News! News! News! It's really happening!!!

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This is the most depressing thing. Wow.

 

[buckthorn]

So true Buckthorn. I'm so happy to be alive that I really don't care about hair anymore. I recently underwent HIV testing and that was the worst week in my life while I waited for the results. Luckily I was negative on the test. Who cares about the hair, there's so much more to life than hair and sex. Some people here it seems are desperate to get love from others because they lack self love. If they loved and accepted themselves they wouldn't crave for the love and affection of others of others so badly.

I had long hair until my waist and long hair is my lifestyle and my statement so it wasn't easy for me to accept hair loss but **** it, if I'm destined to go bald and I can't do much about it then I can change the way I react towards it.

"We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand." - Randy Pausch

Truth. Your signature quote is right on too. It's not just hair loss with some people. Whenever any tragedy strikes them, creating an overwhelming amount of self pity is a very sufficient security blanket. Hell, you can live there for the rest of your life, nice and warm and miss out on everything. People say they start threads that indulge this self pity, because they are just, "realists", but it's transparent as hell. Balding is misery. I have experienced first hand, slowly, and after a pretty substantial disfigurement from a hair transplant. However, that is that. Like your quote says, whether or not it happened because of someone else's lack of ethics, it is my current hand of cards. I can spend another summer uncomfortable, wearing hair spray and praying it won't rain, or can I chose the alternative. I will never submit to the idea that because I am destined to be bald I will be ugly. I may be in all reality, who knows? Some people are born physically unattractive, some become unattractive as they age. That sh*t truly is a hard hand to deal with. Those that are HAPPY, however, don't bury themselves in self pity and delusion.

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and, I am very sorry you had to deal with that Vincent. That is scary as hell, but you survived through thinking that one of the most horrendous fates could be yours. You survived. Knowing you have, you should also have learned that you can survive anything.

 

[buckthorn]

Thank you parssiene and buckthorn.

You're right buckthorn.

Alexbrah I'm looking into it brah and no, I'm not so depressed over hair loss. I was obsessed for a while.

How did you come to terms with it? (im still struggling)

 

[Pray The Bald Away]

I don't see the point of this. The article that was linked offers no information or specifics. We know so much more now than we did then. If anyone assumed a treatment was coming soon based solely on the article in the OP, they were being naive.

 

[parisienne]

Just realized nobody else can replace the love or the lack of love I have for myself so in the end, other people are irrelevant to your universe, you have to love and accept yourself as you are no matter what. Nobody here chose to be bald so there's no shame in it since it's not our doing or fault, it's just the bad lottery in the genetics. What this has to do with me? Why should I feel ashamed of my hair loss? Is the hair loss something of my doing? No it's not. It has NOTHING to do with me, I didn't chose to have hair loss just the same as I didn't chose to be certain height or to have blue eyes, dark hair and the facial features I have. I had no choice or saying about these things. So why would I be obsessed about something I have almost no control of?

I don't obsess about the things that are outside of my area of influence because I can't do anything about it, only thing I can do is the way I choose to react to these things or issues. I can cut off my emotions completely towards these issues and feel nothing. FIRST mistake is to compare yourself to the others. Who gives a flying f*ck if you're not as beautiful as the next guy? Did you do anything do deserve your facial features or your hair? No you didn't. In fact you had nothing to do with it. You didn't choose the way you were going to look.

Instead, I focus on the things inside my circle of influence and the things I can operate with. And once I start doing that my circle of influence gradually expands. We were all conditioned by our parents and teachers and people around us that we are not worthy of love if we are not obedient enough or successful enough or beautiful enough. This is absolutely not true.

And in the end, ask yourself, why am I so obsessed with my physical appearance? What do I need physical appearance for? So I can attract other people and have their love and affection and yeah, sex as well which is basically the peak of intimacy with another person. But once you learn that you don't need the love of others once you have your own, you are free. And sex is a great and a beautiful thing to experience but it's not air and not the only thing in the universe that can make you feel that way. There's so much other ways to get the same or similar ecstatic feeling.

First step towards accepting and loving yourself is to write down all the virtues, skillls and positive things you think you have and all the flaws and negative opinions you think you have. And then realize that a lot of negative stuff is not true but it's somebody else's opinion about you and some of them which are true you work on fixing while honing your skills and your virtues and then read that list every day.

Hope that helps.

So, so so so ****ing true. We're alienated by thousand of social norms dicted by the people responsible of our education and the media we supposedly have to obey. They only exist if we think they are valid. We need to deny them in order to free ourselves. And it is easy because deep inside we know they make no sense. Who decided that bald is not good looking ? The canons of beauty change ALL THE TIME, which proves there is litteraly no unavoidable rule dicted by the universe. Just look at what was considered beautiful 100, 200, 300, 500 years ago.. Body shapes are subject of trends. There is no ****ing logic behind that, it just makes the lucky 10% happy they are born with the body shape considered right at a given time. The remaining 90% will feel bad and hate themselves when there is NO LOGICAL REASON. And this is just an example among thousands.
Freedom is the real key to happiness IMO. Just say "**** it". Once you're free and experience self love, you don't "need" people anymore. But this mindset actually attracts people, 100% fact.
Sex is everywhere, every****ingwhere. We've ended up thinking it's the most rewarding experience when once again it's only one among thousands.I litterally can't choose between sex and dance right now. They feel the same. Put me on a sailing boat, or alone in a country I've never visited, or in the middle of a forest and I'll end up feeling ecstatic the whole time.

 

[camilstar]

I am glad ,this can be a good solution for persons with hair loss in the world ,a real progress