Im Dating A Girl And Cant Get Hard When I Want And Libido Died On Fina

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Basically ive been seeing this girl for a month. We havent had sex until it came about few days ago and in the midst of hot passionate kissing etc i realized i wasnt getting hard at all, i was soft as it comes.

I pulled out of sex with couple of excuses and went to sleep.

Next morning i got morning wood somehow, but i was scared to push for sex, not knowing if erection would hold.

Today this girl messaged me and said she'd come over, but i wasnt sure about my dick perfomance, so i went and opened p**rn and tried to jerk off, but i wasnt getting hard again, like i didnt care, there was no lust, no desire to f*** girls, ive had it before, and its completely different from normal libido, when you just seen naked hcick and you want to destroy her vagina.

Thing is ive been on fina for a year and i quitted around 20 days, to see how my libido and erections would be, because closer to the end of usage, i was having problems with quality erections and so on.

Im not sure what the f*** to do.

Any advice?

She's coming over tomorrow apparently. Im not sure ill have time to buy v**** for the evening.

I jerked off 2 times today, but i barely could get it up and it was semi soft.

f*****g hell. Life is ruthless. I had to pull the trigger on fina to save hair and now i have libido/erection problems. Life is truly a joke.
 

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Basically ive been seeing this girl for a month. We havent had sex until it came about few days ago and in the midst of hot passionate kissing etc i realized i wasnt getting hard at all, i was soft as it comes.

I pulled out of sex with couple of excuses and went to sleep.

Next morning i got morning wood somehow, but i was scared to push for sex, not knowing if erection would hold.

Today this girl messaged me and said she'd come over, but i wasnt sure about my dick perfomance, so i went and opened p**rn and tried to jerk off, but i wasnt getting hard again, like i didnt care, there was no lust, no desire to f*** girls, ive had it before, and its completely different from normal libido, when you just seen naked hcick and you want to destroy her vagina.

Thing is ive been on fina for a year and i quitted around 20 days, to see how my libido and erections would be, because closer to the end of usage, i was having problems with quality erections and so on.

Im not sure what the f*** to do.

Any advice?

She's coming over tomorrow apparently. Im not sure ill have time to buy v**** for the evening.

I jerked off 2 times today, but i barely could get it up and it was semi soft.

f*****g hell. Life is ruthless. I had to pull the trigger on fina to save hair and now i have libido/erection problems. Life is truly a joke.
To me sounds more like anxiety then anything. Your thinking about it too much, and nocebo’ing yourself. If your testing your dick by watching p**rn that’s anxiety lol
 

justbeconfident

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To me sounds more like anxiety then anything. Your thinking about it too much, and nocebo’ing yourself. If your testing your dick by watching p**rn that’s anxiety lol
Lmao, i guess it is, but at the same time my libido is non existent. Previously id want to watch p**rn and jerk off multiple times a day, not its 0 urges.

Fucked up sh*t
 

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Ended up buying Cialis, guess i will see how it goes with erections this night. If it doesnt work, then its gona be fucked up
 

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Gg, guys. Finasteride is a hell of a drug lmao. Even though i popped 10mg of Cialis yesterday and had decent boners in the build up, when it came to clutch time to f*** the chick my boner just instantly died out. And you know why? Because i literally have zero libido, i dont have urge and desire to f*** women, unlike i used to have just a month ago or so.

f*****g finasteride crushed my libido. Its not even about getting hard, its not wanting to f***. Even if i stick the dick inside i cant c*m, even from p**rn, cuz im not desiring it.

Life is a gamble. sh*t is fucked up.
 

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It's pretty crazy how finasteride affects some people but not others.
 

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I've been there, my friend. I know that zero libido issue that comes with finasteride. It is way too embarrassing when you can't get it up with a new girl. It feels much worse than balding. Some will say it is just anxiety but it is much different than that. I still remember the feeling of having no urge towards any girls. Finasteride is just not worth it, at least for me after what i had gone through. This is not to say that finasteride is poison for everyone. If it works for some without sides, i am happy for them. It is somewhat a miracle drug to those people.

P.s: I had tried finasteride 2 times a few years back in college. Had to quit due to sides both times. Libido and strong erections came back both times within two weeks after quitting(luckly).
 

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I think it’s all anxiety related. When I had bad anxiety/depression I had zero libido and couldn’t get it up either. You’ve been here for years and have posted a lot of anxiety related things. Take it easy man, try to stop thinking about every little thing

You still wake up with morning wood and before this girl I think I remember you talking about masturbating often or some sh*t. So it’s most likely not a physical issue.

At some point I remember you even saying some sh*t like you’ll never find a girl and you’re completely done for. Well look, now you found a girl, you did the IMPOSSIBLE in your opinion, and you just found something else to be unhappy about.

Until you try to change your perception, I think you’ll always find an issue
 

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Yeah, I was reading some other Reddit comment and his questions to th doctor.

Essentially, if you are getting more erections, it means your penis works. If that was not the case then it could be physical. However, as the doctor pointed out, it's not like it can work at some point and not at another.

I am kind of in a similar situation except my partner is fairly understanding I am hormone altering drugs. When we were first seeing each other and I started finasteride I was good.

But then we took a break and I took v**** once and just went like wow. When we hooked up again I went straight to v**** (she doesn't know). Tried to decrease. I was able to preform once out of 4 times without v****. So I do believe it's partially mentally. Being confident in your and making your partner understand.

Hooks up are hard and yeah for that for sure I'd probably use something. Rock their world and disappoint them later hahahaha
 

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how many of these threads have you started??. Just stick to one, what the hell.
 

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Basically ive been seeing this girl for a month. We havent had sex until it came about few days ago and in the midst of hot passionate kissing etc i realized i wasnt getting hard at all, i was soft as it comes.

I pulled out of sex with couple of excuses and went to sleep.

Next morning i got morning wood somehow, but i was scared to push for sex, not knowing if erection would hold.

Today this girl messaged me and said she'd come over, but i wasnt sure about my dick perfomance, so i went and opened p**rn and tried to jerk off, but i wasnt getting hard again, like i didnt care, there was no lust, no desire to f*** girls, ive had it before, and its completely different from normal libido, when you just seen naked hcick and you want to destroy her vagina.

Thing is ive been on fina for a year and i quitted around 20 days, to see how my libido and erections would be, because closer to the end of usage, i was having problems with quality erections and so on.

Im not sure what the f*** to do.

Any advice?

She's coming over tomorrow apparently. Im not sure ill have time to buy v**** for the evening.

I jerked off 2 times today, but i barely could get it up and it was semi soft.

Look on the bright side.... you have a girl that is interested in you. Many people don't

f*****g hell. Life is ruthless. I had to pull the trigger on fina to save hair and now i have libido/erection problems. Life is truly a joke.
 

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You tried Horny Goat weed and Zinc daily will help you.......
 

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I think it’s all anxiety related. When I had bad anxiety/depression I had zero libido and couldn’t get it up either. You’ve been here for years and have posted a lot of anxiety related things. Take it easy man, try to stop thinking about every little thing

You still wake up with morning wood and before this girl I think I remember you talking about masturbating often or some sh*t. So it’s most likely not a physical issue.

At some point I remember you even saying some sh*t like you’ll never find a girl and you’re completely done for. Well look, now you found a girl, you did the IMPOSSIBLE in your opinion, and you just found something else to be unhappy about.

Until you try to change your perception, I think you’ll always find an issue
You might be correct, broskie. Sounds like reasonable words. Psyche is a sophisticated thing.
 
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