If you're hair loss got to the point that it is quite severe would you go for a wig? I personally know a few girls who are either wearing full wigs or maybe like partial wigs and it's definitely not a big deal to anyone. If my gf started to lose her hair and ended up wearing a wig I wouldn't think twice about it. I feel like for females it is a much less stigmatized thing than males.
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If you're hair loss got to the point that it is quite severe would you go for a wig? I personally know a few girls who are either wearing full wigs or maybe like partial wigs and it's definitely not a big deal to anyone. If my gf started to lose her hair and ended up wearing a wig I wouldn't think twice about it. I feel like for females it is a much less stigmatized thing than males.
Hair really does. For others like us, it meant something, and gave us identity. More than just something that grows on our head. Losing it has taken me to the lowest of lows, daily if I see a mirror. I posted some pictures, they should be on my original posting now. It went from thick to thin, and a bald spot before I started finasteride 3 months ago. Hoping for a miracle. Ready to swallow the pain.
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Did your ex notice or have you told him about your hair loss?
EvilLocks
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I just saw your pics. I can see you are thinning and understand your concern, but your hair isn't that bad. I'm sure it's not like it used to be, but really it's not that bad to others who see you from the outside. Hopefully you can gain back what you've lost to enjoy a full head of hair again
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EL, that sucks. I guess it was more of lust than love.
EvilLocks
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Yes, definitely. At least from his side. But what's weird, I always pictured us as best friends and lovers and thought he did too. At least that's what he said. But as soon as we found out I was going bald, he was out. So I guess it wasn't true love like I thought!
shookwun
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That's reality for both men, and women unfortunately.
I don't feel money is the biggest issue in sustaining a relationship rather cheating, and loosing attraction being the biggest driving factors towards separation.
I could care less how much my significant other makes, as long as she works and pays her share of our living expenses.
I don't feel money is the biggest issue in sustaining a relationship rather cheating, and loosing attraction being the biggest driving factors towards separation.
I could care less how much my significant other makes, as long as she works and pays her share of our living expenses.
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Not specifically judging this to be your situation Evil,
I believe there are cases that exist, when a relationship unexpectedly dissolves because one partner can make themselves too available.
This can potentially cause some of the best looking relationships to weather and lose their luster had he/she demonstrated less dependence.
Good intentions can score high marks in most partnerships and spontaneity can be exciting.
However it has been my experience that long term ones require long term thinking.
Those whom are committed to the long haul recognize the vital importance of pacing themselves more shrewdly.
Acting/reacting to general stimuli more slowly and more carefully ,
treating potential dramas like they are opportunities to show case or develop your character
rather than responding to them with an ordinary, unsophisticated knee jerk m.o., can
viably improve a couples mileage dramatically.
Also by not revealing all your mysteries up front or on your sleeve can help extend the life/love span of many relationships.
Most of all learn the value of fun, protect your individuality by leading through example.
Share the body of your favorite passions and past times a little at a time,
like one might randomly share a personal snapshot, this is done to preserve the integrity of your heart and keep it originally intact,
Intrigue begets interest begets bonding begets respect begets sharing in the wonders of another spring together begets stronger bonding.
I believe there are cases that exist, when a relationship unexpectedly dissolves because one partner can make themselves too available.
This can potentially cause some of the best looking relationships to weather and lose their luster had he/she demonstrated less dependence.
Good intentions can score high marks in most partnerships and spontaneity can be exciting.
However it has been my experience that long term ones require long term thinking.
Those whom are committed to the long haul recognize the vital importance of pacing themselves more shrewdly.
Acting/reacting to general stimuli more slowly and more carefully ,
treating potential dramas like they are opportunities to show case or develop your character
rather than responding to them with an ordinary, unsophisticated knee jerk m.o., can
viably improve a couples mileage dramatically.
Also by not revealing all your mysteries up front or on your sleeve can help extend the life/love span of many relationships.
Most of all learn the value of fun, protect your individuality by leading through example.
Share the body of your favorite passions and past times a little at a time,
like one might randomly share a personal snapshot, this is done to preserve the integrity of your heart and keep it originally intact,
Intrigue begets interest begets bonding begets respect begets sharing in the wonders of another spring together begets stronger bonding.
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He was only telling you what you wanted to hear. You're better off without him.. And he is probably like nw4 by now, so you kinda dodged a bullet there
EvilLocks
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He was only telling you what you wanted to hear. You're better off without him.. And he is probably like nw4 by now, so you kinda dodged a bullet there
Haha, I wish! That would be the ultimate irony, if he actually went bald himself. I bet he would cry himself to sleep every night, like I did after we broke up and because I lost my hair. But sadly he is a NW1.
I.D WALKER
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I think rather that your love simply grew faster than his. In his own capacity he probably loved you but at a slower rate. Therefore his immature roots could not possibly compete with the depth and abundance of your own deeper capacity to love.
Love like yours can't help but burn (at both ends). Bright as a supernova. Your love is your real power. Distribute it wisely, and grow stronger by it.
Love like yours can't help but burn (at both ends). Bright as a supernova. Your love is your real power. Distribute it wisely, and grow stronger by it.
He was only telling you what you wanted to hear. You're better off without him.. And he is probably like nw4 by now, so you kinda dodged a bullet there
He sounds like an immature punk.
You don't say sh*t like that to a girl unless you mean it unconditionally...
To either a girl or a man my friend.
Has your hair stabilized at all, or do you see it still thinning? I really, really hope you can at least keep what you have now for a long time.
Where is your new avatar?
No, you misunderstood.
You said that a guy shouldn't say sh!t like that to a girl and I was just saying that I think that women also shouldn't say sh!t like that to men.
I had a live-in girlfriend who knew I was losing my hair and when we disagreed about something she tried to use it as leverage. She would say something like, "you better listen to me because it's not like a lot of other women want you anymore." The first few times it happened I tried to reason with her by firing back at her, "The issue is not who can get the most other people; the issue is who's right and who's wrong." But She kept trying to blackmail me so when a friend of her's from Nebraska called and asked her to go to Nebraska for a visit I was happy to pay for the plane ticket because I needed a break from her. After a few weeks she called to ask for a return ticket back to my place and I told her she couldn't come back. She was stunned. She tried to talk nice to me and tell me how much she wanted to be with me and how sorry she was, but I wasn't having any of it. She had pulled that "you can't get a bunch of women anymore so you better do what I say" routine on me 5 or 6 times and she was not going to stop it. If she had gotten back into my place it would have been hard to get her out again. She called crying for a couple of months but I wouldn't budge so she finally stopped calling me.
People need to treat each other with dignity and respect. I would rather spend the rest of my life alone than allow myself to be mistreated because I'm freaking disfigured. I did not ask to be disfigured; it was imposed on me.
I.D WALKER
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Nameless I may not speak for every member here,
nevertheless I think kudos to you are in order as a result of your consistent observance and advocacy to fairness and equality in particular not to mention also your keen sensibility to the respective societal challenges ubiquitously at play.
Placing our humanity before our vanity...that's where real change begins.
Even if you can't have fairness and equality in the whole world people can try to make it happen in their relationships. She didn't even try. As a matter of fact, she tried to exploit her attractiveness advantage over me. It's like she was saying, "I can go elsewhere but you can't so you better do whatever I say."
I'm a nice guy and I can be reasoned with. I fancy myself one of the good guys. Even when I had my hair I was always know as "the nice one." Women liked me even though I was sleeping with half of them, which by the way must mean that sex with me is great. But that aside, I'm cool with compromise and I can work through disagreements or arguments, but for a woman to come right out and essentially tell me that even if she's wrong I better do EVERYTHING she says because she can go elsewhere and I can't, owing to a disfigurement, is a non-starter. The answer is no. No means no.
I hope she likes Nebraska. I hear they've got a lot of corn there.
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I was basically diffuse thinning NW3V when I started treatment. Darker times. I wouldn't kill myself the way my hair is now. If I started losing ground badly again, and had exhausted my otehr options (drugs and hair transplant donor hair) then I would consider one of two approaches. 1. Do what Fred did, hair transplant plus buzzcut (this would make me look like crap, bad head shape for a buzz cut). 2. Suicide.
Like I said though, that's a problem for further down the road, right I have less hair/density than I'd like, but enough to work with for the most part.