Avoiding Weddings ,family Events, Funerals, Group Photos

Dsport

Established Member
My Regimen
Reaction score
147
Sounds pathetic I know. But these events are milestones in a way because you see people you havnt seen for 5 years.

In addition, they require a bit of formality, hence, no hats and you are expected to wear a suit.

Family group photos are the WORST. We are talking about heavy top lighting, and any unseemly "plugs" or rugs will be preserved for posterity and plastered all over facebook.

IN ALL fairness, i can imagine, this is similar to women going to high school reunions feeling fat.

Then again, being fat is a choice.
 

buckthorn

Banned
My Regimen
Reaction score
5,210
Avoiding relationship with a beautiful girl because you don't know if you will be able to contain your hair loss...

yup, has happened to me three times in the past two years. f*****g dagger to the heart.
 

whatevr

Senior Member
My Regimen
Reaction score
3,659
yup, has happened to me three times in the past two years. f*****g dagger to the heart.

The thing is, it's not so bad yet and I could probably attract her, but I'm afraid of it getting worse you know. Having to quit treatments due to side effects or them becoming ineffective for whatever reason, and then her leaving me because of hair loss, all the while making some lame excuse as to why we don't "work" anymore all of a sudden... that would kill me.
 

paxis

Banned
My Regimen
Reaction score
968
Avoiding relationship with a beautiful girl because you don't know if you will be able to contain your hair loss...
Bru dont give me dem feels..

I am always like "Dont know if I could be attractive enough for her if I become even more bald.."
..

I am feeling so disabled for a good and healthy relationship.. Pff..

Hair is like 70% in looks to me.. Especially if you have a weird head shape you can compensate it soooooo so good.. When I get a good hair cut I am motivated af.. When I get a bad hair cut I am frustrated af for weeks.. And that has always been like that, even before hairloss..
 

buckthorn

Banned
My Regimen
Reaction score
5,210
The thing is, it's not so bad yet and I could probably attract her, but I'm afraid of it getting worse you know. Having to quit treatments due to side effects or them becoming ineffective for whatever reason, and then her leaving me because of hair loss, all the while making some lame excuse as to why we don't "work" anymore all of a sudden... that would kill me.

yup, I know man. It's never really just the current state of your hair, it's the prospect of dating her and losing it in a matter of a couple years. and, the excuses are the worst part. I know a woman would never be honest about something like that, but I would rather they would be.
 

Agustin Araujo

Moderator
Moderator
My Regimen
Reaction score
332
I don't try to avoid any events because of hair loss. However, several other issues which I've been struggling with for a very longtime apart from aggressive balding has caused me to lose a tremendous amount of interest to participate in life activities overtime. It's depressing and unfortunately things just haven't gotten better for me.
 

sunchyme1

Senior Member
My Regimen
Reaction score
6,988
I don't try to avoid any events because of hair loss. However, several other issues which I've been struggling with for a very longtime apart from aggressive balding has caused me to lose a tremendous amount of interest to participate in life activities overtime. It's depressing and unfortunately things just haven't gotten better for me.

like what?
 

Agustin Araujo

Moderator
Moderator
My Regimen
Reaction score
332
like what?

It's identity issues for the most part. I have and been diagnosed with bad generalized anxiety, major depression, attention hyperactivity disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, and those are just a few I'm living with. I have Asperger's which many on here are aware of, it's cognitively exhausting living with this condition. My learning difficulties have kicked in severely, retaining learned information has declined significantly, and doing activities I love to enjoy feel more like chores now. Having to always put a ton of more effort into doing things where for the vast majority of people do with a breeze so easily really makes me feel discouraged.

I was never given proper treatment from the beginning when I was a small child, as my family thought I would 'grow out' of my issues when I got older. It's a disaster for me and I'm the one having to pay for the consequences. We all know I would be doing way better than where I'm at right now if I got the help I've always needed.

For the first time in my life, I will be starting treatment with a professional who specializes exactly with the issues I have. But honestly though, I truly feel it's been far to late for me for the longest time as I've developed 'wounds' in my well being that I just don't ever think will be healed.
 

sunchyme1

Senior Member
My Regimen
Reaction score
6,988
It's identity issues for the most part. I have and been diagnosed with bad generalized anxiety, major depression, attention hyperactivity disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, and those are just a few I'm living with. I have Asperger's which many on here are aware of, it's cognitively exhausting living with this condition. My learning difficulties have kicked in severely, retaining learned information has declined significantly, and doing activities I love to enjoy feel more like chores now. Having to always put a ton of more effort into doing things where for the vast majority of people do with a breeze so easily really makes me feel discouraged.

I was never given proper treatment from the beginning when I was a small child, as my family thought I would 'grow out' of my issues when I got older. It's a disaster for me and I'm the one having to pay for the consequences. We all know I would be doing way better than where I'm at right now if I got the help I've always needed.

For the first time in my life, I will be starting treatment with a professional who specializes exactly with the issues I have. But honestly though, I truly feel it's been far to late for me for the longest time as I've developed 'wounds' in my well being that I just don't ever think will be healed.

sh*t man thats rough. but i can relate. i have some of these issues too. i def have major problems with depression and anxiety. probably have some kind other personality disorders. pretty sure i am bi polar. which is truly horrible at times.

how old are you man? i hope things turn around for you. none of this sh*t is nice to live with
 

Agustin Araujo

Moderator
Moderator
My Regimen
Reaction score
332
sh*t man thats rough. but i can relate. i have some of these issues too. i def have major problems with depression and anxiety. probably have some kind other personality disorders. pretty sure i am bi polar. which is truly horrible at times.

how old are you man? i hope things turn around for you. none of this sh*t is nice to live with

It is hard. Mental health and neurological problems always go unnoticed or get dismissed too easily unless if the individual is severely unable to function. I had a stepfather who suffers from Type I Bipolar, he's a nice man though he struggles mercilessly with it.

I am currently 24 years old. I do hope things turn around for me, and I don't want to be negative but I'm not counting on it a whole lot. I just cannot believe I'm going to turn 25 on my next Birthday and I was never able to enjoy a sliver of my youth without constantly being self aware of dealing with my problems. We only get to have a youth once and it's already gone for me. It is never ever a good or healthy thing to give up but as much as I really hate to say it, that's the only option for some like myself for example. Again, I do hope things turn around for me, and that is if treatment helps, but I don't see any light at the end of the tunnel.
 

tomcat

Established Member
My Regimen
Reaction score
277
Same here. Too bald and ugly for any social event. I'm better off trying to live like a ghost, since I look like a corpse.
if u had good body like chris evans not face only body would u go?
 

sunchyme1

Senior Member
My Regimen
Reaction score
6,988
It is hard. Mental health and neurological problems always go unnoticed or get dismissed too easily unless if the individual is severely unable to function. I had a stepfather who suffers from Type I Bipolar, he's a nice man though he struggles mercilessly with it.

I am currently 24 years old. I do hope things turn around for me, and I don't want to be negative but I'm not counting on it a whole lot. I just cannot believe I'm going to turn 25 on my next Birthday and I was never able to enjoy a sliver of my youth without constantly being self aware of dealing with my problems. We only get to have a youth once and it's already gone for me. It is never ever a good or healthy thing to give up but as much as I really hate to say it, that's the only option for some like myself for example. Again, I do hope things turn around for me, and that is if treatment helps, but I don't see any light at the end of the tunnel.

i can relate to this too. i think when i was growing up, i was too much of a worrier and had too much anxiety to enjoy my youth really. which makes me sad as sh*t when i look back. i wish i was more carefree and enjoyed myself more.

but i take comfort in other people who had similar stories, and ended up enjoying the rest of lives much much better. you can never get your youth back, but your only 24 man, you got plenty time to turn things around and have a good life.

how is your hair?
 

Agustin Araujo

Moderator
Moderator
My Regimen
Reaction score
332
i can relate to this too. i think when i was growing up, i was too much of a worrier and had too much anxiety to enjoy my youth really. which makes me sad as sh*t when i look back. i wish i was more carefree and enjoyed myself more.

but i take comfort in other people who had similar stories, and ended up enjoying the rest of lives much much better. you can never get your youth back, but your only 24 man, you got plenty time to turn things around and have a good life.

how is your hair?

I was a much, much happier dude when growing up. But as previous issues continued while other problems came up and no attention or treatment came to need, that's when my well being declined rapidly. I hardly made it out of high school, I was going to community college but completely dropped out as I became too depressed to go on. Also, school is a hostile environment and insurmountable for me.

My hair was doing good several months ago but I keep having thinning issues. I'm taking Dutasteride but still keep balding, however the strength of this treatment never ceases to impress me despite being far from perfect. I was even on RU58841 for a little over a year but I stopped as I realized it really wasn't doing much for me. I keep my head buzzed at a 1.5 to stay clean looking and to keep my current hairline even looking. I do this because when I let my hair grow out, it's bushy on the sides but diffused on the top, and when I comb my hair the front has that thin looking old man hair which I hate so much. And as if that isn't bad enough already, my remaining hair continues to gray rapidly as well, so that's another turmoil I'm dealing at this age. So yeah, there's no way getting around this.
 

rclark

Banned
My Regimen
Reaction score
1,774
I don't try to avoid any events because of hair loss. However, several other issues which I've been struggling with for a very longtime apart from aggressive balding has caused me to lose a tremendous amount of interest to participate in life activities overtime. It's depressing and unfortunately things just haven't gotten better for me.

Sorry to hear that. I really am.

Hopefully things will get better for you in the future.
 
Top