Everything around is a self-deceit. Efforts are the tool to prolong this self-deceit. Everything becomes worse with time: our health, hair, because everything slowly comes to en end. I have never seen an old guy with thick healthy hair. They all are bald or have bad hair at best. ANd they all have tons of diseases or ilnesses. And we will be the same too with time.
All we have now is the best we will ever have in the future because it all will become worse with time. Sooner or later we will have to accept our fate.
But how to get rid of the suffering? Is it better to go down to the very bottom to feel the relief? I don't know. But it definately feels better there, when you know that there is nothingleft to lose anymore.