This is not a post for the faint of eye. Long read - Patience required.
One more warning. This has nothing to do with some new treatment or fool proof regimen for hair loss. Rather this is to try and help the fellas out there who lack courage to go on. I am not a great writer and have a hard time putting my thoughts together so please cut me some slack fellas.
I have been thinking about sharing this little secret with anyone who with listen, for years now. I have found some simple truths to this whole appearance thing we all worry so much about. We worry so much that some of us feel like dying. I know, I’ve read some of the posts. I have felt some of the pain myself because I am balding too. I wasn’t very handsome even before hair loss and I’m positive I do not look any better while my hair is traveling the world without me. I mean I’m not ugly, kinda plain, not very noticeable in a crowd unless my “personality†comes out. And, hey, it does sometimes! Despite this I have always been able to get girls. I have been married 3 times, all good looking women and have had about 50 + girlfriends in my little lifetime of 32 and something years. So how did I do it.?
Ok, here’s the bit of secret I promised you beautiful balding folks. A lot of women date and marry bald men. A lot of women date and marry not so handsome looking men. If you don’t believe me just go to the mall and look at how many cute ladies are with unattractive guys. Yes, some are from marriages that have been going since the guy was young and beefy, and still attractive, but not all are from this advantage. Think of it this way. If even one bald guy got a cute gal, why not me, why not you? And if this has not ever happened before, why can’t it? But you know it has and does daily.
A lot of women aren’t as obsessed with looks as us men are. Some are, sure, but there are the sweet cute ladies out there who just want a fun, positive, interesting, confident man, and looks really don’t matter as much as we think. Sure they want to be attracted to the guy, but attraction isn’t just found in appearance. It’s a composite of things and looks are what grab the readers attention at first. Then other things like personality will either make or break you. I have met a lot of beautiful women who had the personality of a rock. I would never date one of those types of people. Looks only go so far, you know. So if our looks can’t grab the readers attention, then there are other ways to interest a female. Confidence and positivity. This is the secret. The key. If you don’t think you look great then act great!
What women also want, like us, is to be happy. And if this guy who’s interested in them seems to be happy, then perhaps they think he can make them happy. But if a guy is miserable, negative, dull, and unhappy, then why on earth would anyone want to be around him, much less jump into a relationship with him? Especially if he’s not the greatest looking.
I have heard from many married ladies that at first they were not even attracted to their husbands, but then they were won over by the guy and married them! But, how, you may ask? Well, there is a logically answer for this. One of the major factors is simply “positivity.â€
Here is some definitions of the 10 letter word according to Webster: 1) : independent of changing circumstances : 2) : relating to or constituting a motion or device that is definite, unyielding, constant, or certain in its action 3) Fully assured : Confident..... Or in other words being positive does not depend on your looks or cash flow or car, but the “choice†to be positive. Some things can contribute to this choice. For some it is their car. It’s different for everyone. I’ll explain a bit here. When someone tells you it can’t be done. I say it can. When circumstances say no way, I say way. When all looks bleak and hopeless, I say turn the other way and have a look. When you haven’t had a date in ten years I say change what needs to be changed and start making friends and talking to people. (I personally think it takes more than a hot car to get this way). At first I was shy and didn’t know how to talk to anyone, but with practice I picked positivity up and began yakin with people everywhere I went if even to just to bother them and say hi. (to me this is all starting to sound like an infomercial. Pretty soon I’ll begin to ask for 19.95 in 3 easy installments if you act now )
So, ok. One of the main secrets to a happy life, I believe, is positivity. What gives one guy confidence and positivity can be virtually anything..........Me, well, I glean my positivity from my relationship with God and the gym. I guess you could say I work out the physical and the spiritual. Now I know that here is where I will loose some of you because I mentioned something about religion, or God, or spiritual stuff and I know that some of you want nothing to do with the whole “God†idea. Ok insert you objections here________. I am not pushing religion. Just because I believe in the bible and pray doesn’t mean you have to. This post isn’t a discussion about beliefs. It’ just some stuff I wanted to get off my chest to share to encourage the baldhearted.
Anyway, back to positivity, the key ingredient to the recipe of attraction. The two things I derive positivity from are, trusting God for the direction for my life, and working out to feel and look better, These for me are like plugging into a power source that energies me and helps dispel negative thoughts. We all have the sickness of negativity. I often fight off the more common negative vibes and thoughts such as: “man I look terrible, what girl is ever going to want me?†Or, “I never notice any girls/women looking at me, I must be gross,†or “I could never get a women like that †or “what woman would ever want a bald guyâ€. Now most of these thoughts don’t really happen to me since I am married, but I do often fight of the thought of my wife not wanting me any more because I may be getting worse looking as i loose more of my lid. Any number of negative thoughts can assail us and cause us to be miserable, negative, dull, and unhappy. Act like that and you can forget about being attractive. Negativity is ugly. So is being mean and rude, but that’s another post. Combine that with hair loss and, I’m thinking, that’s one bad recipe.
One last example of how this works before I sign off. Begin by discovering something that energies you to be positive and confident. I fully recommend my regimen, since it works. Then practice. I don’t mean becoming selfish and cocky. I mean practice thinking positively and doubting the doubts in your head. You are not gross, or ugly, or hopeless. I have seen some very unattractive people happily married. Sheesh....some may even think this about me! Who knows. But I have learned not to care so much about what people think of me. In the Good Book it says that people look at the outside of a person, but God looks at the heart. And the fear of caring what people think about you is nothing but a trap. I agree with this. Don’t trap yourself any more.
I know this post is long and some readers may scoff, but if someone has been encouraged then I am glad to share. I hope I may have encouraged those without hope, because there is more hope for you than you understand. Being attractive isn’t something you are, but what think you are. And I think my little balding melon is looking good one me.
CmramlowATyahoo.com for any questions on my positivity regimen. Obviously, replace the AT with the @.
Umm......ok...I’m done.....where do I put the mic?
One more warning. This has nothing to do with some new treatment or fool proof regimen for hair loss. Rather this is to try and help the fellas out there who lack courage to go on. I am not a great writer and have a hard time putting my thoughts together so please cut me some slack fellas.
I have been thinking about sharing this little secret with anyone who with listen, for years now. I have found some simple truths to this whole appearance thing we all worry so much about. We worry so much that some of us feel like dying. I know, I’ve read some of the posts. I have felt some of the pain myself because I am balding too. I wasn’t very handsome even before hair loss and I’m positive I do not look any better while my hair is traveling the world without me. I mean I’m not ugly, kinda plain, not very noticeable in a crowd unless my “personality†comes out. And, hey, it does sometimes! Despite this I have always been able to get girls. I have been married 3 times, all good looking women and have had about 50 + girlfriends in my little lifetime of 32 and something years. So how did I do it.?
Ok, here’s the bit of secret I promised you beautiful balding folks. A lot of women date and marry bald men. A lot of women date and marry not so handsome looking men. If you don’t believe me just go to the mall and look at how many cute ladies are with unattractive guys. Yes, some are from marriages that have been going since the guy was young and beefy, and still attractive, but not all are from this advantage. Think of it this way. If even one bald guy got a cute gal, why not me, why not you? And if this has not ever happened before, why can’t it? But you know it has and does daily.
A lot of women aren’t as obsessed with looks as us men are. Some are, sure, but there are the sweet cute ladies out there who just want a fun, positive, interesting, confident man, and looks really don’t matter as much as we think. Sure they want to be attracted to the guy, but attraction isn’t just found in appearance. It’s a composite of things and looks are what grab the readers attention at first. Then other things like personality will either make or break you. I have met a lot of beautiful women who had the personality of a rock. I would never date one of those types of people. Looks only go so far, you know. So if our looks can’t grab the readers attention, then there are other ways to interest a female. Confidence and positivity. This is the secret. The key. If you don’t think you look great then act great!
What women also want, like us, is to be happy. And if this guy who’s interested in them seems to be happy, then perhaps they think he can make them happy. But if a guy is miserable, negative, dull, and unhappy, then why on earth would anyone want to be around him, much less jump into a relationship with him? Especially if he’s not the greatest looking.
I have heard from many married ladies that at first they were not even attracted to their husbands, but then they were won over by the guy and married them! But, how, you may ask? Well, there is a logically answer for this. One of the major factors is simply “positivity.â€
Here is some definitions of the 10 letter word according to Webster: 1) : independent of changing circumstances : 2) : relating to or constituting a motion or device that is definite, unyielding, constant, or certain in its action 3) Fully assured : Confident..... Or in other words being positive does not depend on your looks or cash flow or car, but the “choice†to be positive. Some things can contribute to this choice. For some it is their car. It’s different for everyone. I’ll explain a bit here. When someone tells you it can’t be done. I say it can. When circumstances say no way, I say way. When all looks bleak and hopeless, I say turn the other way and have a look. When you haven’t had a date in ten years I say change what needs to be changed and start making friends and talking to people. (I personally think it takes more than a hot car to get this way). At first I was shy and didn’t know how to talk to anyone, but with practice I picked positivity up and began yakin with people everywhere I went if even to just to bother them and say hi. (to me this is all starting to sound like an infomercial. Pretty soon I’ll begin to ask for 19.95 in 3 easy installments if you act now )
So, ok. One of the main secrets to a happy life, I believe, is positivity. What gives one guy confidence and positivity can be virtually anything..........Me, well, I glean my positivity from my relationship with God and the gym. I guess you could say I work out the physical and the spiritual. Now I know that here is where I will loose some of you because I mentioned something about religion, or God, or spiritual stuff and I know that some of you want nothing to do with the whole “God†idea. Ok insert you objections here________. I am not pushing religion. Just because I believe in the bible and pray doesn’t mean you have to. This post isn’t a discussion about beliefs. It’ just some stuff I wanted to get off my chest to share to encourage the baldhearted.
Anyway, back to positivity, the key ingredient to the recipe of attraction. The two things I derive positivity from are, trusting God for the direction for my life, and working out to feel and look better, These for me are like plugging into a power source that energies me and helps dispel negative thoughts. We all have the sickness of negativity. I often fight off the more common negative vibes and thoughts such as: “man I look terrible, what girl is ever going to want me?†Or, “I never notice any girls/women looking at me, I must be gross,†or “I could never get a women like that †or “what woman would ever want a bald guyâ€. Now most of these thoughts don’t really happen to me since I am married, but I do often fight of the thought of my wife not wanting me any more because I may be getting worse looking as i loose more of my lid. Any number of negative thoughts can assail us and cause us to be miserable, negative, dull, and unhappy. Act like that and you can forget about being attractive. Negativity is ugly. So is being mean and rude, but that’s another post.
Combine that with hair loss and, I’m thinking, that’s one bad recipe.One last example of how this works before I sign off. Begin by discovering something that energies you to be positive and confident. I fully recommend my regimen, since it works. Then practice. I don’t mean becoming selfish and cocky. I mean practice thinking positively and doubting the doubts in your head. You are not gross, or ugly, or hopeless. I have seen some very unattractive people happily married. Sheesh....some may even think this about me! Who knows. But I have learned not to care so much about what people think of me. In the Good Book it says that people look at the outside of a person, but God looks at the heart. And the fear of caring what people think about you is nothing but a trap. I agree with this. Don’t trap yourself any more.
I know this post is long and some readers may scoff, but if someone has been encouraged then I am glad to share. I hope I may have encouraged those without hope, because there is more hope for you than you understand. Being attractive isn’t something you are, but what think you are. And I think my little balding melon is looking good one me.
CmramlowATyahoo.com for any questions on my positivity regimen. Obviously, replace the AT with the @.
Umm......ok...I’m done.....where do I put the mic?
