Female Dating site headline "Must have hair or be bald by choice"

[Jp7500]

This was posted by a 30yr old woman on POF lol, feel free to vent LOL

 

[hellouser]

Please post the profile so we can call out this shallow shrew

 

[jabbathehair]

So what? That's her preference. Are you guys telling me you don't have preferences? I am not interested in. Overweight women. I don't find them attractive so I won't date them. If a woman is not interested in dating bald men then that's fine. There are MILLIONS who are or NONE of us would be here...

 

[resu]

Well, at least she's honest about her preferences, I would prefer to not have Androgenetic Alopecia too.

 

[zdm632]

Here's the profile: http://search.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=84894206

30 year old post-wall tattooed entitled Western woman with slutty pictures and an endless list of demands in description. No surprises here.



It's not a preference, it's hating. She's in her 30's, and she's looking for a 37 years old man, 2/3 of men at that age don't have a full head of hair.

At least an overweight woman can become fit in a few months if she puts the effort, us bald men are usually doomed to remain bald.

That's the problem with women who make demands like this. They do it to hurt us, to remind us: "Hey, it's over now, no girlfriend for you, sorry for being honest."

Their narcissism and feeling of entitlement is sickening. I can't call her out because I'm 25 and she only accept messages from 27 years old men and older.

Oh, come on, the "chick" is average looking(in some pictures she "disguises" better, but there's something odd at her), and too arrogant on top of it.
Only high-school, never married, but has children(!), piercings, etc. Well that's stuff i don't like, for example.
I wouldn't even bother getting her attention. Negligible quantity here.

 

[Sir Gilgamesh]

Here's the profile: http://search.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=84894206

30 year old post-wall tattooed entitled Western woman with slutty pictures and an endless list of demands in description. No surprises here.



It's not a preference, it's hating. She's in her 30's, and she's looking for a 37 years old man, 2/3 of men at that age don't have a full head of hair.

At least an overweight woman can become fit in a few months if she puts the effort, us bald men are usually doomed to remain bald.

That's the problem with women who make demands like this. They do it to hurt us, to remind us: "Hey, it's over now, no girlfriend for you, sorry for being honest."

Their narcissism and feeling of entitlement is sickening. I can't call her out because I'm 25 and she only accept messages from 27 years old men and older.

Nah it's definitely still a preference; it might be a stupid preference since she doesn't care if the person has hair or not as long as they can grow hair, but in the end it's still a preference. It might be true that an overweight woman can become fit through effort where as balding/bald men can't really do anything in terms of growing hair when genetics don't allow it, but even so not wanting to date someone who is bald is simply a preference even if it is shallow.

I also doubt that women who post these "demands" do so with the intention of hurting anyone's feelings or at the very least I doubt most of them are that way.

 

[resu]

Oh she's canadian, no wonder the entitlement, I've been told that because of fierce competition even a below average woman in Canada still has a lot of options when it comes to dating.

 

[Sir Gilgamesh]

It's in the title of her profile so of course it's to hurt bald men.

In the title for god's sake, it couldn't be more "in your face baldie!" than that.

Or maybe that's a deal breaker in terms of her preferences? We all have our preferences and some are more outrageous than others, but in the end they're still our preferences and to an extent can be out of our control. Like I can see what you're saying in terms of it being offensive especially since for men faced with the problem of balding its a very sensitive subject, but with that said I doubt she posted that with the intent of hurting balding men's feelings.

 

[ssjpotato]

I recently went on a date with this girl I used to see when i was 18. I wore a beanie and she kept teasing me because we're entering summer and wearing a beanie is weird. I told her i had shaved my head not long ago and i looked silly but she convinced me to take off the beanie. Big mistake lol. Her fun teasing manner disappeared and she just looked at my hairline and asked if i was losing hair. I put it back on and the rest of the date was awkward. The hug goodbye was awkward. And we haven't spoken since.

You know, I'm NOT mad at her or anything. She can't help what she finds attractive and unattractive. Her preferences are her own and I'm sure everyone has unrealistic preferences. But it really hit me that she thought i was cute until i took off the beanie, removed the illusion and suddenly i didn't fit the criteria. Sucks but what can I do? hahaha hopefully meet someone with low expectations, i guess.

 

[zdm632]

It's in the title of her profile so of course it's to hurt bald men.

In the title for god's sake, it couldn't be more "in your face baldie!" than that.

Right! But she only proves her awful character directly. I bet living with such a woman, even if you're looking like Brad Pitt , would be nasty anyway. She would keep demanding impossible things from you everyday, while not giving a damn **** about her beahviour.
She deserves to age alone.
If she was some beauty queen or at least had higher education, etc, those high demands would be more understandable.
But there are tons of examples like this: very average woman, seeking for perfection.
But, as i wouldn't spend even a second with her, after i've read her profile(even if that title with baldness wouldn't be there), i am simply not bothered.
Oh,and a last remark: b**ch says she's Scorpio, did i read well? Well, i'm not right into astroly things, but some scorpio women are true b****s. Not trying to offend anyone, there are plenty of wonderful scorpio girls, but when they're nasty, the are as hell.

 

[Wolf Pack]

I looked up her city, she is Canadian. Wow. It's pretty tough in the UK too but her headline is quite strange. I have never done online dating but that screams of arrogance. Imagine putting no fat/ugly chicks in your headline as a guy :wacko:

Everyone has a right to preference but seems she has taken it too far, no tact or respect. Maybe a lot of baldies have been messaging her which angered her. She is not amazing either herself.

She looks trashy, some may think she would like a jacked baldie or with crew cut. Confirms what I knew from experience, there is only a small minority of women that don't see hair as key. You really need to make up for it if you are balding.

 

[zdm632]

I recently went on a date with this girl I used to see when i was 18. I wore a beanie and she kept teasing me because we're entering summer and wearing a beanie is weird. I told her i had shaved my head not long ago and i looked silly but she convinced me to take off the beanie. Big mistake lol. Her fun teasing manner disappeared and she just looked at my hairline and asked if i was losing hair. I put it back on and the rest of the date was awkward. The hug goodbye was awkward. And we haven't spoken since.

You know, I'm NOT mad at her or anything. She can't help what she finds attractive and unattractive. Her preferences are her own and I'm sure everyone has unrealistic preferences. But it really hit me that she thought i was cute until i took off the beanie, removed the illusion and suddenly i didn't fit the criteria. Sucks but what can I do? hahaha hopefully meet someone with low expectations, i guess.

Hmm, maybe she disliked more not the fact that you're losing hair, but the fact that you're trying to hide it. She might regarded you as weak, if you can't accept your own hair.
Well, that's why going to dates with hats is not recommended.

 

[Sir Gilgamesh]

From my experience it's always been swagger that is the main attraction for the majority of women; of course women are going to be attracted to physically attractive men or men that are considered to be physically attractive, but they're also going to be attracted to the men who display confidence and good social skills.

On a side note I can't believe how many people seem to be getting upset about this woman's title on some dating page and actually feel the need to attack her somewhat especially based around stupid things such as "she's from Canada" or "She's a scorpio". Come on guys you're getting offending by her title far too easily.

 

[zdm632]

From my experience it's always been swagger that is the main attraction for the majority of women; of course women are going to be attracted to physically attractive men or men that are considered to be physically attractive, but they're also going to be attracted to the men who display confidence and good social skills.

Right! That's why wearing a beanie to disguise hair loss means lack of confidence. And unfortunately almost no girl likes being with a man that simply doesn't have enough confidence to show his hair condition.

 

[zdm632]

Wrong. They're also going to be attracted to good-looking men who display confidence and good social skills.

Of course that's the ideal case.
While, as well, not being good-looking or having hair-loss , and lack of confidence added(even if, for god's sake, this lack of confidence can be based exactly on hair-loss) is a major "NO".

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Wrong. They're also going to be attracted to good-looking men who display confidence and good social skills.

Of course that's the ideal case.
While, as well, not being good-looking or having hair-loss , and lack of confidence added(even if, for god's sake, this lack of confidence can be based exactly on hair-loss) is a major "NO".

 

[Sir Gilgamesh]

Wrong. They're going to be attracted to good-looking men who display confidence and good social skills.

And even then, a man with very good looks can get away with pretty much every screw-up in the book.

Women will still find him cute because he's clumsy. Good looks can excuse the worst flaws in a man for a woman.

Actually that's not wrong. Just because women will be attracted to physically attractive men that are also confident and have good social skills doesn't make what I said wrong; I just figured there was no point in adding what you said because it's simply common sense. What's the point in saying what we all know? As for the attractive men that can get away with pretty much every screw-up.. Yeah in some cases, but it depends on the woman and how much she cares about physical appearance. If physical appearance is high up on the list for her then the more he can get away with, but if its ranked in the middle or low then he would be able to get away with a lot less or not very much at all.

 

[ssjpotato]

I mean... I've only known i was losing hair for about 4 months so i'm still in a weird phase of trying to accept it right now lol but i think i'm getting there slowly.

 

[Sir Gilgamesh]

Confidence will do nothing if you're considered unattractive.

Confidence is what causes the attraction in many cases. Are you saying that you've never seen a couple that is composed of an unattractive male and a very attractive female? It can be argued that it is simply because the male has money, but there's been many people I know personally that have been in relationships male or female that have been far less attractive than their partner and they aren't rich by any means.

 

[Lollerme]

Or maybe that's a deal breaker in terms of her preferences? We all have our preferences and some are more outrageous than others, but in the end they're still our preferences and to an extent can be out of our control. Like I can see what you're saying in terms of it being offensive especially since for men faced with the problem of balding its a very sensitive subject, but with that said I doubt she posted that with the intent of hurting balding men's feelings.

You hit the nail on the coffin

 

[jabbathehair]

I can bet that the reason she has wrote this is because she has had a lot of old bald men on the site sending her vile messages! I have a sister who uses that and the amount of old pervs on there is awful. You've taken what she has said way too Personally!

Some women just don't like bald or shaved heads! I. Much prefer women who have long hair than short hair.

I understand that losing your hair Fred has really affected you because of your age but I believe you should seek therapy. I don't mean that offensively but I belive it might help. Nothing to be ashamed of.