Saw a guy with DUPA on the train today

[aj218]

So I was on my way to my university on the train and I noticed a guy sitting down and I realised he must've had DUPA as his top, sides and back were really thin. I just kept looking at him wondering how it must've felt realising he was losing his hair that way. It made me realise that hairloss could be so much worse. I felt sorry for this guy but I also felt, by looking at the way he was sitting, he had accepted it and moved on with his life. I mean I've been obsessing over my hairloss for the past 1 1/2 years and have been thinking it was the end of the world for me (especially because I'm only 20) but looking at this guy I realised I've just been making my life worse, I should just look forward, get a great education and job, and hope that I'm in a position where even if I end up bald, I'm bald and successful (and maybe have enough money to get a good head of hair if all the research goes well ;D, hey we all wanna stay young). Right now it does seem like the treatments are working so I don't think i'll be going fully bald anytime soon so I'm not gonna just give up this fight but if I ever notice that I'm losing, I just hope that I am at a stage where the other parts of my life seem way more important. I find it sad though that I didn't think like this sooner because I ruined my second year at university, even my grades dropped a bit (still got a high 2:1, had a really good 1:1 for the first year)

I just thought I'd send this message out because I've noticed alot of guys my age on this site making themselves feel depressed over their hairloss.

 

[talmoode]

good on you!!!

 

[ladysmanfelpz]

Great post man. I hear you. Everyone on here acts like its always themselves that have it the hardest. They always say well I am only this old, or look how aggressive my hair loss is, or my pattern is really weird, and so on and so on. Well haven't you guys looked around and noticed that you are NOT the baldest at your age or have it the worst? One of my friends went bald at 19, and another went from a nice thick NW2 to slick bald by 22. We all want to think we have it the worst and no one can feel what we have experienced, but many others have, and frankly a lot of us have it much better than others. Pretty much all of us do since we are on the forums and actively treating it instead of ignoring the fact and allowing ourselves to go bald. I had noticeable male pattern baldness at 17 and looking at pictures it looks like it started at 14. I was probably near an NW3 at 15 with a very thin front. ****ty indeed. It didn't really bug me until 21 when it became diffuse and I lost about 60% of my hair. Luckily I got on treatment right away and am doing much better now. Well this summer when my spoiled *** was traveling in Europe, I was waiting for a ride when I began to self loathe about my hair loss and how even other countries hate it and I felt like an outcast. While in deep thought leaning against a building, I was continually looked at by girls passing by in their small Italian cars. I continued in my self pity tho as if no one knew my pain when low and behold a family of 3 walked by. It was a professional and sharp looking dad with a business type haircut and an attractive mother. With them was their very pale and gaunt boy who couldn't have been over 19. He was wearing cargo shorts that hung loose on his hips, only to be seemingly cinched to his hips by a nylon belt and a loose white t-shirt that draped over him like a decrepit manikin. He had a navy blue ball cap on and while analyzing this kid, I noticed he had ZERO hair. Alopecia Totalis. Could have been cancer, could have been something else. Either way, many people have it MUCH harder than we do.