girlfriends, hairloss, stealing cars & driving to mexico

[junior_senior]

Gents, how did you broach the subject of hairloss with your gal-pals/girlfriends/whatever you call them.

I've been contemplating a method to do this (or whether I should do this at all) after an event that transpired between my girlfriend and myself.

The scene unfolded like this:
I was waiting around for a few friends of mine to swing by so we could play fooseball and get high. She came by my place a bit before them and we laid around my bed and hung out. We were cuddling and talking about a lot of nothing.

She has a really hip haircut; assymetrical and cool.
Me: running my fingers through her hair "You have really great hair, I wish I had hair like yours."
Her: "If you grew yours out, it'd be like mine. Is your hair curly or straight when it's long?"
Me: "uuuuuuhhhh.......wavey...."
*Thinking to myself: If I grew my hair out it would be long and thin and stringy....I'd look like a date-rapist. Does she really think I'm capable of growing long hair? Cant she tell I have thin(ner) hair on top. It seems very apparent to me that people should be able to tell it's thinning (whether or not they actually can is beyond me). Should I tell her about it?*
Her: "You should grow your hair out!!"
Me: "*pause*...Do you think KFC is still open....?"

So, guys...
How did you bring this up with your girls?

Discuss

 

[hairschmair]

hmm tough one. My gut reaction was "don't" as in don't tell her, but...

If you feel like you 'NEED' to tell her be as casual as possible. She probably wouldn't mind it if you had no hair, but she probably would find it strange if you were obsessing about it.

Jay

 

[Baldie]

When I started going out with my partner (we live together so girlfriend doesnt sound right anymore) 6 years ago she used to tell me she could spot me from behind a mile away due to my thinning crown. It went downhill from that day (in terms of hairloss) and I was almost a complete baldie 4 months ago until I started on minoxidil. My partner did actually persuade me to get on it, i just never got around to buying the stuff. And the results have been absolutely amazing for me. I'm adding finasteride to the mix when it arrives (hope I don't experience too much of a shed, afterall i've been on minoxidil for 4 months). Nevertheless, i've been "bald" for 4 years and my partner hasn't left me, nor will she leave me because of it. She does however, want me to try and use the medications available to see if it works. And I don't mind trying it either. If it fails in the long run i've still got my girl.

My mates take the piss out of me all the time and have done for the last 3 years, but to be honest, i don't mind as I take the piss out of them for other things.

All in all, my baldness is not the end of the world although it would be nice to get that hair back, even if its only for a year or 5.

 

[pbz]

The first evening of my last relationship, the summer 2003 (age 18), I was lying half asleep with my face down into the pillow. My girlfriend was sitting on my back, playing with my hair and said "hey, it's quite a bit thinner here!" (it sounds a bit harsh now, translated into English). I just answered with "yeah, I know" and a sigh.

We used to talk about it sometimes, and she always told me to stay off medications and shave it if it would get too far, which was my own opinion too from reading all of the scare-threads over at hairsite.

The relationship lasted for about one and a half year, but when it ended I got on the big three.

 

[socks]

Junior_senior,

Rule #1 with women:

NEVER COME ACROSS AS INSECURE

Sensitive; Maybe. NEVER INSECURE. Saying sh*t like, "I wish my hair was as thick as yours" is a bad way of conversing with your woman.... If you had acne would you say, "I wish my skin looked as good as yours"? Of course not! She is a chick and you're a dude and you're not suppose to have the same hair or skin 8) You're also her bf not her gf so you're not there to trade styling tips


If you feel the need to tell her just be direct with her. Get the topic of hairloss started (you can wait till a guy comes on TV who is mildly good looking and ask her what she thinks... Then slyly bring up what, if any, does his hair impact her decision). Then just come out and say something like, "You know, I've been thinking... I am going to take some meds to stop my hair from getting a little thin". See what she says and take it from there..

Whatever you do, dont come across as overly self-conscience about it and dont come across as if you're asking for her to make a decision for you. Come across as if you just been thinking and you decided this is what you are going to do and see what she says.


That is my advise... Personally, my gf "found out" when I was spending the night at her house and she saw me pack my Finasteride.

She was like, "what is that?"

I was, "It is Finasteride".

She was, "What is that"

I said, "It is to prevent me from ever losing my hair"

She was, "oh".


End of conversation.

 

[Petchsky]

Junior_senior,


That is my advise... Personally, my gf "found out" when I was spending the night at her house and she saw me pack my Finasteride.

She was like, "what is that?"

I was, "It is Finasteride".

She was, "What is that"

I said, "It is to prevent me from ever losing my hair"

She was, "oh".


End of conversation.

Better than saying 'its for my prostate'