I've been feeling suicidal as of late. I have nothing to look toward to as an aging bald guy. My social life is non existsnt now and tied to wearing hats all the time. I'm tired of having to disguise my physical flaws. Sick of life. I just want to leave this earth painlessly. Being bald sucks. Certain ppl just have better coping skills to cope with being bald. I do not have any coping skills. My whole life collapsed as a result of balding. There is no way out. I don't know where to go from here. I feel like handicap who lost limbs and cannot enjoy the rest of my remaining youth bcuz of my flaws. I look horrible bald. I don't have money for a freakin transplant. My life sucks. No girls. No money. No future
depression/suicidal life is a b**ch
- Thread starter medilook
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Im sorry bro, I really feel for you. But ultimately you're only handicapped by the degree you allow youself to be. Work on yourself. Get fit, do creative work, grow in knowledge and get out in nature. I find being alone in nature is the perfect remedy for the insanity of civilisation. Nature does not judge on appearance. Also it sounds like you need to buzz your head if you havent yet done so.
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Yeah shaving doesn't work for all.
It's not a good look for me
It's not a good look for me
For me now i like the look i mean im so used to it now i cant see myself any other way i buzz it and i do it to the point where the hair on the sides and back are even to the thinning top...but i dont mind growing it out now not like george from seinfield but jason staham (yes i know his name is brought up alot but he really is a good example)
And medilook things will starting getting better i was down about it for a while but i beaten it now...you will get over it.
And medilook things will starting getting better i was down about it for a while but i beaten it now...you will get over it.
Maybe look into a hair system for the time being.
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hey let me give you at least some piece of justification.
You have brothers who are all going bald around you. I have a brother and sister both with the BEST heads of hair you ever saw. People see us together and instantly think Im sick because I dont fit in.
At least your not "alone". Me and my brother started reconnecting a couple years ago. My family and I (cept my Sis) dont talk a lot. Now that hes older and more, not by much but more, mature I can deal with him. Anyway as soon as we start actually getting along now I can NOT even bring myself to be with him because looking at his hair makes me want to blow my brains out. I work hard, he slacks, I put myself through school, he barely graduated high school, I own 3 houses, he rents a beat up apt, I have great credit, he has like a 500 score now, i work out constantly, hes a lazy scrub, I have a very high IQ, hes borderline mentally retarded YET we go out and girls flock to him because he has a nice head of brown hair. What little I have is gray. It looks like hes out with his dad even though we are 2 years apart. I would trade places with him in a heart beat. All my work and everything I achieved means nothing because he has the one thing I still want.
You are not alone, technically I am. All my freinds still have their hair NOT ONE is losing it. I have good freinds who try to make me feel better. They do understand and NEVER say its just hair. They say you look good shaved but I know I dont. I look like a short wide inmate.
You have brothers who are all going bald around you. I have a brother and sister both with the BEST heads of hair you ever saw. People see us together and instantly think Im sick because I dont fit in.
At least your not "alone". Me and my brother started reconnecting a couple years ago. My family and I (cept my Sis) dont talk a lot. Now that hes older and more, not by much but more, mature I can deal with him. Anyway as soon as we start actually getting along now I can NOT even bring myself to be with him because looking at his hair makes me want to blow my brains out. I work hard, he slacks, I put myself through school, he barely graduated high school, I own 3 houses, he rents a beat up apt, I have great credit, he has like a 500 score now, i work out constantly, hes a lazy scrub, I have a very high IQ, hes borderline mentally retarded YET we go out and girls flock to him because he has a nice head of brown hair. What little I have is gray. It looks like hes out with his dad even though we are 2 years apart. I would trade places with him in a heart beat. All my work and everything I achieved means nothing because he has the one thing I still want.
You are not alone, technically I am. All my freinds still have their hair NOT ONE is losing it. I have good freinds who try to make me feel better. They do understand and NEVER say its just hair. They say you look good shaved but I know I dont. I look like a short wide inmate.
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karankaran
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Hang in there, buddy! I can understand your pain, just come here and share how you feel with us! We will have treatments, work hard to earn some money now , i feel we will be in a good place post 2020... the wait could be 10 years but one day u will have ur hair back, we all will do...and who knows...we can have some stuff which can help us regain some of our youth back....
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Yes, this is exactly what happened to me as well and how I feel because of balding. The only thing different is that I'm a girl.
When I started balding, what happened is of course I freaked out and started researching balding and potential "cures" (which I soon found out has yet to exist).
As hope slowly faded along with my hair one part of my life collapsed after the other.
First it was my relationship (it was fairly new and I couldn't bare the thought of being a "burden" for him, and making him feel forced to stay with me despite the balding).
Then, I withdrew from most of my social circle by quitting school and my job due to the depression I developed over losing my hair.
I was forced to move back home, broke and sick, and live with my family. But because they wouldn't believe I was balding (at first, when only I could see),
I spent months fighting with my parents and doctors who never believed me or gave me any time a day. I went to many specialists and they always looked at me as if I was insane, and that a female only 21 could not possibly be balding. This went on for months and months, a constant struggle and in addition to losing my hair I was completely isolated in my own problem cause no one else could see it.
It actually landed me in a mental institution where I was prescribed what I later found out was anti psychotic medication for schizophrenia (!!!) They friggin thought I was insane because I was losing my hair!!!
I had this feeling inside that when they finally did see it and would try to help me, I would have lost so much hair it was too late.
So I started experimenting on my own, finally giving Rogaine a shot, in addition to oral spironolactone and birth control that I literally had to BEG my doctor for and I only got a super low dose. Sadly the hair lost persisted and got worse and worse. Now it's to the point for people to see. I only have one option left and that is finasteride. Too bad my doctor won't prescribe me it so I have to go online for it and keep my fingers crossed what I get is legit.
So here I am. Gone from a 20 year old girl who was once called a "perfect 10" to balding and a 0, I went from having a future with friends, family and boyfriend, job and education, to nothing but isolation, loneliness and depression. I am now a complete loser in this society, and I am trapped here forever. Trust me, I feel ya.
Your doctor won't prescribe Finasteride because it can lead to serious birth defects for women who take it. If you have no intention of having children, then I guess it's fine. Otherwise, just be careful. It's not intended for women because of this critical side effect.
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Do you have a pic of your balding? Not your face, just black it out or do a scalp shot
DoneWithIt
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I don't know swingline, i'm kinda reluctant to post any pictures of myself or my balding.. partly because i'm afraid someone will recognise me (or my hair), since i've described a lot of personal details about me but also some about my ex boyfriend, the guy i'm currently seeing, my pregnancy etc. i know the chances are small especially if i block out my face but still... also im really embarrassed about my hair... maybe i will post pictures later just not right now, i don't feel at all comfortable with it! sorry... but i can describe my hair loss: the frontal hairline has moved back maybe a cm, and thinned out overall + recently the corners are receding just a bit. the middle top of my head is OK. at the crown i have a thin spot but not yet a bald spot, you can just see it is thinning a bit. i don't think it has gotten worse since i started rogiane 4 months ago exactly. my hairline has gotten steadily worse over those 4 months, while the top of my head has remained ok. overall i have lost approx 40% of my hair but since my hair was very thick to begin with i do not have any obvious bald spots yet, except for my hairline which i kinda hide with side bangs. but if i pull my hair back you can really see the thinning of the hairline. side sides are thin too but i cannot figure out if they have thinned since they always were a bit thin at the temples. the back of my head has remained thick and lush for all this time.
resu
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If you're 20 you still have something to look forward because the 30's are where you make it in life, I'm 30 and I have nothing, makes me very frustrated thinking that I now have even less than others and my health isn't getting better either, I have to make a really painful surgery out of my pocket and I don't have the money for it, balding at this point really isn't helping me at all specially because it causes massive anxiety on me and the itch drives me mad. What's worse is that I have less than women, I would always feel inferior to them in a relationship and not in that low self esteem way, just inferior because I have less, like when the wife makes more money than the man.
Hey guys, sorry for the late reply. I continue to shave my head down with a razor every other day and just wear a hat when I go out and go to work. I wanted to get a transplant real bad, but the fact that once you get a transplant, you'll have a big strip scar and possibly have to get more in the future. I'm a nw6 with a hairline, but horseshoe pattern in the back even complete shaved you can see it. I'm 29 so I guess it's somewhat normal to be experiencing hairloss. The only thing I have going for me I guess is that i'm pretty fit and have an athletic body type. But that doesn't make me feel better when I look at my balding head in the mirror everyday. I'm ocd I guess I just don't feel good about myself until something is done. I've gotten mixed reactions from friends. Some ppl say it looks ok and others were like "whoa, why did you do that."
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Dude, serious OCD here as well. I am one of those people whos OCD drives them to INSANE levels then AS SOON as I achieve my goal..... DUMP. I forget about it and my OCD makes me grab something new to obsess over.
Anyway I feel ya. I want a hair transplant so bad and am even going for a second consult with the Doctor I want to do it but it kills me.
It kills me that my brother and sis have great hair but horrible teeth. They got to get braces and bam one and done. I will now be forced to go for multiple transplants and/or forever just not look complete.
Last night my GF was facetiming with family and I walked in. I was getting a direct LIVE look at my face with my horrible hair line. Woke up this morning and had an AWFUL time with my hair. Its thinning so bad. Im basically doing a comb over now to the right with whats left.
Im in a SUPER depressive mood. All I can think about is my brothers hair. We KNOW my sis is only my half sis, and honestly I have to beleive my brother is also only a half because his hair is so perfect. I just want to go disappear for a while Im so annoyed with my reflection.
In my late teens and twenties I was actually offered MULTIPLE times opportunities at modeling. Once when I took my ex to a modeling headshot convention the woman she was trying to give her info to walked right past her and was trying to get me to get involved. Let alone that was an awkward drive home from NY to CT.
Yes Im fit, but really all anyone sees is the face since we walk around fully clothed. Be as fit as you want, until someone sees you naked whats the diff, you might as well be overweight. Since I grew my hair out almost everyone even my GF says I look better with hair and NOT shaved..... Im ****ed, I really am in one of those "wish I was dead" moods.
There is actually someone else I have become slightly attracted to who is a bit younger and they know my brother and also talk about how good his hair and looks are. I wouldnt cheat on my GF but some attention in return would be nice to feel good about myself again.
Im starting to get AWFUL black bags under my eyes and they look sunken in. Im not sure if its the minoxidil or just stress, depression and anxiety doing it.
I had to do work on my tenants apartment yesterday and was so depressed I had to call them and say I didnt feel well.
When I get in these moods its tough to get out.
I just want to feel like all my hard work in life and working out is for SOMETHING! Whats teh point of keeping in shape when my face is now abysmal?
DoneWithIt
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Sorry you are feeling so down...
I understand the frustration with your brother though. Makes the whole "why me?"-factor worse. For what it's worth my "why me?"-voice inside my head has been going on repeat lately, cause I have only seen TWO women in my entire life (except for the internet) with androgenic alopecia, BOTH past menopause! I am in my EARLY twenties and suffering rapidly worsening androgenic alopecia, and nothing has worked to even slow it down so far. All I have left now is finasteride and dutasteride, and I don't know how that's gonna go. It honestly KILLS me to walk the streets and see NOTHING but perfect heads of hair. Of course ALL the women, old to young, have perfect hair, but I've also noticed most men actually have great hair, even in their 40's and up. Sure it's pretty common to see a balding guy, but the vast majority are middle aged and older. If I see a guy under 30 and visibly balding, and I'm not talking a small recession, I always wanna go up and hug him. But for me the "why me?"-thing is seriously the worst part of this nightmare. What are the odds? Going bald at this speed at this age? On top of it, in the MALE pattern with loss of hairline instead of the female version? I feel my case is so rare it's the kind that would make scientists shake their heads in disbelief. All the professionals I've been to has done so. I think, what's the point in anything if I don't have hair? It was my NUMBER ONE most recognisable feature, my big thick hair, and now it's taken away from me at such a young age? I feel ya, the jealousy is the worst. If they only knew how much we would give to leave this pit and join the real world, with our hair and no worries. I've been through a lot, but I can PROMISE, IF I ever get through THIS, I can get through ANYTHING. It's just that I don't think I will. It feels so sore to have lost my baby and soon the man I love because of this too. I have lost everything to this. School, job, friends, relationship with family, my boyfriend (ex) and baby, and now the guy I love but can not tell him because of the hair. I will not let him get attached because I will feel sorry for him if I tell him about the hair and he will feel forced to stay with me though probably wanting to run out of disgust. I cannot put him or me through it. BOTTOM LINE; HAIR LOSS SUCKS!