Double whammy

[baldguy28]

Have any of you ever had to dealing with losing your hair and the loss of your mother or father? I've been struggling dealing with hairloss for years, have never had a girlfriend etc and I just lost my father to cancer. On top of that, my 21 year old brother is 6' tall with his full head of hair, has girls calling him constantly and is cocky on top of it. At my father's funeral, when my brother and I were standing side by side he was complemented on his appearance by a relative that we hadn't seen in awhile and then the guy turned to me and said "I remember you as the guy with the orange hair when you were younger (my hair that is left is blond-brown) But now you're starting to resemble your dad, hair and everything (keep in mind this is my father's funeral. His hair started to go rapidly in his mid-20's)" He also said: "Even though your brother may be taller, always remember that you are the oldest so don't let him push you around if he tries". Needless to say I wish this guy was stuffed into the casket with my father. I hate life right now and honestly feel like I want to die but I don't feel like seeing a counselor and having to take meds so I'm going to try to cope with it on my own because I'm a strong person in general. Have you ever heard anything like this sh*t though? It shows just how important appearance is in our society and it is basically everything. If you don't look the part, prepare to be a punching bag and disrespected constantly by people.

 

[Britannia]

Firstly if someone puts you down or laughs at you because of your hairloss, it is because they are feeling insecure about something about themselves. Secondly apperance is important, and hairloss does affect apperance, but it doesnt have to do so in a negative way.
Everyone has feelings from time to time about they are "not as good" as someone else thats close to them. This occurs between siblings/friends/work collegues.
My advice would be that if you are seriously down about your hairloss, and you would be happy to try some treatment of some kind you could start on some/all of the "big 3" (the 3 treatments proven to help hairloss, which are Finasteride (Propecia), Minoxidil and Nizoral). This will give you a massive confidence boost as you are doing something positive about your hairloss, and putting up a fight.
If you really are feeling down about the loss of your father then really consider seeing your doctor, theres no shame about it whatsoever and it will really help you. In the mean time keep posting your feelings here.

 

[global]

That guy may have thought he was being friendly/helpful even though what he actually said was pretty insensitive so don't feel too bad towards him, sometimes people say hurtful things without realising it.

Obviously now is a hard time for you, you are right balding guys frequently have to put up with this sort of thing but in your case it is coming on top of other bad things so it is all piling up.

I feel that in a few weeks you will be coming to terms with your father passing away & will start to feel better, but if not, as the other poster said, there is no shame in going to the doctor and getting some temporary help with your depression etc.

Good luck.

 

[Britannia]

That guy may have thought he was being friendly/helpful even though what he actually said was pretty insensitive so don't feel too bad towards him, sometimes people say hurtful things without realising it.

Yes I was being helpful and No I wasnt being insensitive. I have no idea why you would consider what I posted was "hurtful".

 

[imissmyhair]

hes talking about the guy at the funeral, not u trentender :roll: