5 year plan

[Guest]

Ok, I've just turned 25. I'm 30 in 5 years time. Not good.

I seriously need to set a plan. It isn’t panic stations for me just yet, because 5 years isn't tomorrow, even though you say it goes quickly, it isn’t exactly next week.

I've established hair loss has held me back and left me confused, depressed and shocked, but I need some kind of plan.

I don't want to be a loser at 28/29 still logging onto to here like a depressed person I am at the moment.

I also don't want to be bald. This will destroy me. I need answers, some kind of plan.

I take dutasteride, minoxidil and Nz combination. I hope this will do something. In 5 month I move away - with the family still, sadly. Not that I want to live with my parents at my age, but with no money and no girlfriend (house), I have little choice.

I desperately need something to go my way. Money would be some kind of start, and that means getting a job. Problem is, getting a job is all well and good, but insulting my intelligence by becoming a cleaner is more embarrassment I don’t need.

I know if I had my half normal hair everything would just click into place.

Next January I'll be 26, then the Jan after 27, then after that....

Damn, money would be a start.

It isn’t panic stations for me just yet, but If I’m, in the same position at 27, then that would be a different story.

Anyone have anything to add or are doing/thinking the same thing?

 

[stabone1979]

I definately sympathize, I'm 25, still at home w/ parents, but I guess hairloss is the only problem I have, which is the lesser of many evils. Definately get a job that you like, go for a City job that has benefits and try doing some valet work at night on the side or be a waiter on the side, this way you can afford all these hair treatments. Once you have some money, or borrow some, try my regime, its expensive but it works, and I was losing hair at an alarming rate before treatment. If you are a Norwood 3 or worse, finance a transplant with a great surgeon, put down like $1000 and pay as you go, so you can have hair now. Alvi Armani does amazing work and with current treatments available (and to come) you might have more hair when you are 35 than you do now. Think positive, there are many points of attack here. It is a great era to be losing hair.

 

[oni]

Gunner just give the dutasteride sometime to work, you have only just started. I don't think keeping your life on hold will help and who gives a f*** about turning 30. I will be there in one year and your life will not just click into place when you sort your hair out just buzz it off and get out there and meet people. I did think like you at one point in my life (for about 5 seconds) but you have to keep moving forward.

Gunner get out there and meet some people and get a life.

I would just like to say on that point I am leaving the HairLossTalk.com forums. I am happy with my hair and it looks a lot better than it did. I wish everyone luck with their fight with male pattern baldness and the stigma attached.


GOOD LUCK & GOOD BYE :!:

 

[Mickey]

Gunner im 34 and 25 only seems like yesterday.The years has flown by.Try to put your hair situation to one side and try to enjoy life you might regret it in the long run. :cry:

 

[popscene]

Hey Gunner,

I am 28.I live with my mom and dad. I am bald. I started losing my hair 8 years ago. There was no cure and anyway I had no money for it. 5 years ago I have shaved my head and my self-confidence went rapidly down.

Two years ago I found good job, found this site and went on big3. However my hairloss was in stage where is very hard to get some cosmetically accetable results.

The big 3 made some improvement but not much. Since this month I started with new treatment I will give it a few months and if there are not accetable result by then I will definitely shave my head and I will try to live better life.

I regert those 5years of being depressed about my baldness. I think I have still some good years of youth in front of me and I do not want to lose them.

I know it is very hard for young guy to be balding and personaly after many years of balding I still could not face up to this problem. My depression has come to that point last days that I have to do something about it and I am thinking to visit some psychologist as I want to live without permanent fear "how do I look".

So is my story

And Gunner, according to your pics, you hair does not look that bad, really. And I am sure you still have a big chance to regrow them.

Good luck.

btw. these are some of my latest scalp pics to see how bad my hair is

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[Guest]

<paraphrased from HLH>

Gunner; have you ever tried anti-depressants? Sometimes they help. I think ultimately your problem is more psycological than physical. I have hairloss as well, but in my experience its 1000x easier to just push it out of my mind than think about it 24/7. Let's face it, thinking about it 24/7 is bound to make anyone depressed. Sure, people make the odd comment but that just tells me whose a pr*ck and who's not.

You said:

I've established hair loss has held me back and left me confused, depressed and shocked

I can't help feeling that your hair-loss worry is a symptom of a more self-esteem issue rather than existing hair problem. From what I've seen of the pictures your situation isn't too bad, better than a lot of people's. This may seem a hard thing to do, but if you become more content with yourself then you find a hair-loss 'problem' doesn't so much of a problem.

This may sound like an arrogant thing to say but you have to trust me on this issue. Without going into my life details, I have literally been at the very pits of despair, in which my hair-loss was just one tiny thing. Since then I have managed to slowly pull myself together. One of the main things I have noticed is the better I feel the less big a problem my hair loss is. Sure I have worse hair than ANYONE I KNOW but you know what? It doesn't really bother me to much.

There is a poster on HLH called Jikslee. You and him seem to be in a similar situation but Jikslee in all his posts seems to be upbeat and positive. Sure we all have hairloss, but he's not letting him get to him. And I beat he's living a better life because of it.

' know if I had my half normal hair everything would just click into place.

I don't beleive this is true. Hair-loss is more pshycological than physical,

ONCE YOU FEEL HAPPY/CONTENT WITH YOURSELF, HAIR-LOSS DOESN'T SEEM SUCH A BIG ISSUE TO YOU. ONCE IT STOPS BEING A BIG ISSUE TO YOU, IT DOESN'T SEEM A BIG ISSUE TO OTHER PEOPLE.

My advice Gunner:

Ask your doctor for some anti-depresssants
Gather your mates and go to a rave. Get mashed on pills. Get off with some fit cyber-chick there. Realise that life is what you make it; so go out there and have some fun!

 

[Stabber]

i swear we are distant brothers man. I'm having the same fears/thoughts. I turn 25 in 2 weeks. Like you said....next year we'll be 26, then 27.

Time is putting so much stress on me as well. It just keeps happening. I dont think the wife/kids are going to come by themselves in this state.

Catch 22 man. Best years of our lives and we're lost