Advice on how to get over woman you fancy

[Guest]

I need some desperate advice.

Quick summery.

Everything was going swimmingly, until about 2 weeks ago. As I wrote, I started to fancy this woman who‘s at my work place - aged 41 funnily enough.

I never really paid much attention to her for the 8 months I worked there prior, but in the last 2 weeks, it's been hell. I have felt like total crap - my composure has gone and around her, I feel I am started to act all desperate. I feel I want to talk to her, but I in case I make a total dick of myself (even more), I don‘t.

I know I sound like a broken record, but hair loss has killed me.

This last week has been hell, ever since I've started to show interest in her, she has turned her back on me.

She is getting married in 2 weeks.

I need to start finding ways of getting over her. Trust me to develop an obsession as soon as she is tying the knot. I haven’t even bothered in the last 8 months I’ve been there.

My life is an utter disaster.

Any comment or advice?

Is it best to get he hell out of there/leave the job, if it's killing me too much?

What is the best way to get over someone who's killing you inside?

She's 41, she's put off by my hair loss. Fact. But she's 41. Surely there must be some way I can talk to her. I don't want to leave on bad or silent note.

I must get the courage to talk to her, even if I make a total dick of myself, before I leave, I have to say something.

Thanks for any help/advice.

 

[Thinning]

Dude why are you so obsessed with this chick? Really man, there are plenty of girls out there. Dont waste your time with this old lady, its not going to happen.

The only reason I can figure that you are so hooked on her is you have never had a girlfriend before. Once you have been in a few longer term relationships you will know that no girl is worth getting this wound up over. I dont care how great you think she is, in a few months you will be bored with her anyway so go find someone that is your age, that you have fun with and who is a good lay.

 

[Matgallis]

She told u she is turned off by your hair? What a biotch

 

[Guest]

Gunner, I am concerned with you.

You know this girl who has been adicted to my finasteride, I finished her last week. Our sex life was out of this world, but I have now let her go. That's all I miss the sex, but I have a date tomorrow so I don't give a sh*t. Just move on and forget about her. Download some p**rn or something.

 

[Green Soap]

Gunner.

this is what I see.

I see a 41 yo woman who was interested in a purely physical relationship with you before she tied the knot but you couldn't be satisfied with that.

You feel the burning need to be loved by her, another girl, anything!, anyone! You are panicked and desperate.

All she wanted was a lay and you want a lay and potentially more, no matter how slight the amount.

Women have always been described as having a "sixth sense". You have turned her off.

She's getting married, your very brief window for sex has closed.

On top of this, you sound very desperate and young and in your mind, at least subconciously, you believe that you could never do better than this woman.

This will pass with time. Mid 20's are a crisis time anyway. Still trying to establish yourself, still trying to hop on the ladder, as it were.

Bite you tongue, keep your job (don't be an idiot over a woman. LOL. You'll kick yourself later), advance in your career with unique zeal and fervor,make piles of money, and then collect your future trophy wife who is currently in her PJ's watching Spongebob Squarepants.

Get over it, fast, and collect your dignity.

 

[Cassin]

Gunner considering some of your legit posts about the most mundane aspects of human life (YES, attraction to someone who you shouldn't be is extremely common regardless of the age) your number one problem is your inability to make your own decisions.

You see this as well, yes?

 

[Rawbbie]

what's wrong with this guy?

 

[JJ Gittes]

The only reason I can figure that you are so hooked on her is you have never had a girlfriend before. Once you have been in a few longer term relationships you will know that no girl is worth getting this wound up over. I dont care how great you think she is, in a few months you will be bored with her anyway so go find someone that is your age, that you have fun with and who is a good lay.

Good advice and well put.