Any ideas on how to get over my ex?

[Bald Dave]

I tell my friends this and they all say go and get laid but what if it isn't that easy? What are ways of getting over it which doesn't include getting laid by a sl*t?

 

[Cassin]

I've never liked the go get laid crap.

Time and distraction are the best methods. Throw yourself into a new hobby!

 

[Primo]

Yeah drinking and getting laid by sl*ts is not the answer in the my opinion...

Taking up a hobby seriously is definitely a good idea and on the social side make sure you've got all your friends there for you so you get the most out of single life.

Also I found that when I broke up with my ex, having 2 or 3 girls in the pipeline at the same time was very helpful! ... I wasn't doing it to get laid, I just wanted to get out there and socialise with more women and it really helped get my confidence back cos I hadn't been single for so long and had actually forgotten how to chat up women properly... If one of the girls I was after was losing interest, then I'd switch talking to the other one and then back and forth it went, I always had something going on and most importantly it kept my mind occupied in those crucial couple of months after the break up :woot:

 

[virtuality]

Keep busy.

It's been almost a year since I broke up with my ex and I haven't been with anyone else yet. Half of it was by choice and the other half was due to a lack of social life.

I thought I was gonna get over her very easily but I initially felt desperate and somewhat emotionally vulnerable. So, to avoid jumping into something that I was gonna regret or something that wasn't gonna last, I decided to take a bit of time off until I didn't feel the need to be with someone for the sake of being with someone. I basically tried to avoid the vicious circle.

In the last few months, I started rebuilding my social life, eg today I talked to four different women and I'm gonna message another one on FB tomorrow mornign. One of them is my dream girl and I really want to be with her, the others are just social friends.

 

[HughJass]

This is easily fixed, Dave.



Just imagine how much more your x girlfriend would like you if you had 'better' clothes, a flashier car, your own inner city apartment and a very generous salary. Are you imagining the look on her face when you tell her about your gold visa card?



Still want to be with her now?




Women aren't the solution to unhappiness. They should just be seen as entertainment for the journey. It would be a mistake not to confront this depression you feel and see it as an opportunity for growth. Too many men just aneathetize their misery with women and end up settling for a life of mediocrity.


Don't be one of those men. :nono:

 

[pidda]

Just masturbate a lot and eat Cheetos.

 

[Ori83]

This is easily fixed, Dave.



Just imagine how much more your x girlfriend would like you if you had 'better' clothes, a flashier car, your own inner city apartment and a very generous salary. Are you imagining the look on her face when you tell her about your gold visa card?



Still want to be with her now?




Women aren't the solution to unhappiness. They should just be seen as entertainment for the journey. It would be a mistake not to confront this depression you feel and see it as an opportunity for growth. Too many men just aneathetize their misery with women and end up settling for a life of mediocrity.


Don't be one of those men. :nono:

I dont agree, i think being in an *healthy* (again... healthy!!) ltr with a good girl can be satisfying and bring much happiness into your life.. problem is to find that good girl, and it takes time... but you know the saying, you gotta slay a lot of dragons before you meet your princess.

 

[Ori83]

to the op, why did you broke with the ex to begin with if you still fancy her?

 

[HughJass]

I dont agree, i think being in an *healthy* (again... healthy!!) ltr with a good girl can be satisfying and bring much happiness into your life

If by healthy you mean -not miserable before you met her- then I'll agree.


Women are like employment- it's never the source of a man's happiness or misery, but it can greatly add to either one.

 

[Ori83]

with this i agree :]

if she goes down on me it sure "will greatly add to my happiness", whilst if she goes down on some other dood, it will "greatly add to my misery"!

 

[HughJass]

Women are like employment- it's never the source of a man's happiness or misery, but it can greatly add to either one.

What a great quote! I'm gonna remember that one! Cheers

I've become quotable!



I've broken through!

 

[Bald Dave]

Cheers for the advice guys. I am starting to get over her by getting into my football and going out with my friends alot more! I started a new job on Monday and one of the girls who works in my department looks alot like my ex and it triggered alot of memories. It will take time but I feel that I will get over her soon.

By the way ive got a date tomorrow

 

[HughJass]

By the way ive got a date tomorrow

It's true what they say- when your puppy dies you snould go out and get a new puppy.

 

[oni]

Norwood spotting on the London underground helped me............

But in truth............you already know what you should do..................

 

[DonaldAnderson]

Just masturbate a lot and eat Cheetos.

Does it matter if they are the hot cheetos or not?