When i started to go bald i hated it. I was terrified of it really. I was a good looking guy in my mid 20's and then when i shaved my head thought that was it for girls - i found myself so unattractive. Im skinny, and white too. I spent a year doing everything i could to change it. Got major sides from propecia, no results from minoxidil, and tried lots of other treatments - nothing worked. I spent a year of my life in despair.
Then a few things happened. I realised that the hairloss thing is about victomness. We blame hairloss, not being attractive, on the hair. But really, i already had low self worth, and was blaming the hairloss to stop me taking responsibility for my Life.
Life doesn't work out how we want it. Most people will go through alot of suffering in their lives as they resist what is happening to them. So what do we really want? Happyness. Do people with hair all have happyness? No. Do some people who are bald have happyness? Yes. Ok - theres something really wrong here.
I saw that its not what happens in life, but your reaction/ attitude towards it. Being a man is about taking responsbility for yourself, and looking after others. Ie: Not being a selfish / immature person. What woman would want a immature man anyway? I was a very immature person, not able to 'float the boat' not able to have real self confidence. I blamed the hair but it had been there since i was young - that feeling of not being good enough.
Valuing yourself for your looks or hair is a losing game guys. Its a surefire way to hell.
So i started to like myself without hair. I accepted it and stoped being a victom. if your a victom of hairloss - chances are you'll be a victom about most things. Its a hopeless situation because your whole life is ****ed because of something out of your control. Take the control back, own your life fully - however hard that is. Suffering is in your own reaction to life, that you can change, that you can control. Its just programming, you have to be able to go beyond what your mind is telling you at the moment. Its easy if you want to stop suffering - but impossible if you beleive your own bull****.
My life now is the best its been and i am going out with an amazing looking girl, probably the most gorgeous girl i've ever been out with. More than that she is open kind and a tells me the truth. Yes she would like it if i could grow back my hair, but there are SO many other things she are interested in that the hair almost a non event for her. In fact, she gets really wild during sex with me and my shaved head. I think i look more masculine.
Seriously guys, if your confident, you like yourself, your fun to be with, and your a real male who can take control - you will have a great life with lots of woman in it.
**** the hairloss thing, life is short - Live now - don't become a victom. Victoms live terrible lives.