls I've met in their early 20's seem to like the a**h** approach.

They like to have a controlling man. It's one of those weird turn-on's for women.