my buddy is thinning, should I tell him?

[FreeloaderUK]

was just over my buddies house last night, he's 23. noticed some thinning on his crown. he's recently been into weights & fitness plus although i havent met his dad- from the pics on the wall it looks like baldness is in his family.

do I tell him or not? i dont think he's noticed yet.

i dont want to be a harbinger of bad news but since ive been on the big 3 for a few months i am in a good place to potentially advise him.

 

[s.a.f]

Just tell him that your on meds but dont mention that you've noticed his thinning. If he's bothered about it he'll take the hint.

 

[fireman]

Man just leave him be. Unless he brings up the subject just don't worry about it.

 

[Norsk]

Just tell him that your on meds but dont mention that you've noticed his thinning. If he's bothered about it he'll take the hint.

There seems to be an assumption that if someone is noticeable thinning, they know it already. This isn't necessarily true. Crown thinning can be easy to miss, you won't see it when you look at yourself in the mirror. I had lots of diffuse thinning (worst on the crown) before I was aware of it, because I wasn't interested in having cool hairstyles and didn't scrutinize my hair in the mirror ever. (I wasn't even aware what my hair color was. I thought it was brown, when it's medium or dark blond.) However this doesn't mean that I find the prospect of a NW6 or NW7 very enticing. I would have liked to know about it earlier, personally.

 

[squeegee]

If it is your buddy, why not telling him? Self-consciousness my friend!!!

 

[Cassin]

Eh....leave him be.

 

[MonarchyB]

i would definitly stay clear of sliding any sublte hints in like telling him about your meds - that will just make him think that all people have noticed and are talking about it in his absence.... (probably best that he doesn't read this page)

i would leave him to his own devices - unless significantly worsens

 

[Naltima]

I have noticed the same thing with my friend. I'm sure most other people can't notice yet, but his hairline is starting to move back fast and he is showing signs of diffuse thinning all over his head. Problem is he saw a bottle of Rogaine in my bathroom about 4 months ago and he's been making fun of me about that since then, it's actually quite humiliating when he mentions it infront of other people. If he wasn't such a jackass about the entire thing I'd probably mention something to him about getting on meds.

 

[Hammy070]

Hmm, you COULD bring up the topic of hair loss and how it relates to you, if you are comfortable talking about your hair loss with him, he may reveal his feelings about it. You could say you're worried about your own hair, and during the conversation maybe you could ask him if he ever worries about it like you do? Judge the reaction appropriately, if he really doesn't care, then leave him be. If he expresses concern, then let him know you know ways to stop it and treat it, like say rogaine is good for the crown or something, and finasteride good for maintaining etc. don't JUST say minoxidil is good for the crown, then he may think you noticed or are implying something. After that, he will likely check his own hair himself if he hasn't already.


Alternatively spike his shampoo with Nizoral+minoxidil that way you fix his problem without him knowing about it! That's true charity.

PS: Don't really.

 

[ali777]

I get into this dilemma every single time I see someone thinning. So far I haven't told anyone and I don't intend to.

I intentionally told a few people that I am using minoxidil, just to get the subject going but they weren't interested.

 

[global]

I have noticed the same thing with my friend. I'm sure most other people can't notice yet, but his hairline is starting to move back fast and he is showing signs of diffuse thinning all over his head. Problem is he saw a bottle of Rogaine in my bathroom about 4 months ago and he's been making fun of me about that since then, it's actually quite humiliating when he mentions it infront of other people. If he wasn't such a jackass about the entire thing I'd probably mention something to him about getting on meds.

Yeah, I would probably let a c*nt like that go bald without trying to help him too.

 

[Petchsky]

I have noticed the same thing with my friend. I'm sure most other people can't notice yet, but his hairline is starting to move back fast and he is showing signs of diffuse thinning all over his head. Problem is he saw a bottle of Rogaine in my bathroom about 4 months ago and he's been making fun of me about that since then, it's actually quite humiliating when he mentions it infront of other people. If he wasn't such a jackass about the entire thing I'd probably mention something to him about getting on meds.

Yeah, I would probably let a c*nt like that go bald without trying to help him too.

X2.

If i saw some diet pills or acne pills in any of my mate's houses, i wouldn't say a f*****g thing about it.

 

[Odie]

I have noticed the same thing with my friend. I'm sure most other people can't notice yet, but his hairline is starting to move back fast and he is showing signs of diffuse thinning all over his head. Problem is he saw a bottle of Rogaine in my bathroom about 4 months ago and he's been making fun of me about that since then, it's actually quite humiliating when he mentions it infront of other people. If he wasn't such a jackass about the entire thing I'd probably mention something to him about getting on meds.

If he is taking the piss out of you in front of others I would (in front of others) tell him 'you might want to look into baldness treatments yourself - looks like you're thinning'

if he humiliates you in front of others let him see how he likes it

 

[ChrisJ]

Just tell him. A lot of us wish to have started the treatments earlier. Many people are in denial about this so just tell him and tell him that the earlier he starts treatsments the better.