qball01 said:
dudemon said:
I have looked like the guy in the pic "muscle-wise" (after his "transformation") for 10 years, except I have had hair transplants since 2004, and scars and some minor facial "deformities" as well.
So, then why was a guy (me) that looked like that (musclewise) considered "ugly" - even called "ugly" by many women on many occasions? On top of that, I was repeatedly rejected by girl after girl, after girl, etc...it was like a broken record.
So I tried changing my "style" (clothes, personality, confidence, etc..) and nothing made a difference. So I asked a few women why they rejected me, and their response: "you are bald, and I don't like bald guys, sorry"
So, then hairloss (as well as facial/symmetry) must have a lot to do with it. Wouldn't you say?
The thing is, you can work out and get buffed, but IMO 90% (or more) of women won't give a sh*t! It means absolutely nothing to them. The only women that like muscles, only like BIG muscles - as in "steroid/pro bodybuilder" big. And, unless your THAT big, you aren't going to impress any ladies (who like BIG muscles).
I've looked like the guy in the pic (more or less) over the last 10 years, but the "gym rats" (hotties in the gym) snob off to me, no matter what I say to them - they ignore me as if I don't even exist!
Muscles aren't everything. If you think by getting buffed like that guy is all you need to do to get laid, you are in for a rude awakening, and HUGE letdown - a letdown so big that it would make any guy become "unmotivated" and stop working out.
When you ask a woman (girl) if she would date a bald guy, "I would date one like Vin Diesel" is the first thing that comes out of her mouth. But that's only because she is thinking in the context that he is rich, famous, has status, etc...
But if an ordinary Joe who looked sort of like Vin Diesel (muscular, bald, shaved) walked up to the same woman and asked her out in a club (with all kinds of handsome NW1s right there in the same club) I bet the bald guy would get rejected across the board.
It just shows how much something so minor (such as hairloss) can put a guy at a huge disadvantage in the dating scene.
And online dating sites: forget it. The bald guy loses every time, no questions asked.
my god...you can't be serious.
First off...you can't just "change your style to include a different "personality, confidence" etc. You're treating confidence like its a supplemental you can just take like a vitamin....true confidence (for a male) is something that radiates through your core essence of being a man....you can't just decide to "try it" one day if you don't have it....the very notion of what you have said is LUDICROUS
secondly...I have seen and in some cases (tho I'm far from a casanova) been evidence to the contrary. Women like Vin Diesel because of his body and his face and the fact he suits baldness...go read his fanpage on facebook with tonnes of women posting "omg you're sooo hot, I wish I could marry you!" Same thing with guys like Ami James, Bruce Willis, Daughtry, Michael Rosenbaum (when he was Lex Luthor), Billy Zane, Statham, etc. Yes, their fame and status obviously plays a role, but women aren't leaving those same types of comments for Danny Devito. These guys are still considered sex symbols (in the same hollywood landscape that is filled with Norwood 1's) because women find them attractive! In the real world, the same thing applies too...an attractive bald man can EASILY be attractive to a wide variety of women, even if SOME women vehemently dislike baldness.
look, if the sad reality is that you happen to be a physically unnatractive man who also happens to be bald then its unfortunate. But please stop trying to pinpoint your lack of success on baldness when you KNOW and have even admitted you have many other physical issues as well. I mean I know you've been rejected a lot, but do you really think a non famous version of Billy Zane or Kelly Slater for example would experience constant rejection? No...its clear that even despite their fame and status, they are still regarded as ATTRACTIVE men....different strokes for different folks. Accept the fact that some women do find a fully bald man attractive, especially if he has other assets as well. I've personally seen this and I'm sure many have. A friend of a friend of mine is 22/23, Norwood 6...shaved head, good features, nice build and a really fun guy...his girlfriend is an equally young girl who does modeling and honestly bears a resemblance to Bar Rafaeli. I've seen enough other good looking bald/balding guys with shaved heads that have attractive girls as well....there is no simple binary in this f****ing matter man! Most guys prefer brunettes or blondes and girls with long hair...but you can't tell me that a really hot girl with short red hair wouldn't still be considered attractive by a lot of guys. I "prefer" brunettes with really long hair...does that mean that I would take every single long haired bruenett (no matter what her face looked like) over a really hot girl with short blond hair for example? (such as Elisha Cuthbert)....NO!!! Its because the problem becomes far more complex than just "bald = eeeew in ALL cases"...Seriously...you're operating from a position of purely hypothetical conjecture...I don't care what you say, in the real world there are far too many examples that prove contrary to your claim that "a bald man will be rejected every time even if he looks like Vin Diesel unless he is as rich and famous as Vin Diesel"...its such bullshit that its laughable. Even in "regular Jo land" a bald guy can still be infinitely more attractive than a Norwood 1....
PLEASE try telling me that the majority of women (even young attractive ones) would go for the guy on the left (with a full head of hair) over the bald guy on the right.....PLEEEASE try and convince me.
Yeah, actually, I bet
most girls would go for the guy on the left. Why?
The dude on the right is...B...A...L...D...and
most women don't like that, know matter what the rest of him looks like. Period. End of story. The reason: He is BALD, and nothing else. That's it, it is purely because the guy is bald.
Not only that, he may look too "aggressive" for most women, who will be intimidated, and would not want to be with a guy like that. I have known women just like that. (young ones, pretty ones).
If you can't accept that, then
you are the one with the problem, not me.
YOU have a problem with accepting baldness and all the crap that goes along with it. No, being bald isn't fun, no matter how you slice the dice. But the more you delude it, by "denial," which is what you are doing, the longer it will take you to realize that being bald sucks.
Buddy, I don't know what planet you live on, but from where I'm coming from, when women are confronted with a bald guy, the majority of them are going to go "eewwww" and that would still include the guy on the right, despite the fact he looks damn good
for a bald guy - unless he was a celeb, or somebody powerful w/ fame, fortune, and status.
Ever heard that song "Pretty fly for a white guy"?
Well, I would bet that
that is what
most women are going to say about guys that look like the guy on the right in your picture, anyways the words will be changed to "Pretty fly for a
bald guy." While most women are just going to go "ewww, he's bald - YUCK!" despite the fact that he looks good for a baldy - better than I could ever look.
Women (the vast majority of them) don't date bald men. Now, there's a big difference between a man who met a woman, got married, and then he lost his hair. That is a different story. Will they leave their hubbys? Yes, some of them will, actually. And the reason: they went bald, and they found them less attractve, and therefore could not be in love with them anymore.
That is reality. It is not the "perfect" ideological world that you think you live in, it is the cold-hearted, superficial world that we all unfortunately live in. That is life my friend.
Just stating my opinions, that's all.
I have noticed a few people making similar remarks on these forums though.
