my problem with baldness started long time before i think.
i will tell you my story. first i thought i would be superior to others due to my intelligence. and by the way, im not stupid, so if intelligence was what makes someone superior to others i would be superior to 99 % of all people.
but i learned the hard way that its not intelligence which makes you superior to others. a bit yes, its a bonus if you re intelligent, but its not everything.
by the way i always since puberty wanted to be superior to others.
okay , then i thought i should be taller than other people to be superior because i knew some guys at my school who were pretty confident and who were - sure - tall. so i wanted to be taller. im crazy i know but i developed something which should make me rich and i could let develope something to make people taller. obviously my plan failed.
so then i fall into a big hole. my life started to suck. then hairloss came and made things even worse.
i think why i suffer from hairloss so much is coz its a status symbol for beauty and superiority. or the other way, baldness is a sign for age, ugliness and no superiority.
like some of you say, when you had hair you felt superior to bald guys.
i remember a time when i already had hairloss but i was denying it. i dont know if i knew it in my subsconcious mind, but in my normal mind i denied it. so there was a guy who had hairloss and i though about him that he is pityful because of it. and he doesnt match other cool people.
maybe these thoughts are the reason of my suffering. because i felt superior to balding guys and i thought they were pityful. dont tell me that these thoughts were wrong, i know it, but i think that is the reason for my suffering.
i always thought i would go bald by 35 and that by that time there was something with which you could "heal" it. and funny thing is, by the time i will be 35 there will probably be hair multiplication , which is in 15 years.
but NO, i had to start balding with 18. :evil:
i mean just the fact that you are balding isnt that bad or doesnt really make your life worse, but if you think like me , it makes your life worse big time.
and its proven i think or if you ask some bald man, he will probably always tell you that he suffered from balding in some form or another.
blondeguy, be honest, did you suffer from hairloss? i think yes, not or never in a way some of us do, but to a little extent i think yes.
so balding sux. definatley. that s proven, you can say. for the one less, for the other more.
for me its much suffering and i think its my thoughts which make me suffer so much.
i even think that its always your thoughts which make you suffer very much from hairloss , because there is no pain or anything involved with baldness and if you shave it or wear it with a good style (your balding hair), there will almost noone say anything about it.
and yes, chances with women are normally less , but not much. and second there are women who love bald men and so whatever. anyway , women are not everything which makes you happy.
its not that if you got a gf , the world turns form deep black to shiny yellow. its not. sure a girl makes your life better but only to a certain degree and anyway if your chances are lower coz of hairloss (and i dont say its absolutley like that) you still can get an ugly gf and noone ever said that only pretty gf's make happy.
the only problem with baldness is in your mind. and to a little degree its on the outside too.
hair is a status symbol for youth. you cant change that, like a mercedes is a status symbol for wealth. its like that and even blondeguy cant change that fact.
now lets try to say how much hairloss makes your life really worse...
first there are proven studies. i dont know if they are for shaved heads too, but they are about baldness in general.
so they say, you get 5 years more in your looks, you get uglier. i think thats the only thing which the studies prove.
but that thing with youth and beauty. there are other studies which say if you are beauty you 1) get better jobs 2) have a better carreer 3) get more jobs 4) get more gf's 5) are liked more by others 6) have better chances at court 7) are liked more by your parents . i think there are some more things which these studies say, but i think these points are enough.
if you make the best out of you , you maybe can compensate the less attractivity which comes with baldnesss , but still you are less attractive.
though there are studies which say beautiful people are not happier than ugly ones.
so , why do you suffer from hairloss???
good question. its coz of your thoughts and probably you are mentally ill.
so see a Doctor. i do that. and work on yourself coz thats the only way to get out of that.
i dont know a how much better life you would have with hair compared to no hair.
i really dont know it.
im speaking of facts , of objectivity.
and fact is you have in general a better life with hair than without.
thats proven. but to what extent that is a big big question.
so the question is, should you try to reverse your baldness or not???
if you suffer from it coz you are ill...then in my honest opionion you should do everything to reverse it.
because if you are mentally ill, that needs in usual about 10 - 15 years to correct that completley. and you dont have this time!
so better change your hair...and in the meantime work on your mind.
if you really got some serious illness in your mind, it does take 10-15 years for some sorts of illnesses. there are some which go away after 1 year or something.
i just know it for narcissm. which i got.
the other illness which many here could have is bdd or how you called it. when you feel ugly even if you arent.
i read something from a doctor and he says the best way to handle bdd is to solve the outer problem + the inner problem.
in the most cases the inner problem is an outer problem too. you never relally can say if its ill or not.
anyway, for me its definatly the best way to solve my hairloss with a trasnplant. i cant imagine to get my illness away in a few years . so better i solve baldness and dont suffer anymroe from it.
