Girls dating assholes

[hope is near]

I remember someone who mentioned about girls dating assholes in the post about guys who insult other guys with hairloss.
Here is an explanation from Lori Trespicio.

http://www.everythinglori.com/v2/thoughts/complete/Dating Assholes.htm

 

[Healthy Nick]

it's a bad link

 

[hope is near]

it's a bad link

I fixed it.

 

[vwsimple]

i read that whole thing and got nothing out of it. its way too long and doesnt speak directly to the point.

this link is shorter and straight to the point. you will get much more out of reading this quickly. http://www.angelfire.com/vt2/g_hols/Niceguy

 

[hope is near]

i read that whole thing and got nothing out of it. its way too long and doesnt speak directly to the point.

this link is shorter and straight to the point. you will get much more out of reading this quickly. http://www.angelfire.com/vt2/g_hols/Niceguy

Interesting peice but that was written from a guy's perspective who is speculating on the reasons. Lori's thoughts are from her perspective and seem more enlightening.

 

[beast]

from my experience, girl love jerks. if your too nice, they will walk over you.

"nice guys DO finish last."

 

[maybeMPB]

Sure nice guys may finish last here, unfortunately, but for sure are foremost in the eternity hereafter.

Earthly rewards are far more different and much less superior than heavenly rewards.

Simply because we are in the world, we are not to be of the world.

Sorry...I am simply not going change my heart and who I am for the negative no matter how badly I may 'want a piece' and hunger/desire so intensely for some human companionship love.

The state of our hearts should be pleasing to the Most High and should not be altered negatively simply to please others or for our own self pleasure.

In summary, it's best to remain righteous, kind hearted and real. Sure we can gain apparently 'good' things by making some negative adjustments, but the absolute truth is that it is not worth it in the end. All those jerks out there living 'lavishly' will most definitely have to answer for their jerkyness and feel the effects in eternity, and be booted back further in 'line.' I would much rather have great things for eternity and miss out during the blink of an eye existence on earth, than to indulge while on earth losing my heart and lose out on blessings for eternity. Truly, what does it profit a man to gain the whole world but lose his soul?!!!

For the lonely, kind hearted men out there....believe me, I know it hurts greatly, but don't change your kind heart just for some artificial companionship. The Most High sees your heart and will not forget.

All the blessings to you!

 

[Axon]

Whatever, I'm a decent guy and I do just fine. STFU, stop being emo, and work on your abs.

 

[Thinning]

Actually I dont think its as complicated as that.

Ive noticed that when some girl is attracted to me that I dont really want much to do with and act stand-offish with her she just keeps acting more and more attracted to me.

So I think most of those girls "dating assholes" are actually just in one-sided relationships where they are much more attracted to their partner than their partner is in them.

Ive tried to get rid of girls that I didnt really like by being more of a jerk but it doesent work, they just come back for more. Just like Ive chased after girls Ive been ga-ga over who didnt really feel the same for me.

As far as being too nice, thats BS, be as nice as a person as you want but DONT let girls or anyone walk all over you. You would be suprised how much more respect you get from girls and guys if you tell them to f*** off once in a while.

 

[uratramp1]

U speak the truth m8 - well said... :wink:

[quote="Thinning".

As far as being too nice, thats BS, be as nice as a person as you want but DONT let girls or anyone walk all over you. You would be suprised how much more respect you get from girls and guys if you tell them to f*** off once in a while.[/quote]

 

[Matgallis]

Whatever, I'm a decent guy and I do just fine. STFU, stop being emo, and work on your abs.

JERK!

 

[blue]

from what i gain from the girls i know nice guys finish first just there is a point of niceness that you cant cross like when you first meet a girl be nice but drop hints as to you likin her so you dont cross that "friend line" if you cross that your fucked!! then again it might just depend on the girl too if a girl just wants to have sex then she will want an a**h** cause she knows he will throw her against walls and will be a good f*** but then there are those girls that want a relationship and those are the ones that like the nice guys.

 

[George Costanza]

Yip, most girls like the bad boys. Thats probably why like 60% of marriges these days end in divorce. I think girls who are into bad boys are just total dumbasses, their just begging to be mistreated.

I'm a nice guy and I refuse to act like a A hole to attract a dumbass. I'm always going to be myself and if they don't like it, f*** um.

 

[Axon]

Yeah, the friend line sucks. You gotta make your intentions clear.

Am I the only one who really doesn't have trouble at this? I'm not saying I'm the stone pimp - in reality, I don't target or get with a lot of women. But I usually score with the ones I do. They give you signals man; it's really easy to know who you can get with and who you can't...

 

[Guest]

Maybempb, We are all going the same way, might as well live it eh F*ck up. I would consider myself a "bad boy", if there was one definition to define a whole class of men. I sure as hell am no angel.

Girls don;t care about good vs. bad and all that bullsH*. If you guys beleive that you're already putting yourself in a hole.

Girls like a guy that's a assertive and cocky, not neccesarily a jerk.

Girls like a guy that like to do cool stuff and not show fear, you don;t have to be a criminal.

Girls like a guy that will tell them that they're fat(I don;t ecommend trying it often) and not over patronize them on every subject and cater to there every needs. Some guys are so happy to have a particular girl they trun into whiny, drivelling fools and turn all f*cking gay. Girls don;t want this.

a guy can be bad boy and still be nice at the same time. IT's called balance and the ladies love it. Criminal NO, Mushy nice queer NO, a little of both will do just fine. IT's adds surpirise

DO what's natural to yourself and I'm sure you will find someone that likes you for you. If you're an overlly nice dude, then when you try and act "bad" then a gril will spot a fake a mile away.

 

[Odelay]

Didn't read the first link because I have A.D.D. and it was just too damn long . The second one was a bit shorter so I gave it a read and now I wish I had not of because whomever wrote that did so after he got rejected by and stuck in the "friend" stage. While some of it had truth behind it most of it was just angry, bitter, bs.

While some women do date assholes and keep doing so time after time, they are in the minority. If you want and try to break their pattern of dating you are in for a long journey, because it is very hard to do so.

This is just my opinion but I have found that being honest in most cases is the best thing you can do, that is unless you know what she wants and you are willing to start the lying. Once you start lying though about who you really are then you can also bet that the relationship will not last, which is fine if that is what you are looking for. I have found that if two people see things the say way and agree a lot of the time then you are better off friends, whether either person wants it that way or not. The better relationships that I have been in were with women that I only had a few things in commen with. This way if you do hit it off then there is the excitement as you find out about the things the other person is interested in, and possibly find new things that you enjoy. I guess the old saying "oppisites attract" does have some merit to it after all.