I'm Begining To Accept And Be Comfortable With My Hair

[JohnsonDDG]

After over five years of worrying about hair loss and threating over my future I am now beginning to embrace how my hair is and how I look.

A lot of its to do with getting older and progressing into my thirties. I always felt balding in any form looks quite odd for a twenty something man. Being a nw3 in your 30s isn't really anything to be ashamed of. Men like Henry Cavil and Roger Federer all have compromised hairlines and yet nobody really gives a damn.

Another element of coming to embrace my situation is that the medication I am taking seem to be working and while I haven't regained my hair on my temples I have gained a little amount of density on top. Now I just looked moderately receded and when my hair is grown out - which it is right now - the scalp is not visible unless either under a brutal, artificial light or when soaking wet.

One more factor when it comes to looks is who I compare myself too. Its idiotic to compare myself to Hollywood superstars. Now I look at men my age and judge how I am in terms of looks. Hell, just by being slim in your 30s puts you in a 40% minority.

Just by being slim, nw3, dressing well, and groomed can put you in the top 20% of men when you are over 30.

And to clarify - this post isn't really aimed at advanced balding men - but rather I hope that for you folks who have your hair loss under control that we need to relax about how we view and how we measure ourselves. When we stop comparing ourselves to the top 1% and begin to compare ourselves to everyday, normal people then we begin to facilitate a much healthier concept of self.

 

[ZidaneBaldGod]

Well said.
I think it's much more acceptable because almost every 30 yr old man has got AT LEAST a NW2.
Teenager NW1 hairlines become completely extinct at 30.

Just by being slim, nw3, dressing well, and groomed can put you in the top 20% of men when you are over 30.

That's why i'm working out like crazy.
When i will be 30 years old, i'll be:
- Super ripped and muscular
- Tall with broad shoulders
- Shaved head with a NW1 hairline thanks to SMP
- Well groomed and hopefully with some good money

And my competition will be:

Slightly overweight or just average physique men with horrible looking, thinned out NW2-NW3 hair.

Yeah, i'll become Chad all over again.
Except i'll have earned my position as a top tier men through hard work, sweat and blood! Which will feel even sweeter.

 

[Roberto_72]

Well said.
I think it's much more acceptable because almost every 30 yr old man has got AT LEAST a NW2.
Teenager NW1 hairlines become completely extinct at 30.



That's why i'm working out like crazy.
When i will be 30 years old, i'll be:
- Super ripped and muscular
- Tall with broad shoulders
- Shaved head with a NW1 hairline thanks to SMP
- Well groomed and hopefully with some good money

And my competition will be:

Slightly overweight or just average physique men with horrible looking, thinned out NW2-NW3 hair.

Yeah, i'll become Chad all over again.
Except i'll have earned my position as a top tier men through hard work, sweat and blood! Which will feel even sweeter.

Well good for you! I hope you can keep up with your goals ;-)

 

[Roberto_72]

Hell, just by being slim in your 30s puts you in a 40% minority

True that. The amount of fat on 30 year old men’s bellies is staggering.

 

[JohnsonDDG]

True that. The amount of fat on 30 year old men’s bellies is staggering.

When the average is terrible then its easy to rise above it.

Unrelated but I even had it at a workplace once where all the employees were atrocious (calling in sick, theft, bad attitude) and all I did was my job and they ended up promoting me to assistant manager at 20.

 

[doubleindemnity]

This post made me feel very sad. Not only are my 20s full of misery but now it looks like my 30s will be too. I'll never be NW3 in my 30s and so it seems like I'll never be in the top 20%. Also, if roger Federer is an example of a guy with hair loss similar to yours then you're extremely lucky...whether 18 or 38. I don't want to take shots because I know that this post wasn't aimed at the living dead like me. It just seems like hair loss will follow me around and ruin everything for as long as I live.

 

[Roberto_72]

This post made me feel very sad. Not only are my 20s full of misery but now it looks like my 30s will be too. I'll never be NW3 in my 30s and so it seems like I'll never be in the top 20%. Also, if roger Federer is an example of a guy with hair loss similar to yours then you're extremely lucky...whether 18 or 38. I don't want to take shots because I know that this post wasn't aimed at the living dead like me. It just seems like hair loss will follow me around and ruin everything for as long as I live.

We all know how ugly hairloss is.
Having said that, I have the impression you have an underlying depression that is exacerbated by this problem.
I really suggest you meet an expert on mood conditions, it pains to see you like this.

 

[doubleindemnity]

We all know how ugly hairloss is.
Having said that, I have the impression you have an underlying depression that is exacerbated by this problem.
I really suggest you meet an expert on mood conditions, it pains to see you like this.

But people on here say that their hair loss troubles are always trivialised by therapists and specialists. Is this really a viable solution?

 

[michel sapin]

@JohnsonDDG ; As you get older and "cope " more with the hair loss thing . IS it also related to the fact that you have a better carrer , and are well established in your professional life / income etc ... ? Or is it just related to the fact that most 30 's are out of shape and balding in your area ?
Because I am about to start medical study at 25 yo, and starting from scratch all over again and being surrounded by younger peer , make me wan't to keep my hair even more !

 

[Roberto_72]

But people on here say that their hair loss troubles are always trivialised by therapists and specialists. Is this really a viable solution?

Sorry I think I didn’t explain myself.
I think you might be depressed _regardless_ of hairloss... and hairloss makes it worse. The therapist won’t dismiss hairloss, btw, if you tell him/her it is a real issue for you.

 

[JohnsonDDG]

@JohnsonDDG ; As you get older and "cope " more with the hair loss thing . IS it also related to the fact that you have a better carrer , and are well established in your professional life / income etc ... ? Or is it just related to the fact that most 30 's are out of shape and balding in your area ?
Because I am about to start medical study at 25 yo, and starting from scratch all over again and being surrounded by younger peer , make me wan't to keep my hair even more !

Yes, its much harder around young kids.

When you're in your 30s and 40s and if you're only a nw3 then you are pretty lucky when you see how shitty some people have it.

 

[random phone charger]

Yes, its much harder around young kids.

When you're in your 30s and 40s and if you're only a nw3 then you are pretty lucky when you see how shitty some people have it.

I would endure being stabbed in my ribs in an unanticipated fashion at a nightclub if it meant that I could get my hair back, and I'm a Norwood 2 at 20 years old. Naturally a NW1 though.

 

[arnoldd]

You are lucky man. Medication is working and you are in your 30’s( where almost everybody have some quote of hair loss). You still have the options like hair transplant and toppik. Hair loss is not more a problem for you, time to live the life.

Its complicated when you are in your early 20’s and you cant take any med so even a hair transplant is not possible. Unless you are cute you are fucked for the rest of your life. The acceptance is impossible

 

[JohnsonDDG]

You are lucky man. Medication is working and you are in your 30’s( where almost everybody have some quote of hair loss). You still have the options like hair transplant and toppik. Hair loss is not more a problem for you, time to live the life.

Its complicated when you are in your early 20’s and you cant take any med so even a hair transplant is not possible. Unless you are cute you are fucked for the rest of your life. The acceptance is impossible

Yes - I experienced hair loss from 21 and know the feeling. For some reason some of us have very slow hair loss and some people have aggressive hair loss.

 

[Saurabhaj]

But people on here say that their hair loss troubles are always trivialised by therapists and specialists. Is this really a viable solution?

One of the the fellow user of hairloss talk have told you:
You always find a reason to stay miserable.
What do you think about that?

Hairloss is trivialise by many doctors.
One of my friend who is DNB medicine told me hairloss problem is nonsense.
Despite talking every single day for more than 15 years,he fail to spot my hair loss impact.
He is nw0,5 feet 11 inch tall.
He thinks I should do some other degree just because I might not be able to crack the exam.
On the other hand,while purchasing shirts in a Shopping center,he styled his hair more than 30 times looking in mirror while doing trail for three shirts.

 

[Susanoo]

This is pretty much me. I was between NW4/5 at age 23, bald spot in crown at all lighting and angles, hairline destroyed from finasteride (stayed on it anyways). Every day was getting worse and worse as finasteride was really eating away at my hairline and I've always been losing hair through diffuse thinning, so it just became see through pretty much everywhere on top of my head. Got a haircut every other month and had same barber for 5+ years who has continuously developed ways to make the most out of my cuts as I come in thinner and thinner. In the last visit he asks if I want it all off, me knowing that he's really saying he doesn't know if he can make anything proper out of what I have left. He cuts it like normal.

A month later I have my transplant, then 3 months of torture while everyone wonders what the f*** happened to my head at work (took first month post surgery off), still returned like Gollum. Forward 6 months and I stop worrying about my hairloss, gain confidence and charisma back. Forward another 6 months and I don't even think about it, doesn't even bother me. Mind you I still have bald spot so compare that to the daily depression posts you see from others, not able to do take action or do anything if their not a NW1.

Now I pull each weekend and live my life. It's like the thin areas on my head are a battle wound, a medallion of honor, lol. To my credit I have good frame and easily above average looks wise. One more transplant and I can taste chad status.

 

[JohnsonDDG]

One of the the fellow user of hairloss talk have told you:
You always find a reason to stay miserable.
What do you think about that?

Hairloss is trivialise by many doctors.
One of my friend who is DNB medicine told me hairloss problem is nonsense.
Despite talking every single day for more than 15 years,he fail to spot my hair loss impact.
He is nw0,5 feet 11 inch tall.
He thinks I should do some other degree just because I might not be able to crack the exam.
On the other hand,while purchasing shirts in a Shopping center,he styled his hair more than 30 times looking in mirror while doing trail for three shirts.

It makes sense. It must be quite hard to understand why hair loss bothers some men so much; especially when we see plenty of seemingly healthy and functional bald men with jobs and families. How would they know what lurks beneath the exterior?

 

[IsThereHope]

Well said.
I think it's much more acceptable because almost every 30 yr old man has got AT LEAST a NW2.
Teenager NW1 hairlines become completely extinct at 30.



That's why i'm working out like crazy.
When i will be 30 years old, i'll be:
- Super ripped and muscular
- Tall with broad shoulders
- Shaved head with a NW1 hairline thanks to SMP
- Well groomed and hopefully with some good money

And my competition will be:

Slightly overweight or just average physique men with horrible looking, thinned out NW2-NW3 hair.

Yeah, i'll become Chad all over again.
Except i'll have earned my position as a top tier men through hard work, sweat and blood! Which will feel even sweeter.

I Want this kind of confidence...

 

[RickyH]

Reading through a lot of these posts is confusing to me.

From my experience, hair loss is an extremely rare condition. I live in the Netherlands, and have to go to Amsterdam, one of the biggest and most heavily populated cities in the world from time to time. I'm looking, I'm ALWAYS on the lookout. Seeing a man with any degree of hair loss is rare, seeing a man under 60 with any degree of hair loss is like seeing el Chupacabra...IT DOESN'T HAPPEN. EVER. I loathe being a freak. This sh*t shouldn't happen to anyone

 

[JohnsonDDG]

Reading through a lot of these posts is confusing to me.

From my experience, hair loss is an extremely rare condition. I live in the Netherlands, and have to go to Amsterdam, one of the biggest and most heavily populated cities in the world from time to time. I'm looking, I'm ALWAYS on the lookout. Seeing a man with any degree of hair loss is rare, seeing a man under 60 with any degree of hair loss is like seeing el Chupacabra...IT DOESN'T HAPPEN. EVER. I loathe being a freak. This sh*t shouldn't happen to anyone

That's very odd.

Men in northern Europe are the most probably to bald. In the UK and from what I've seen in Germany - hair loss is very common and afflicts a large portion of adult males.