Gotcha.. I knew you would be one amongst the three options. Even I was at the same stage as you. My hairloss ocd kicked in during the 2 months when I was unemployed. My life became a living hell. I couldn't eat properly,anxiety at every second,used to rage at my parents for nothing,couldn't sleep,used to wake up at 4 and begin searching different hairloss forums. Eventually I couldn't bear all the anxiety and laid it all out to my parents who were very supportive. If you've been bottling all this anxiety inside you and have not confided to anyone,id suggest you lay it out to someone close to you like a very close friend(not just any friend) or your family members. It sounds clichéd but it'll definitely lighten you up. Go to a derm asap and get things cleared. Doubt and vagueness are worse than being told by a derm that you have hairloss. Bury the anxiety ny visiting a derm. No matter how much you evaluate,scrutinize or check your hair,it won't amount to anything fruitful. Indulge yourself in an activity that takes your mind of this hairloss scare. All these things sounded clichéd to me as well,but trust me,it works.
