Captain Obvious
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Something happens to me when people bring up my hair loss, I'm like a deer caught in the headlights. My mind goes blank and I don't know how to respond. Actually I know perfectly well how to respond but it would take a powerpoint presentation to make these stupid people understand what I'm going through.
So the first incident happened when a friend I haven't seen in quite a long time dropped by unexpectedly to smoke some weed and check out my new Cadillac. The first thing he greets me with is "Damn man how old are you?". Obviously he was surprised by the appearance of aging effect my balding causes. I told him I know I look old and he knew damn well how old I am. Anyway, from then on I knew he was constantly on the verge of discussing the change in my appearance and i was doinig everything I could to avoid the topic and keep the conversation away from me. But then it happened, he wiggled his way in by saying "Come here, let me try something". "No!" I yelled. I knew it was going to have something to do with my head. He turned to another friend that was there and said "I was gonna do that thing where you blow smoke in your hair and it stays there" (that's a real "trick" btw) "but he doesn't have much hair". Then the flood gates opened, both of my friends who are 20 and 21 but look to be about 17 started asking me all sorts of stupid questions.
When was the last time you had sex? What have you been eating? Why do we look young and you look so old but we're the same age? I was being bombarded with the stupidest statements, they kept saying that if I got laid more often it would relive the stress and tension that I have inside and my hair could grow. I remember a time before that too where a girl friend said "it's funny to see sexually frustrated guys", referring to my hairloss. Anyway, these dumb asses kept going and I couldn't get through to them that it had nothing to do with sex or diet or stress, I told them it was natural, it was hormonal, and it is genetic. No, they said, I needed to get laid and eat better.
Later on that week my female coworker who I have to work extremely close with asked "Why do you shave your head?". Another stupid question I thought, I figured the reason couldn't be anymore obvious. "You like your head to be bald?" she continued. I just ignored her, I really didn't feel like going into another speech about DHT and genetic hair folicle susceptibility.I feel so stupid when I'm put on the spot because I can either ignore the comments and move the conversation along or I can buckle down for a round of fact vs. myth with people who have no clue what they're talking about.
Why does hair loss have to be so difficult to explain?
So the first incident happened when a friend I haven't seen in quite a long time dropped by unexpectedly to smoke some weed and check out my new Cadillac. The first thing he greets me with is "Damn man how old are you?". Obviously he was surprised by the appearance of aging effect my balding causes. I told him I know I look old and he knew damn well how old I am. Anyway, from then on I knew he was constantly on the verge of discussing the change in my appearance and i was doinig everything I could to avoid the topic and keep the conversation away from me. But then it happened, he wiggled his way in by saying "Come here, let me try something". "No!" I yelled. I knew it was going to have something to do with my head. He turned to another friend that was there and said "I was gonna do that thing where you blow smoke in your hair and it stays there" (that's a real "trick" btw) "but he doesn't have much hair". Then the flood gates opened, both of my friends who are 20 and 21 but look to be about 17 started asking me all sorts of stupid questions.
When was the last time you had sex? What have you been eating? Why do we look young and you look so old but we're the same age? I was being bombarded with the stupidest statements, they kept saying that if I got laid more often it would relive the stress and tension that I have inside and my hair could grow. I remember a time before that too where a girl friend said "it's funny to see sexually frustrated guys", referring to my hairloss. Anyway, these dumb asses kept going and I couldn't get through to them that it had nothing to do with sex or diet or stress, I told them it was natural, it was hormonal, and it is genetic. No, they said, I needed to get laid and eat better.
Later on that week my female coworker who I have to work extremely close with asked "Why do you shave your head?". Another stupid question I thought, I figured the reason couldn't be anymore obvious. "You like your head to be bald?" she continued. I just ignored her, I really didn't feel like going into another speech about DHT and genetic hair folicle susceptibility.I feel so stupid when I'm put on the spot because I can either ignore the comments and move the conversation along or I can buckle down for a round of fact vs. myth with people who have no clue what they're talking about.
Why does hair loss have to be so difficult to explain?