Do Not, Do Not, I Repeat: Do Not Bring Up Your Hairloss Insecurities In Conversation Unnessarily

[kj6723]

Today I went out for a couple drinks with some classmates of mine, a group of dudes and chicks

I don't know if it was the alcohol talking or not, but one dude with slight, hardly noticeable recession starts talking non discreetly about how he's been freaking out over his hair loss

I'm just sitting there thinking, "WTF is this dude doing? STOP"

Putting us norwood 2 types on BLAST when no one there would otherwise have a f*****g CLUE...and in front of CHICKS for fucks sake

FUUUUUUCCCCKKK

 

[sunchyme1]

Today I went out for a couple drinks with some classmates of mine, a group of dudes and chicks

I don't know if it was the alcohol talking or not, but one dude with slight, hardly noticeable recession starts talking non discreetly about how he's been freaking out over his hair loss

I'm just sitting there thinking, "WTF is this dude doing? STOP"

Putting us norwood 2 types on BLAST when no one there would otherwise have a f*****g CLUE...and in front of CHICKS for fucks sake

FUUUUUUCCCCKKK

loool what a nutter

tense sh*t no doubt. i immediately change the subject whenever anything comes up to do with hair loss. i do everything in my power to change the conversation

 

[kj6723]

loool what a nutter

tense sh*t no doubt. i immediately change the subject whenever anything comes up to do with hair loss. i do everything in my power to change the conversation

Man I do not feel like dealing with this kind of sh*t right now

I just escaped a group of non-balding norwood spotters and have been restored to a head of hair I am moderately comfortable with. f*****g flashbacks. Now I may not even be in the clear as a NW2! I don't want to go back to being known as a thinning dude

hopefully the damage done was minimal. I may need to kidnap this dude and remove his vocal cords so he won't put us at this kind of risk

 

[SteveTabernack]

The first rule of Hairlosstalk is: You do not talk about hair loss.

The second rule of Hairlosstalk is: You DO NOT talk about hair loss.

 

[Rudiger]

If only baldites were a scarier community then that guy wouldn't have dared break the code.

 

[CopeForLife]

I tend to talk about hairloss.

I think the more people talk about it the more another people start aware of it.

Yes, gradually, but still.

Last time I was with 2 my friends one had beginning stage of hairloss.

We were with 2 girls (jailbaits) and while gitls were in toilet I told my friend to be aware of his beginning stage. Before I finished the sentence he rushed to the mirror to check. Girls confirmed he has sign of hairloss later.

He wrote me a few days age that his balding area has been increased.

 

[CopeForLife]

I never even mention any personal problem or issue to ANYONE. It's detrimental, and it's gonna come back biting you in the *** sooner or later. Just pretend you don't care or you don't know about it. It's not hard. I'm pretty good at smiling amicably and cracking jokes or changing topic while thinking "Why am I even outside my apartment, exposing my Norwood 4 hair".

I never do this. Maybe because I cannot lie physically (I start to spasm whenever I try to lie, autism).

 

[Xander94]

You should try it, instead. It's extremely funny and it helps to save face. I love smiling and being polite to people without letting them understand if I like them or not, or what I'm thinking, for that matter. You can achieve this by making small talk and cracking jokes without expressing your real opinions or feelings on certain matters. It's an extremely useful survival tactic in social situations to avoid embarassment and misunderstandings, therefore problems in general.

Haha Im bald

(love this photo)

 

[CopeForLife]

You should try it, instead. It's extremely funny and it helps to save face. I love smiling and being polite to people without letting them understand if I like them or not, or what I'm thinking, for that matter. You can achieve this by making small talk and cracking jokes without expressing your real opinions or feelings on certain matters. It's an extremely useful survival tactic in social situations to avoid embarassment and misunderstandings, therefore problems in general.

I do not talk much in general besides cashiers and etc (I haven't any talk with a stranger for 6 months).

But when I tried to socialise with people they've always told me that they like me for direct speaking and always appreciate that.

People lack honest speak a lot in general.

In short, I speak truth or do not speak at all.

 

[CopeForLife]

Not a great survival tactic, but I absolutely agree about not speaking at all; better than embarrassing yourself unnecessarily. I don't talk to people if I'm not forced by circumstances, but when I do, I try not to talk about personal opinions or issues, simply small talk, hoping to end the conversation soon and get over with it.

You should understand I do not talk about these things with every guy I see.

For a few years it was only a few like that. Another were filtered out.

 

[SmoothSailing]

All my friends know I'm balding (and treating it), including the girls. Still would never mention to a girl I'm interested in.

Some of my friends have actually asked me about exactly what I'm doing in a serious manner (as they've noticed the improvement). Guess they worry slightly, despite none of them have signs of balding in my opinion.

In my teens I'd never, ever, say it to anyone though. I had such bad social anxiety even if I were NW5 I'd probably never say a word about it and just go blank and red faced if someone mentioned it.

 

[buckthorn]

I never even mention any personal problem or issue to ANYONE.

You can talk to me about anything. (no, I am not being sarcastic

 

[blackg]

I tend to talk about hairloss.

I think the more people talk about it the more another people start aware of it.

Yes, gradually, but still.

Last time I was with 2 my friends one had beginning stage of hairloss.

We were with 2 girls (jailbaits) and while gitls were in toilet I told my friend to be aware of his beginning stage. Before I finished the sentence he rushed to the mirror to check. Girls confirmed he has sign of hairloss later.

He wrote me a few days age that his balding area has been increased.

I think you just infected your friend.

 

[Rudiger]

Blackg's got a point

He wrote me a few days age that his balding area has been increased.

Subject title: Dude you gave me hair loss!

 

[Baldingat188]

All my friends know I'm balding (and treating it), including the girls. Still would never mention to a girl I'm interested in.

Some of my friends have actually asked me about exactly what I'm doing in a serious manner (as they've noticed the improvement). Guess they worry slightly, despite none of them have signs of balding in my opinion.

In my teens I'd never, ever, say it to anyone though. I had such bad social anxiety even if I were NW5 I'd probably never say a word about it and just go blank and red faced if someone mentioned it.

what age did you start losing / how old are you now?

Trying to figure out if I have any hope

 

[kj6723]

Will have my second FUE in January 2018, in the meantime, still not a word about my hair loss to my girlfriend.

I will mention it if and only if she sees me with the scabs, and even then, it will be limited to: "Yeah I was missing some hair in that area so I restored it. No it doesn't hurt." *Changing the subject and never mentioning it again*.

Second option: I have a terrible headache and I can't see her that week.

Hair loss will always work against you, the hair loss itself, mentioning it, talking about it, about your insecurities, it will f*** up your relationship. Keep it to yourself and immediately change the subject when it comes up.

"You're starting to bald at the back"

"Yeah" with a semi-amused face.

That's it. Don't share how it's annoying or anything of the sort because she will lose some respect for you or use it against you later.

Source: a guy who started balding aggressively at the age of 16 and has had dozens of relationships since.

Talking about your hair loss or worse, how you feel about it: 0 positive, only negatives that will most likely ruin your relationship.

They just can't understand.

Crown work? Temple points? What are you getting done bro?