Dating scene: more women when you had hair or when thinning?

[Lawstdnt21]

General discussion arena. The most intelligent and physically beautiful women I've dated have been during my "thinning experience." Anybody have any idea why? Do you think women are instinctively more attracted to balding me?


John

 

[Dice_Has_Hair]

Re: Dating scene: more women when you had hair or when thinn

General discussion arena. The most intelligent and physically beautiful women I've dated have been during my "thinning experience." Anybody have any idea why? Do you think women are instinctively more attracted to balding me?


John

I have been told that women are attracted to maturity. Having a bit more of a "mature" look might reflect that. Especially if it is a receeding hairline, from what I have been told. Anyone else have any ideas?

 

[DjSap]

I find that hard to believe seeing as the confidence level of balding men usually is pretty low.

I guess in some cases where the person has blading hair, says f*** it and shaves it off gives the impression of a very confident person. That is the only rational explanation.

Esthetically speaking not matter how much we on this forum want to think that women do not care about hair we should accept that the majority prefer men with hair. Sure there are women who do not think baldness is not an issue, but they are not the majority.

 

[The Gardener]

I definitely wooed more women back when I had a healthier hairline, hands down.

But, it wasn't the hairloss that caused this, it was the fact that I was more of a wh*** back then.

I can say that despite a drop in quantity, so to speak, the quality of the women I have been blessed to date has remained constant, if not improved.

I definitely think it has to do with maturity, knowing what you want, and being more confident of an investment to make from a woman's point of view.

 

[Melbs]

Not attempting to sound like a tool on a high horse... but i had three women in three nights last weekend, so i suppose it cant be all that bad.

And by the way... none of them were vile...

and im not a sl*t...

 

[do it]

I wish i could answer this - I am thinning quite a lot on the crown area now - still look ok from the front - am just about to turn 31.

Split from my partner back in Feb of 8 years who was (IMHO) stunning and thought that was it - no more attractive girls fro me.
Have recently seen a 27 blonde and am currenlty seeing a 24 year old and, in my opinion anyway, they were/are stunners.

I am so paranoid aboutmy hair loss though that if i carry on i will almost certainly f@k things up with this 24 year old though.

One thing that has helped me is that I have really sorted my body out (it was OK before) but i've got down to 7% bodyfat and am toned - they don't see that when i'm clothed obvioulsy but it gives me so much more confidense.

One thing I do think is that i guess we all have good and weak points - some have thick hair and are fat - some have good bodies and are thinning. It has always been my opinion that hair was the most important but i don't think that's necesarrily the case.

I know some overweight friends say that they can lose the weight anytime but i can't regrow my hair - that is true but it takes a lot of effort to keep in good shape and some people don't have the drive to do that otherwise we'd all have a 6 pack.

Here's hoping anyway.

 

[SE-freak]

I find the logical scheme: "I cannot have hair so I will have a nice body" a bit off side(although you will probably have the androgens to get big). Go for the best you can in every section and dont sum it up in a gauge.

Hairloss and the psychology that it generates make you go through waves. This can change you in several ways. There is a case that it can make you stronger and it shows.

 

[dead]

More women when I was thinning definately, probably more to do with confidence than anything.

 

[Guest]

Dealing with male pattern baldness has definately made me a stronger person and helped me look at things in a different perspective. I feel much more confident now and I am definately getting better women now. I think this is from the lessons i have learned through this experience.

 

[amrod]

im a solid Norwood 2 / 2.5 and i get more girls then all my fully haired friends

 

[Lawstdnt21]

Hi

Great feed back guys.

I think that balding men have a "unique" sense of self confidence. Unique in the sense that only we (the balding) wake up with this issue each morning and learn to live with it. We go face the world each day. We find it in ourselves to go out and shake hands.

I started losing my hair at age 18 (9 years ago). At a young, social age we are faced with questions about who we are and what we are made of that other people (the hairy) are not faced with. For me, I never stopped wanting the sexy blonde with the hot bod, I never stopped wanting to be in shape, or be successful. I was always in fear that other's perception of my baldness would block my pathways to the things in life I wanted. It is a point that all balding men reach, to conquer. I made that decision several years ago.

As far as women go. I used to think balding would seriously hamper my ability to attract any (except those I didn't want to). Through maturing, I have realized that isn't true AT ALL. Women in see in me (so they've told me) a man who isn't scared to talk (to the hot blonde), who is successful in his personal life (not willing to share occupation), who has goals and respects his body, who is honest and loyal. Men, that is what women want. Instinctively, women was security. Become the man to give that to them.

By the way, working out for a nice body to compensate for balding isn't necessarily bad. Its good to keep in shape, it shows you are strong (security). Hair won't do that.

In sum. I'm not sure why we are completely obsessed with our hair. I still use remedies (currently on dutasteride) eventhough I'm completely happy with who I am. I think it has become more of a challenge facing me down than anything. I want to beat it, not have it beat me. Because even with a bald spot, I know my woman loves more than anything that I hold her safe at night and let her know shes loved.

Thats all,

John

 

[viperfish]

I find I get more women when I don't give a sh*t about my hair!

 

[Melbs]

Viper Fish... spot on there... i think if someone is stressing and worrying about their hair too much it directly has an effect on the way they express themselves in social situations. So yeah... when i dont give a sh*t, or alternatively am happy with how it looks on a particular night it has a direct positive effect.

The funny thing is, your hair still looks the same to everyone else... despite how you feel inside. f*****g hair.