do you talk your stress/ fears/ decisions over with people?
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Solo
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I keep it to myself.
Psyquiatry says is better to talk out, but I don´t find much aliby in talking to a closed one. I also don´t like to use other people as a kleenex for my problems. I think is much intersting to analize yourself and learn from it.
And, usually, we people never really listen, and never really understand, so we are prone to give pretty bad advices.
Psyquiatry says is better to talk out, but I don´t find much aliby in talking to a closed one. I also don´t like to use other people as a kleenex for my problems. I think is much intersting to analize yourself and learn from it.
And, usually, we people never really listen, and never really understand, so we are prone to give pretty bad advices.
omgstfuty
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In the past, and basically pretty much of all my life I kept all of my problems to myself, I actaully thought it give me some control, but as you get older your problems gets bigger I think, and no way can a man keep his problems to himself for ever. Its possible to keep them inside you, but eventually they will screw you over.
Its sounds kinda lame but I talk to my family now about my deepest problems. they understand me the best, and to be honest, since doing so, I feel a great relief off my chest.
The best thing about talking with family, is that they wont judge you and not see you any differnt compared to lovers and friends.
I reccomend it
Its sounds kinda lame but I talk to my family now about my deepest problems. they understand me the best, and to be honest, since doing so, I feel a great relief off my chest.
The best thing about talking with family, is that they wont judge you and not see you any differnt compared to lovers and friends.
I reccomend it
Felk
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Talking over it with others is essential.
Life is 10% what happens to you, 90% how you think about what happens to you.
Therefore 90% of what happens to you is down to your perception of things, and your experiences are interpretted with a strong bias. Attempting to be objective with your owns thoughts is close to impossible - other people have to provide this as an objective umpire.
Life is 10% what happens to you, 90% how you think about what happens to you.
Therefore 90% of what happens to you is down to your perception of things, and your experiences are interpretted with a strong bias. Attempting to be objective with your owns thoughts is close to impossible - other people have to provide this as an objective umpire.
Solo
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Yeah, having this forums is of great help. I have really get a lot from here, apart for the medical/drugs info.
It´s a great relief to feel that I am not carrying this weight alone.
Particularly on hair-loss, I´ll never open myself about it to a friend. He´ll laugh or make a goddamn joke about it, or say the standard stupid rubbish "oh, it doesn´t really matter, no one cares!".
In my group of friends there´s a lot of mockery about hair-loss. I personally (you´ll understand why) feel very tense when they start with the jokes. Fortunately (for me) jokes are targeted to a friend of mine who is NW3-ish and shaves his head, universally known as "penis-head" since the very first day he shaved his funnily shaped dome, and some other friends who have clearly receeded. The bald ones also crack jokes about it openly. Sometimes I get some jokes too, but I don´t feel comfortable with them.
I guess that´s why I´m here. If I´ll be laughing with them I would have never come here in first instance, and I´ll never started a complete treatment.
If I talk with them about this, they´ll laugh and act like they don´t care, even if it´s a friend who is balding. And the next day they all would be like "Hey guys, listen to what Solo told me yesterday: He´s on a hair-loss regimen!!! OMG!! He is a freak, probably he´s mentally ill!!", "what is he using, powdered bat wings and the blood of a virgin??".
So, I keep it to my self. Sometimes I´m tempted to tell a friend who´s showing his first thinning about the big 3, but I shut up as a mofo, and I feel kind of guilty for not helping him. But I know that probably his reaction would be "What are you talking about?? there are no forces in universe that oppose to baldness!!".
And I do know for a fact that hair loss is affecting deeply to some of my friends. I´m very accurate at recognizing "har-loss behaviors" since I started reading the forums!!!. They go out not so frecuently, they try to avoid public exposure, they start to hit the gim, they look for serious relationships to have sex-chance locked for years...
And many of them haven´t thought of hair loss for a second in their lives when I started obssesing at 20. And now some of them are in a very bad shape, and being affected by it.
I´ve thought a thousands times about it, I could help them, but they´ll laugh just because they´ll never accept in front of me they are affected. And I´m afraid they´ll mock me about it.
So, there´s a lot about talking openly with my friends.
I did mentioned my treatments to my mom and girlfriends, and they were like "Oh, you don´t need it!!".
They are so adorable!!
It´s a great relief to feel that I am not carrying this weight alone.
Particularly on hair-loss, I´ll never open myself about it to a friend. He´ll laugh or make a goddamn joke about it, or say the standard stupid rubbish "oh, it doesn´t really matter, no one cares!".
In my group of friends there´s a lot of mockery about hair-loss. I personally (you´ll understand why) feel very tense when they start with the jokes. Fortunately (for me) jokes are targeted to a friend of mine who is NW3-ish and shaves his head, universally known as "penis-head" since the very first day he shaved his funnily shaped dome, and some other friends who have clearly receeded. The bald ones also crack jokes about it openly. Sometimes I get some jokes too, but I don´t feel comfortable with them.
I guess that´s why I´m here. If I´ll be laughing with them I would have never come here in first instance, and I´ll never started a complete treatment.
If I talk with them about this, they´ll laugh and act like they don´t care, even if it´s a friend who is balding. And the next day they all would be like "Hey guys, listen to what Solo told me yesterday: He´s on a hair-loss regimen!!! OMG!! He is a freak, probably he´s mentally ill!!", "what is he using, powdered bat wings and the blood of a virgin??".
So, I keep it to my self. Sometimes I´m tempted to tell a friend who´s showing his first thinning about the big 3, but I shut up as a mofo, and I feel kind of guilty for not helping him. But I know that probably his reaction would be "What are you talking about?? there are no forces in universe that oppose to baldness!!".
And I do know for a fact that hair loss is affecting deeply to some of my friends. I´m very accurate at recognizing "har-loss behaviors" since I started reading the forums!!!. They go out not so frecuently, they try to avoid public exposure, they start to hit the gim, they look for serious relationships to have sex-chance locked for years...
And many of them haven´t thought of hair loss for a second in their lives when I started obssesing at 20. And now some of them are in a very bad shape, and being affected by it.
I´ve thought a thousands times about it, I could help them, but they´ll laugh just because they´ll never accept in front of me they are affected. And I´m afraid they´ll mock me about it.
So, there´s a lot about talking openly with my friends.
I did mentioned my treatments to my mom and girlfriends, and they were like "Oh, you don´t need it!!".
They are so adorable!!