Don't we owe it to ppl to mention it first?

[Captain Obvious]

From what I understand the burden of "breaking the tension", so to speak, is on us to bring up our hair loss. When I'm wtih my friends I always want to acknowledge the fact that I'm balding in order to sort of put them at ease if they did have something to say about it, which I woudn't mind. But it's harder for me to bring it up than to react to a comment from someone else about it for some reason.

So do you guys usually crack the first joke?

 

[DammitLetMeIn]

Well,theres two ways of looking at it I s'pose

1.) Joke about it and give them the impression you don't care about it

2.) Refuse to let them joke about it and give them angry looks


2 is more likely to stop them talking/joking about it imo but 1 is more conducive to getting along with people

but y'know, I think a lot of other people aren't really bothered about your hair, its you thats focused on it...

 

[cruz]

Lol, i mentioned this a few weeks back saying how i'm trying to drop a casual comment in about my hair loss when i'm with my friends...still haven't managed it yet! I keep saying its not the right time but the truth is theres never a good time. Just got to get it over and done with.

I think i'd just much prefer reacting to a comment rather than bringing it up first.

 

[Captain Obvious]

Well the thing is it's aparant for everyone to see and I'd just be playing captain obvious if I pointed it out. So there's gotta be like a certain topic at hand that merits bringing it up. I'm thinking I'll mention it when it's a hot day and mention that I need to protect my scalp from the sun.

 

[Lorenzo_91]

I like that. I talk to alot of people about my hairloss. It's also because my last name means bald. So I am always saying that.

 

[The Gardener]

I prefer to be proactive and bring it up first, just to let others know that I'm not self conscious about it.

And right after a show of modest self-deprecation in admitting to and being cool about getting ribbed for having a high forehead, I also toss in the fact that I have a big dick, reminding them that there is a flip side to every coin, and for some people having lots of those masculine hormones can be a two edged sword.

 

[s.a.f]

It depends maybe freinds have noticed but just dont want to mention it. Bringing it up yourself could just open the floodgates to some serious piss taking.

 

[SkylineGTR]

they type of friends that I have are very unique and really non judgmental so it's not even an issue.

I wouldn't want to have superficial friends that judge people on their hair.

 

[abcdefg]

admitting it is stupid. Its not not like that cant plainly see it I mean if they couldnt would any of us be here?

 

[kalbo]

I don't get how you guys never found any opportunities to bring up baldness in front of your friends. Ever since I started school, I rarely see my friends, but when I do see them I've had numerous opportunities to make a comment Like if you're looking at old high school pictures together, you can say something like, "oh god how I miss that hair". The last time I brought it up, everyone was talking about hair cuts, so that was an easy opportunity for me to jump in and make a comment.

For those who have yet to bring up their baldness, I suggest you do so right away. It's better for you to bring it up than for someone else to, which would be followed by some awkward moments.

 

[barcafan]

My guy friends wouldnt really give a sh*t rofl....My girl friends probably wouldn't either...