How Do You Tell Your Girlfriend You Have A Hair System?

[Fanjeera]

so girls are starting to get interested in me again. how exactly do you explain them? when do you do it?

 

[myhairbegone]

In the middle of climaxing

 

[shookwun]

the golden question asked by many.


Must keep your barnet a secret as if it were the holy grail of your existence.




Unless it becomes serious and you are consistently seeing each other then I would just keep it to yourself. If it does get to the point where you get serious, and see each other routinely then you can tell her, until then it is nobodies business but your own.


What you need to do is accept the fact that if you do get into a relationship she is going to find out, even a friend with benefits for that matter. Eventually they will know, regardless of how good you keep it. Unless your de, and re-attaching every time you see a women it will be hard to pull off.

 

[Noah]

I would agree that with a long-term girlfriend it's better to come clean to an extent, but I still think there is merit in sugaring the pill. My line (which I have used several times now) is that my hair is thinning and I go to a specialist salon and get hair extensions put in to augment my natural hair, but I'm a bit sensitive about it and I don't like my hair talked about or touched. Girls are familiar with and accepting of the idea of extensions, and I think its a justifiable characterisation - my hairpiece is one big extension. But it is better not to burden the ladies with the notion of a toupee or wig - you want to deemphasise the notion of a base with hair tied to it and focus on the fact you are just thickening up your natural hair. Eventually the truth may dawn on them, but I still think they prefer to classify it in their heads as 'boyfriend gets extensions - what a metrosexual' rather than 'boyfriend wears a toupee - covering up fact he is bald', and who can blame them.

If you do follow this line it is a must that you get a good undetectable hairline, and you can't let them see you without the hairpiece or let them see the piece off your head. That is all stuff for private time. Again, in my experience it is better for all parties if you preserve the illusion. You don't really want to see Julia Robert or Cameron Diaz taking out her false teeth, and the ladies don't really want to see Enrique Iglesias or Ben Affleck without his hairpiece. It's just the same for us.

 

[s1nemesis1s]

I would have to agree with shookwun. Unless it get serious, seeing each other all the time…sleep overs, etc…I would keep it to myself. I have been in a relationship for 8 years with a woman and it was still difficult for me to tell her how hard being bald was for me, and that I REALLY wanted a system/piece. She was very supportive and it worked out great. I also like Noah’s idea of easing them into it as well. I would combine them a bit if it were me.

 

[Dante92]

so girls are starting to get interested in me again. how exactly do you explain them? when do you do it?

Just to know, what Norwood are you?

 

[buckthorn]

Girlfriend? What's that?

awe man, I am sorry... things will get easier for you eventually hopefully. Relationships rarely work anyways, so at least you are attaining the most valuable skill in life - learning to be alone. OP - tell them on the first or second date. try to laugh about it or something. I assume it will progressively get harder the more intimate the relationship gets. If she wants a second date, it's not that big of a deal to her and she has the right mindset for your situation.

 

[Fanjeera]

Just to know, what Norwood are you?

3

 

[Dante92]

awe man, I am sorry.

No, you're not, so spare me.

 

[Fanjeera]

bump

 

[Noah]

There were a lot of rumours at one time that he did, and certainly some of his old pictures looked very much like a piece. Nowadays he has either upgraded to a much better piece, or he has had a transplant at the hairline and is wearing a piece behind it - my guess is the latter. His hairline looks a lot better, either way.

 

[Fanjeera]

his temples are very receded

 

[Noah]

True, which is unusual in somebody with an ape-man hairline (do I sound bitter?).

 

[Noah]

Hi Vincent. I don't have any personal experience, but just from talking to people who have done it I get the impression that it is not the panacea that you might initially expect. The main reasons they give are:

- transplants are not capable of creating anything like the normal density of a hairpiece - it simply isn't possible for the surgeons to plant hairs as close as Mother Nature. So to match the low density transplanted hairline you also have to wear a low density hairpiece - maybe 50 or 60% density. So even having gone through the fuss of a transplant and getting a hairpiece to match, you end up with a thinning balding look. Not everyone's taste. If you are willing to wear a piece, you might as well get a thick healthy head of hair LOL.

- the transplanted hairline establishes where your hairline is going to be for evermore. But you may continue to lose your sidehair and your temples may recede. If that happens, you may be stuck with a hairline which is too far forward to be in keeping with your sidehair, and makes you look unbalanced, possibly drawing unwelcome attention to the transplanted hairline and hairpiece.

Having said that, undoubtedly some guys are happy with the results. These are just factors to take into consideration. Are you considering this route?

Noah

 

[Noah]

I noticed this picture on the Hair4All site which is a good example of the latter problem:

https://www.flickr.com/photos/hair4all/15161387174/

The guy has evidently had a transplanted hairline done. Now he is shaving it off and covering it with a piece, but the piece has to start at the same place as the transplanted hairline, to cover the transplant scars. Meanwhile, however, his sides have receded badly, and consequently the hairpiece looks out of balance and rather detectable. Hair4All have done the best they can for him, and it doesn't look awful, but it's not ideal either.

 

[Wolf Pack]

Hi Vincent. I don't have any personal experience, but just from talking to people who have done it I get the impression that it is not the panacea that you might initially expect. The main reasons they give are:

- transplants are not capable of creating anything like the normal density of a hairpiece - it simply isn't possible for the surgeons to plant hairs as close as Mother Nature. So to match the low density transplanted hairline you also have to wear a low density hairpiece - maybe 50 or 60% density. So even having gone through the fuss of a transplant and getting a hairpiece to match, you end up with a thinning balding look. Not everyone's taste. If you are willing to wear a piece, you might as well get a thick healthy head of hair LOL.

- the transplanted hairline establishes where your hairline is going to be for evermore. But you may continue to lose your sidehair and your temples may recede. If that happens, you may be stuck with a hairline which is too far forward to be in keeping with your sidehair, and makes you look unbalanced, possibly drawing unwelcome attention to the transplanted hairline and hairpiece.

Having said that, undoubtedly some guys are happy with the results. These are just factors to take into consideration. Are you considering this route?

Noah

I'll agree on one thing. Density is king. I admire your courage and in helping newbies in this section.

 

[shookwun]

Transplanted hairline is a waste of time. it will never match a hair pieces density.

If you're going the piece route, then temple points would be the only surgery I recommend.

 

[Oliver510]

Thanks for the clarification Noah. I am just looking into al the options.

As hard is it may be to believe, a low density hairpiece is still quite a bit of hair, a full head of hair by anyone standards. Google "extra light hair system". I wouldn't go anything over extra light though, not light, extra light. But if your transplanting the hairline for this, it's best the surgeon has done this before, some surgeons actually advertise this option. I would also show him the piece, and better yet I imagine having the surgery with it attached would be even better.

 

[Noah]

Hi Oliver. Have you made this work for you? If so, how deep was your transplanted hairline (ie how far back from the front)? Did you do the temple points as well? (that is the bit I would be most interested in).

Noah

 

[Fanjeera]

Transplanted hairline is a waste of time. it will never match a hair pieces density.

If you're going the piece route, then temple points would be the only surgery I recommend.

I'm doing this one day, when I see recession on my temples. Is there a worse success rate in this area? Seems like a more delicate area.