I apologize for bump this old thread, but I would like to share my experience in this matter, since when I was looking for good advice on this topic for myself.My hair used to be super dry and brittle, and now it's very soft and moisturized and healthy, and the most important thing is using a Clarifying shampoo (I prefer the one by Paul Mitchel) about once a week to remove product build up, chlorine and other impurities that dry out the hair.
I started shampooing my scalp only (except for the time when I use the clarifying shampoo), and conditioning the rest of my hair. I LOVE the Live Clean Unscented moisturizer or Argan Oil Conditioner, those conditioners are completely natural and healthy, and they are super creamy and moisturizing. Plus they are really cheap. I leave the conditioner in for a few minutes, and then rinse.
The second most important step is applying about 2 palm fulls of avocado oil into my hair when it is wet or damp (I have long hair so only use as much as it takes to saturate your hair, but not make it too oily). The oil will absorb into the hair as it dries. It does not work when the hair is dry, only when the hair is wet or damp. I've tried all other oils, but avocodo oil is the one that makes my hair the most soft and moisturized out of all of them, plus I like using it for cooking, so I always have a huge bottle of it around
.I like watching a video on YouTube on such topics, I'll leave you one of them here, I hope it will useful to someone