Couldn't get it up when she was GOing DOWN!!!!

[jimmystanley]

ah man...last night i was messin' around with my girl and i couldn't get it up!! it was suuuch an embarrasing moment...i had to come up with some excuse why i didn't think we should have sex tonight. (as if any guy should have to do that at 25) so then!...she decided that she just wanted to give me a blo job instead!!! oh man...i was as limp as could be and she went down on me and started suckin it soft! This was my second time with her so i haven't really shown her what i can do....i had to grab her and bring her back up. Honestly the worst man moment of my life. impotent at 25. i didn't even want to ask what she was thinking about me...i felt so lame.

support is well needed today. :lol:

 

[hairschmair]

that's what happens when you think too much! f*****g higher brain getting in the way of instincts.

No worries, happens to everyone at one point or another.

Jay

 

[stax]

jimmystanley lol, you're a joker! I would suggest you take 1500mg of L-Arginine per day or a few hours before you wanna mess with your girl. I've heard it makes some people horny as hell and have good hard erections/sex drive. Give it a shot,

BTW, i had a similar experience like you did once but only i was drunk as hell and so was she 8)

 

[BadHairDecade]

well first off what do you think caused it? I forget, are you taking finasteride?
Honestly she's probably thinking it was something she was or wasn't doing and probably made her just as self concious as you're feeling now.
Complete lack of a woody sounds pretty bad. I mean it does happen once in a while but give some more info, like what you think was the cause.

 

[jimmystanley]

ah ya...i 'm taking finasteride....i had to miss about 5 days about 4 weeks ago because i had to get a new perscription...so i think i had a huge increase in suddenly available 5alpha ready to attatch...now that i am back on ii think something wonkey has happend and caused a huge decrease in sex drive over the last couple of weeks....

man, maybe you are right about her feeling like it is her fault...maybe i should totally play it off like it was all her...

but not to sound cocky or anything, but she has a seriously smoking hot body. i am a breast man hands down and she has the nicest rack i've ever seen in real life. (i've seen nicer on p**rn sites of course) but think of it... here i was, lying totally naked with this very attractive and very naked girl beside me, and there was nothing i could do. i'm just thinking things will normalize in a bit though..(hopefully)

 

[Axon]

Even before taking Finasteride, this would happen once in a blue moon. Sometimes you just don't care.

Suggestions:

Don't jerk off

 

[juststarting]

Aww, man that sucks. So sorry!

If she is cool she will be understanding, heck why not just tell her what was going on? Tell her you were on finasteride and just stopped and it was messing up your hormonest etc

If you like her, you might as well try being honest with her If she is a hookup, I wouldn't believe what prior poster said. Women talk about this stuff incessently, phew, having hung out a few times with women doing their "catching up girl talk" they are WORSE then men!! And I quote my favorite comment from one of these sessions, lol. "Man, he was a jack-rabbit. J Jumped on top of me and started jack rabbit f*****g me, it was awful."

What is jack-rabbit? lol, i asked the same question. Well surprisingly, a lot of men out there f*** like they masterbate. Jump on top, and pump as fast as they can and finish fast.... lol.

 

[global]

These things happen from time to time anyway, but finasteride can cause a loss of libido.

There are things which can help you get a hard on e.g as mentioned above, arginine, or v**** or cialis.

But none of those actually increase sex drive or libido, the only thing I have found that works for that is yohimbine HCL tablets which you can get at online pharmacies.

 

[Glassjaw]

yea

that happened to me before, expect I wasn't on any libido-inhibiting drugs, and I was 18! It was however my first blowjob. I was hard as a rock making out and dry-humping, when she put my penis her mouth it deflated. It was so horrific, and it happened three times in a row. We found out though, that the sex deities were upset that I was trying to skip a base. So she jerked me off one day, which had never been done before, and after that it was smooth sailing.

Don't sweat it though, maybe explain to her about what is going on. If she is a cool girl she will totally understand and try to help allieviate the problem.

 

[jimmystanley]

awesome guys.... ya, i'm not really sure about telling her right yet. maybe too early in the relationship? she might have some instinctive sense inside her that turns her off...even if she says to herself that she doesn't care. i'm going to try and lower the finasteride dosage to .2 mgs and go from there. thanks for all the support though...it is kind of a funny situation.

 

[beast]

this happens to me a lot. It sucks but it's all about being relaxed and not jerking off too much. Serious...that has somthing to do with it. I had ED before I started finasteride , but its not too bad nowadays

 

[Thomas]

The same thing used to happen to me all the time!! Then I relaized I liked other guys and was too obssesed with my hair to give a crap about a vage or boobies.

 

[jimmystanley]

update

just wanted to give you guys an update:

well, for the last week i have cut down to .25 mgs of finasteride and have been able to achieve full stiff woods again. i'm still not back to normal but at least i'm not impotent like i was last weekend. Today i was supposed to go down and see my girl for the weekend and all i was all thinking about was how much i wanted to show her that i can get stiffies now! however...last night i called her up to see if she still wanted to get together...and she said she forgot to tell me that she is hanging out with one of her friends saturday night and has decided to work on sunday!!! oh man...i was super crushed....maybe more so because i had so much to show her this weekend and i didn't even get a chance. :roll: damn.

 

[juststarting]

Sorry to hear it, sounds like she is dumping you?

 

[Guest]

lol jimmystanley, everyone thinks theyre girl is the best

 

[jimmystanley]

i think i'm more bummed cause i now have all this potential to give'er the ride of a life time and am stuck at home... now my motive for getting back with her is just about showing her that i am a stud in the sac...haha.

 

[amrod]

its happened to me before

i think the main issue is when ur too desperate to succeed it doesnt work out.

 

[Petchsky]

i think i'm more bummed cause i now have all this potential to give'er the ride of a life time and am stuck at home... now my motive for getting back with her is just about showing her that i am a stud in the sac...haha.

That always seems to happen with women...All you want to do is have that second chance to prove yourself, mainly to yourself, and then there unavailable...mmm.

I got it on with a really hot girl about 18 months ago, we just got back from a club and she dived on me...whic led to being in my bed and simmialr to what happend to you, i got brewers droop. I drank so much that night i could hardly feel my dick so naturally could not get a hard on and we just went to sleep. i never got another chance and i still wonder today whether it was because the little general failed to salute.

 

[Green Soap]

Just remember to go slow at first and ease into it. Otherwise you will just spin your tires into another flat, so to speak. Relax.

 

[TourdeForce24]

Re: update

just wanted to give you guys an update:

well, for the last week i have cut down to .25 mgs of finasteride and have been able to achieve full stiff woods again. i'm still not back to normal but at least i'm not impotent like i was last weekend. Today i was supposed to go down and see my girl for the weekend and all i was all thinking about was how much i wanted to show her that i can get stiffies now! however...last night i called her up to see if she still wanted to get together...and she said she forgot to tell me that she is hanging out with one of her friends saturday night and has decided to work on sunday!!! oh man...i was super crushed....maybe more so because i had so much to show her this weekend and i didn't even get a chance. :roll: damn.

Why would a young girl stick around with a guy who can't get an erection? Yet another reason to get off finasteride altogether. Yeah. sounds like she is definitely dumping you. What kind of girlfriend tells you the day before like that? If that's the kind of girl she is, you should dump her.