Thom
Experienced Member
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I was told through a negg comment that I was on a high horse regarding my positive outlook on losing hair so I thought I would delve deeper into what got me there and where I came from. I realize this will probably not change anyone's mind to accept the fate of their hair, but I would like to go on record to give my side.
I'm not trying to be condescending or "higher than thou." I've been in your position. When my hair was short and you could see thinning all over, my 'friends' constantly made jokes about it, my dad made jokes about it (he would even put the camcorder on my bald spot when he was recording family events and say stuff like "here's Josh's bald spot!" I was an emotional mess and depressed about it constantly.
Even within the last year I got jokes. With my long hair and beard a friend referred to me as the "fifth balding musketeer," and it disturbed me. I guess what I'm getting at is I know where you come from, I've just had a re-awakening of sorts in the last half of the year. I've started making jokes at my expense, which in turn has caused me to gain more friends and surprisingly more confidence. I fill my mind with positive music, tv, and reading material, and over time it's just transformed me into a more well-rounded individual...which I need because I start teaching next year. If those students are anything like the cocky bastard I was they will try to expose any insecurity I have haha.
What this all comes to is this: I am not trying to be aloof, or even tell you that I'm better than you for being positive. I know the other side and I know it is possible to experience life better. I just want you guys to experience it too. I've been told that I don't know what it's like because I have hair, am 'good-looking,' and I am tall. I have had bad hair, I am only 5'11, and I am hardly a model. Just an average guy who can look decent depending on the day.
I'm not trying to be condescending or "higher than thou." I've been in your position. When my hair was short and you could see thinning all over, my 'friends' constantly made jokes about it, my dad made jokes about it (he would even put the camcorder on my bald spot when he was recording family events and say stuff like "here's Josh's bald spot!" I was an emotional mess and depressed about it constantly.
Even within the last year I got jokes. With my long hair and beard a friend referred to me as the "fifth balding musketeer," and it disturbed me. I guess what I'm getting at is I know where you come from, I've just had a re-awakening of sorts in the last half of the year. I've started making jokes at my expense, which in turn has caused me to gain more friends and surprisingly more confidence. I fill my mind with positive music, tv, and reading material, and over time it's just transformed me into a more well-rounded individual...which I need because I start teaching next year. If those students are anything like the cocky bastard I was they will try to expose any insecurity I have haha.
What this all comes to is this: I am not trying to be aloof, or even tell you that I'm better than you for being positive. I know the other side and I know it is possible to experience life better. I just want you guys to experience it too. I've been told that I don't know what it's like because I have hair, am 'good-looking,' and I am tall. I have had bad hair, I am only 5'11, and I am hardly a model. Just an average guy who can look decent depending on the day.