I am with you. I think setting high standards, and having perfection as a goal is not wrong. Be the best you can be. Dont shoot for a Norwood 3 and say well you would still have some hair left which is okay for your age. Dont use the old age cop out. You can apply that to anything. Well im 40 so if Im fat oh well. Part of others opinions on here is that the grass is always greener. Maybe they are Norwood 4 so your hair looks fantastic to them. Its all relative, but set your own goals.
That being said some very minor hair loss is probably okay as long as its not real male pattern baldness. You cant get paranoid or overly obsessed either. Perfect hair is a really tough thing to do right now if not outright impossible short of being genetically gifted which is what makes perfect hair so desirable. You cant buy it.