hair loss and confidence

[Bob Booley]

let's break it down:

a confident man is always a confident man by nature- he was probably raised as a confident child, which carried into adulthood

on the contrary, a man with low self-esteem was probably raised this way as a child


hairloss will not make a confident man unconfident- confidence has everything to do with your self esteem- how much you believe in yourself as a person: it's not how you look, how big you are, how much hair you have, etc- these are physical attributes that dissolve over time- self esteem and confidence DO NOT dissolve over time when someone TRULY has a positive self esteem and lots of confidence- these stay with a man forever, regardless of their physicall attributes

**confidence** has to do with your self beliefs and your inner powers, your natural, defaulted feelings about yourself- hairloss does not affect this. Example: if you were an excellent artist before your hairloss and you could get lots of jobs, then the same applies after your hairloss- nothing has changed except your scalp- you are still a good artist and you can still get lots of jobs

if however, after/during your hairloss, you begin to lose your confidence and self esteem, then these are traits you never held in the first place- because hair loss is only physical, and physical attributes is not what makes a person in this world

if they were, then we wouldn't have bald scientists, bald hockey players, bald astronauts, bald prime ministers- etc etc- you get the point

actually- the CONFIDENT balding people are not on this forum- they're out living their lives, making something of themselves


the unconfident and low-self esteem peeps are in here

and yup, that includes myself- i have always been self-concious of my image











hairloss may make an unconfident man less confident, but not for sure

 

[scottskileslookslikeshit]

hey bob
i hear what u are saying i think sometimes all of us get into a trap of saying "sh*t if only i had more hair then everything would be straight" i fell like that sometimes, but then, i think back to a few years ago, when i was in bad shape, i just figured "okay i'll work out alot, channge my lifestyle, get into good shape, and then everything else will get better"....it help out a bit, but then after i changed that the sadness was still there....So okay i dont have a good job, let me fix that...i did...didnt change me taht mcuh...okay now it must be cause i dont have a good car...that's why i lack confidence...so i got one...nope not to much better...i hear ya that we all would like more hair, and a lot of us think its what's holding us back, but rather than a reason we use it as an excuse not as a reason for making or lives better...we gotta start focusing and concentrationing on what we have rather than what we dont'....superfically i am tall, in pretty good shape, decent size schlong.....personality wise...i have a good sense of who i am am, and generally care about others...i dont think it matter how much cash u make or where you are in your life hairloss is as tough as u make it...i need to take my own advice and realize that this isn't what is holidng me back sometimes...we gots to rise above it

 

[Okayaye]

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[Odelay]

Kinda long posts so I did not read them but as odd as it may seem I have had more confidence since I have started losing my hair than I did before. No idea why that is but I have found it a lot easier to talk to people, both male and female. It might be the fact that I am a few years older now or the fact that I now it is not a huge deal in the big picture. Whatever it is I hope I can find out so I can come back and share it with everyone else.